Clearmind with Hazel

03/06/2026

Ted needed an operation.

He's not a dog to me. He's my family. And finding that out this week on top of everything else would once have completely floored me.

Sweaty palms. Stomach in knots. Waking up at 3am running through every worst case. Snapping at anyone who came near me. Catastrophising until I'd convinced myself everything was falling apart.

That was me. For years.

This week I got quiet instead. I wrote down what I could actually control. Made a plan. Took one small step and then another. And stayed calm enough to think straight.

Not because life got easier. Because I did the work so that when life gets hard I don't lose myself in it.

Me spiralling changes nothing. Me staying grounded changes everything.

That's not a quote on a wall. That's a Wednesday in my actual life.

If you hold it together on the outside but completely unravel on the inside when things go wrong, that's not a character flaw. It's a pattern. And patterns can change.

Link in bio.💫

02/06/2026

A colleague stopped me in the office today.

Ten years we've worked together. She knows what I do. And completely out of nowhere she just said it.

"You are unrecognisable. You're so calm. You don't look dark anymore. You even stand taller."

No prompt. No conversation leading up to it. Just an honest observation from someone who has watched me for a decade.

And I cried. Because I know exactly who she's talking about.

The version of me who was running on empty and calling it ambition. Who looked composed in every room and was completely somewhere else in all of them. Who kept going because stopping felt like failing.

That woman worked so hard. She did everything right. And she was exhausted right down to her bones.

This is not about becoming a different person. It's about finally becoming yourself. Without the noise. Without the patterns. Without the weight of things you've been carrying since you were young enough to not even realise you picked them up.

That shift is real. It's visible. And it's not just for me.

If you are reading this and something just shifted, thats your sign.Link in bio.

31/05/2026

I won VIP guest ticket for with .am.katy.schweiger -The old me had a whole list of reasons not to go.

Too far. Can't afford it. What's the point. Who are you to be in a room like that?

But I went.

I wore a red suit. I'm 6ft1. I was not blending in.

And instead of hiding, I walked across that room and introduced myself. Over and over. Asked about people. Showed up like I belonged there - because I do.

The theme of the day was fueling fear. Whose voice is playing on repeat in your head telling you that you can't, you shouldn't, you don't deserve it?

That voice isn't yours. It never was.

There was even cans of water from the exact town I live in sitting on the bar when I arrived. I don't believe in coincidences anymore.

5 months of this year are already gone. Sunday night, kids back to school tomorrow, and I'm sitting here thinking - how many more months are you going to let that voice decide what you do?

I'm building something for women who are done letting fear run the show. A community. A proper one. Starting with my WhatsApp group - Out of Your Head link in bio.

What's the one thing fear has been keeping you from? Tell me below 👇

29/05/2026

Something exciting is happening and I genuinely can't wait to tell you about it.

I'm going to be part of WOW - Women's Only Wellness Festival - and my workshop is on the bill Saturday and Sunday!

Taking place on the 27th and 28th June in Northallerton, WOW brings together over 100 workshops all focused on women's wellbeing. Two full days of learning, connection, and actually putting yourself first for once.

And I'll be there with my workshop - Still Standing, Barely Breathing: From Drained to Done Differently.

It's for you if you're the one who holds everything together, keeps going no matter what, and quietly wonders why you still feel so empty at the end of the day.

We're going to talk about why feeling drained isn't a time management problem. And what it actually takes to change it.

Ticket link is in my story and in the comments below. Come and find me there — I'd love to see you in the room.

29/05/2026

There’s usually a pattern.

Not just a busy week or a couple of bad nights sleep…
but how long you’ve been pushing through,
ignoring what you feel,
telling yourself to just get on with it.

It builds up.

And at some point it starts showing up like this.
That’s why “just rest” never really touches it.
Because it’s not getting to what’s actually driving the burnout.

If this feels like you… I see you.

Book a call if you’re ready to get to the root of it, not just keep managing the symptoms.

Link in bio.

28/05/2026

We’ve all heard it…

“Just rest”
“Take a break”
“Go away for the weekend”

And yeah… it helps for a minute.

You switch off.
You breathe a bit.
You feel like yourself again.

But then you’re back…
and somehow it creeps in quicker than before.

Same pressure.
Same habits.
Same constant feeling of needing to keep going.

And you start thinking…
“Why didn’t that work?”

It’s not because you didn’t rest properly.

It’s because burnout isn’t just about being tired.
It’s the way you’ve learnt to operate.

The pushing through.
The overthinking.
The not being able to switch off even when you try.

So you can take all the breaks in the world…
but if nothing underneath it shifts,
you’ll keep ending up back in the same place.

There is a different way of doing this.

Most people just never get shown it.
If you’re tired of going round in circles,
you can book a call with me.

No pressure… just a proper conversation about what’s actually going on for you.

28/05/2026

Please give these lasses a listen and follow. Highly recommend Becoming Lucy 🎤 xx

We’ve been quietly working behind the scenes… 💛

But also practising what we preach a little — making memories, living life properly, taking the breaks when we need them and coming back with fresh perspective and even more stories to tell.

New guests. New conversations. New stories that will stay with you long after the episode ends.

Becoming Lucy returns for Season 4 on June 16th 🎙️

Thank you for being here through every season so far — we genuinely can’t wait for what’s coming next.

Love,
Lucy & Hana x

27/05/2026

When did you last do something just for you?

Not because someone needed you. Not because it was on a to-do list. Just for you.

A few years ago someone asked me what my hobbies were. What made me happy. I had nothing. Genuinely nothing. Because most of my life I'd been doing what other people wanted or what I thought I should be doing. I didn't really know who I was outside of that.

So I started trying things. Painting was one of them.
And here's what I love about it - you start with a blank canvas, make a mess, it looks completely wrong, and every part of you wants to give up. Then somehow it comes together.

That's not just painting. That's every scary thing worth doing.

It's also 2 hours where you cannot be running after the kids, answering emails, or jumping into the latest drama.
Just you and a paintbrush. That alone is worth it.

I threw two of my paintings away over the years. Thought they were rubbish. Looking back they were actually really good. I hope whoever has them sees something in them I couldn't see in myself yet.

If you're telling yourself you don't have time, or you've lost track of who you even are outside of everything you carry - you don't need to have it all figured out. You just need to start somewhere.

Even if it looks a mess at first. 🎨

Save this if you needed the reminder.

Hazel 💫 x