27/08/2026
You are allowed.
How do these words land for you?
How do they make you feel and where, in your body, do you feel them?
For a long time now, I have realised and focus my support in how our animal friends are inviting us, leading us and asking us to awaken our hearts and soften the sorrows that the heart carries from all the hurts, griefs and pain we have experienced - our animal friends are leading us to our soul work in every way.
In so many ways, unconsciously, we place our own sorrows on to our animal friends. One of the deepest sorrows we carry is that we were not allowed.
We were not allowed to fully be who we are and so we place this on our animal friends.
It is almost as if we say, “I was not allowed to fully be me, so you are not allowed to fully be you.”
So, we try and restrict, control, prevent, fix or fit our animal friends in a way we believe they are allowed to be. All the while, this is a message to ourself about where we were not allowed to be fully ourselves and what parts of us were denied, not accepted, not loved.
The thing is - our animal friends don’t care. They are not afraid to fully be themselves and express innocently, truthfully, vulnerably and openly how they feel.
A dog has never stopped and said, “Ohhh…I better not do this in case I offend someone.”
But how many times do we do that?
How many times have we not expressed in a way that felt truly vulnerable, innocent or honest out of fear of offending, being criticised, being dismissed or laughed at?
Our animal friends live fully from the heart. They cannot lie or pretend.
It is this that we deeply long for in ourselves and recognise - to be vulnerable, to be innocent, to express what we truly feel, to share from the heart and to know we will be accepted regardless, rather than approved or receive another hurt.
Our animal friends do not require our approval.
Our animal friends accept themselves fully.
Our animal friends accept us fully for who we are.
What they ask is for us to fully accept ourselves and allow, that you are allowed; that you have always been allowed and to welcome back all parts of you that were denied.
The realisation that parts of who we are have been denied, dismissed, unloved or not recognised and not being allowed to fully accept ourselves can be the underlying deep sorrow that surfaces when our animal friend transitions.
Our animal friends know exactly who they are and are not afraid to express it - they love themselves unconditionally.
When they transition, there is largely an unconscious recognition, pain, hurt, realisation and sorrow that they were the only one that accepted us fully for who we are - they love us without limits or conditions.
Not only are we grieving their transition but, with this, we are also often grieving the sorrow of no longer having this acceptance and unconditional love from another.
The heart longs for us to exist as pure unconditional love, fully vulnerable, fully innocent, fully awakened - just as our animal friends do.
When the heart is fully awakened, we can begin to soften the hurts, sorrows and griefs of the heart.
When our animal friends transition, we are to grieve them, but it does not end there.
Our animal friends are still alive even when they are not in a body - they still exist and continue to love us unconditionally, reminding us to offer this unconditional love to ourselves.
When our animal friends transition, they are pulling us on to a medicine path of soul work guided by our grief.
We have been grieving for a long time, long before our animal friends transition and from the first time we were separated from sacred, from self, from soul; from the first time we were told part of us was not allowed, welcomed, loved or denied.
This is what we long for and what we see so beautifully, innocently, openly and confidently in our animal friends - that they fully allow and accept who they are.
We want that for ourselves. We long for that in ourselves.
But we feel we are not allowed and so we say to our animal friends that they are not allowed.
When they transition this is not an end. They are still with you and continue to give you this unconditional love, but in a way that does not limit you by relying, depending upon or needing this need of acceptance from them. They know that in doing so it keeps you away from the very thing they desire for you - to awaken your heart, soften the sorrows it carries and know you are allowed.
In this way, their transition is more than this. In this way, our grief is more than from their transition. Both are sacred acts that require their own attention, but that we are then to explore further by stepping on to the medicine path of our grief, led by our animal friend and awaken our hearts.
Our animal friends want us to know of our continuous infinite connection to them and relation to the more than human and unseen realms that we are part of that also already accept, love and welcome all that we are.
When they transition, because we already know, love and trust our animal friends they are asking us to trust them in leading us to remembering and knowing what it is like to be in relation again with the more than human and unseen. It is here that we continue our relationship with our animal friend from the unseen and know the they are still with us, still alive just not in a physical body.
This happens with an awakened heart as we begin to soften the sorrows it carries, the hurts, the griefs that our animal friends know we carry and want us to stop hurting; from the very first sorrow of being separated from self, soul and sacred.
Our animal friends have never left this place and, through their transition, they are inviting us back to remember what it is like when we lived in full acceptance and allowance of who we are.
We are to be in grief with their transition.
We are to be in ceremony with their transition and our grief from this as both are sacred.
But, there is something also sacred and much deeper, much greater when their transition comes and our grief from it.
This is the medicine path of their transition and your grief.
They know they are still alive and that their transition is the only way they can lead you back to being in relation with the more than human and unseen, through keeping your connection with them alive when they are out of body by awakening your heart from the griefs it carries and knowing the divine unconditional love you have always been.