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Psychotherapy with Kaykay

My therapy is supportive, non-judgmental, and led by you. BABCP accredited (00001002444)

One of the philosophies that guides my practice is the concept of shared humanity which holds that we are all connected by the shared experience of simply being human. I believe that being cognizant of the reality that all humans share similar experiences and respond to experiences in similar ways allows me to be empathetic, compassionate, and a very human therapist. I like to view therapy as an e

qual partnership between the therapist and client in achieving mutual therapeutic goals. In helping my clients achieve their goals, I employ Cognitive Behavior Therapy while integrating a Compassion Focused approach that allows my clients to stop condemning and blaming themselves allowing them to be freer to progress towards empowerment, taking responsibility, and learning to cope.

21/02/2024

Someone passed me the wrong manual. I’d like to speak to the manager please. 🙋🏻‍♀️

All jokes aside, it gets better once you realize that the manual you were handed wasn’t meant for you.

20/02/2024

Let’s normalize failing in spite of our best efforts! As fallible and imperfect beings, failing is something that is bound to happen. Don’t fight it. Embrace it and allow yourself the freedom to move forward. ❤️

With warmth,
Kaykay 🌸

17/07/2023

I thought it’d be fun to post some relatable ADHD content to my page for a change. 🙂

How many of y’all can relate to that impatience of waiting your turn to speak because you don’t know how long your working memory is going to hold onto the information for?

Or just blurting things out as quickly as possible because you’re afraid of losing what you’ve painstakingly managed to (somewhat) organize in your etch-a-sketch of a brain - to then just getting it not quite right anyways because I mean..it’s not an easy task! But good on you for getting that far!

Or starting off real strong and then losing track of what you wanted to say half way through. 🤣

I always tell people that having ADHD and the blunders that come with it is a constant exercise of self-forgiveness and finding that no matter the blunders, you’re as capable as anyone else in your own way. ☺️💕

19/05/2023

Happy Friday everyone!

Here’s a little Friday aphorism for you!

One of the first things a past supervisor ever said to me was “What we’re aiming for here is good-enough”. This initial bit of priming was followed by consistent reminders that “good enough is good enough”. Not only do I have this message etched in my mind, but I also have it etched on the side of a pen as a parting gift! 😆 So, if it’s not in my head, it’s on the side of a pen if I ever dare to forget. Absolutely sinister! 😆

I didn’t know it then, but the consistent messaging launched me into yet another journey of recalibrating and updating what it means to be “good enough”.

Good enough isn’t about being perfect, being better than, being more than you are or compensating for perceived flaws and weaknesses.

Good enough is you - as you are. Good enough is things as they are. Good enough is people as they are. Good enough is accepting an imperfect reality/self and trusting it.

18/03/2023

A daily practice to try.

Focus on your breathing. Make sure to breathe in a way that feels natural and soothing to you.

If you notice your attention shifting to a thought, a feeling, a body sensation or your mind just going blank - gently bring your attention back to your breath.

After 5-10 minutes, notice what happens to the thise thoughts and feelings.

10/03/2023

Our existential quest - to be worthy of our suffering. 🌸

08/03/2023

Happy women’s day to all women! Due to all the trans-exclusionary narrative out there, I feel the need to emphasize that this includes all our trans sisters out there! We see you, and we embrace you. Happy women’s day!

17/02/2023

Embrace your own fallibility and let failure be proof that you’re trying.

Deep down, no one wants to fail. Failing is never truly done on purpose, and we never have 100% control over the outcome of our efforts.

No one deserves to be punished for something they didn’t intentionally do. In the same way, no one deserves to be punished for outcomes they cannot entirely control.

Punishing failure is like giving someone a really good kicking after they’ve tripped, and expecting them to get up all sore and bruised to say “Thanks mate! That kicking really helped me stop all future falls and get back up on my feet! 👍”. It makes no sense.

All we can do is try. Let failure be proof that you are trying! That despite all the odds that comes with being human, you are trying, learning, and adapting until you get it right.

With warmth,
Kaykay 🌸

13/01/2023

What insightful words that reflect the importance of speaking to another human about the experiences that have made you feel alone, different and unacceptable.

As someone who has worked through her own experiences of shame, there’s nothing more daunting than sharing all the things you feel are ugly and unacceptable about you with another person. But in sharing, we allow another human in, and this human might just show us that we are not as alone or unacceptable as we once thought.

As a therapist, my job is to hold and place a person in an emotional environment that is warm, welcoming, and containing.

My hope is that the person I work with will feel safe enough to take off the baggage they’re holding, hand it to me, take a seat, and let out that great sigh they’ve been holding in.

Contrary to popular belief, my job as a therapist is not to zero in on what’s wrong with a person to fix it. My focus is never on what’s wrong because that would reinforce an already sturdy shame-based point beleif system. So no, we’re not going to do that - not today.

A person’s hardships and experiences inform me not of their failings, but of the failings of their environment and circumstances. Most importantly, they tell me about the person and all that is good, resilient and wonderfully human about them.

Since shame is a very isolating experience, I create safety by accepting a fundamental truth - that as humans, we are capable of as much ugliness as we are capable of goodness. I also make sure that I’m at peace with the ugliness of my own being, so that I can accompany another person through their journey and be ugly alongside them.

I once shared with a client who rigidly saw himself as a cruel monster incapable of feeling kindness that I too, as a teenager, have entertained fantasies of killing a family member, and had enough intent to have gone through with it if pushed far enough. I asked him if he thought of me as a monster as well.

He responded to my ugliness with so much compassion and understanding that I could almost touch it. He saw through the ugliness for what it was - vulnerability, fear, powerlessness and an attempt at self-preservation.

He finally saw the parts he missed in his own story.

Human connection is invaluable in dispelling shame. This allowed us to experience a sense of shared humanity, bring to light to the overshadowed kindness in him, and slowly change his shame-based narrative one story at a time.

So yes! Shame dies (or maybe better yet, transforms) when stories are told in safe places.

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Manchester

Opening Hours

Monday	9am - 5pm
Tuesday	9am - 5pm
Wednesday	9am - 5pm
Thursday	9am - 5pm
Friday	9am - 5pm

Website

http://www.kaykaychung.com/

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