29/06/2026
The “leave it with me” person doesn’t say yes because they want more on their plate.
They say yes because saying no feels like it might cost them something bigger …being seen as unreliable, letting someone down, not being “the one who copes.” It’s a classic people-pleaser move, dressed up as helpfulness.
So the lunch break goes. Then it’s not just at work…
It’s “can you drop me here” with no warning. It’s “have you seen my...” shouted from another room, without anyone actually looking first. It’s one more thing, one more ask, one more “yeah, of course”, until you’re carrying the entire mental load on your own, standing in the kitchen feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, frustrated, and like you could just hide in the cupboard under the stairs and cry.😢
Where did you go?
The emotional and physical cost of carrying on this way is high. Boundaries aren’t selfish, they’re how you stay in the story instead of disappearing from your own life. When you’re ready to end the cycle that’s keeping you last on your own list, use the link in my bio to book a free, no-pressure connection call.