Clear Water Therapy

28/10/2026

‘This is the truth: your life will be imperfect.

The people around you will be maddening. Worry will always be an option. The events of your life will sometimes be confusing, sometimes unfair, sometimes more painful than you think you can stomach. This is what it is to be human.

Look around you. People have lost and they still dance, people have been broken and recovered, people have overcame circumstances so devastating nobody thought they'd ever make it.

Your life is not going to be defined by what went your way, it's going to be defined by what you did when it didn't.’

brianna wiest

27/10/2026

It doesn’t show up as a usual memory but instead as a feeling, a sensation, a response in the body.

Trauma is what happens within you as a result of a unique individual experience which overwhlems your ability to cope. It becomes complex when this repeats over a period of time.

Many people might not even realise they are carrying trauma.

Sometimes people might answer a question with "it was good, normal, I can't really remember" this is typical in complex interpersonal trauma - trauma that derived from childhood and relationships.

Trauma responses can look like...

Craving control
Agreeing to things to keep the peace/people pleasing
Feeling on guard all the time
Seeking constant escapism
Feeling responsible for others happiness
Saying yes because your afraid of loosing security
Chronic feelings of loneliness
Giving into reckless impulses
Being sensitive to others energy (sometimes referred to as being an empath)
Suspicion and lacking trust for others motives and the world around you, testing people
Chronic independence
Difficulty committing, being vulnerable or maintaining relationships
Feeling empty, or that you wear a mask to say and behave in the way you think others expect even though this may not reflect how you feel
Not belonging
Dissappearing when emotions feel too much and reappearing when you have them packed away
...it’s important to remember that we are all different.

We all experience things in different ways and your responses can change over time. Beginning to recognise patterns can help you to heal.

Trauma doesn't define you.
Your mistakes don't define you.
Your regrets don't define you.
You are not your patterns.
How someone treats you, doesn't define you.
You are so much more than trauma and you deserve to take up space and to be loved especially in your messy moments.

It takes great strength to feel and acknowledge your emotions. To face and challenge the reality of your thoughts, to make changes that will help you to grow, to love deeper, to be vulnerable, to show up authentically in your relationships.

Trauma doesn’t mean weakness. You are and were never broken.

Sending love ❤️ and a classy picture that AI made extra 😜

27/10/2026

When someone doesn't feel heard they can feel unseen, unimportant. Other people's needs become the priority and you can be left feeling that your needs matter less. That you don't matter.

The feeling of being dismissed can create feelings and sensations of abandonment and rejection. If this is a wound from growing up in an environment where you felt too much or too little, where love was conditional or where there was no space for your experience, then this can feel very physical. Your body responds and the bigger the reaction the bigger the original wound.

When you find another human connection that is safe, that is reciprocal you start to feel heard. Over time, the consistency of someone being present with you begins to heal you.

We don't heal alone.

For many people this starts in a therapeutic process.

24/10/2026

You are so much more.

Complex, layered, detailed in every aspect of yourself.

How well do you know who and what you are.
How often do you get hung up on the cover, introduction and critique.

23/10/2026

7 years ago and I had no idea how amazing it would turn out.

The thing is you have to be prepared to sit in the mess, you need to survive the darkest days.

Good doesn't exist without bad, the dark is what makes the stars shine bright. Amazing is nothing if we have never endured.

So if life feels dark right now, remember it won't last forever.

H A P P Y • W E D N E S D A Y.
Do you ever feel like your on the brink of something amazing? I’ve been sensing my Next Chapter for quite some time now and I am so excited!
Seen my blog yet? The first entry is on this topic, check it out 👇🏼.
https://www.clearwatertherapy.uk/blog

22/10/2026

While PTSD creates patterns of re-experiencing, avoidance and hyper reactivity. Developing from a single event that results in the nervous system staying stuck in survival.

C-PTSD develops when a person is subjected to chronic, repetitive trauma, especially in situations where escape is difficult or impossible. Because the trauma is ongoing, it alters a person's core sense of self and their ability to navigate the world. This can then lead to the person having difficulties organising emotions, persistent feelings of shame or feeling 'broken'. And chronic interpersonal difficulties: forming and maintaining healthy connections.

Trauma overwhelms your bodies ability to cope and disconnects you from yourself and the world around you. But it doesn't have to. Recovery is possible.

18/10/2026

Sometimes you can be intentional and choose to take the pause.

The other things that need attention will still be there. Taking a small amount of time to slow down can help your system to reset. It allows space for your parasympathetic nervous system to regulate. This helps your thinking brain to reboot.

When there is pressure, the to do list feels overwhelming, there is something else in your life that needs your attention, it becomes easy to get stuck in the stress response. After a while your baseline for stress increases and overtime your body will turn symptomatic and burn out.

The memory is impacted, can't remember what you were looking for, forget the word you need, miss things that are important.

Inability to concentrate, pay attention to everyday conversations, tv shows, reading. Suddenly your making little mistakes, what feels like all the time and your short with the people you love.

Inflammation increases, more pain, flare ups of autoimmune conditions, skin, digestion.

Sleep. Can't sleep, sleeping more and lethargic or the opposite so fidgety it feels hard to be still.

When your mind is noisy and running a million miles per hour its using up vital energy for other things.

Sometimes you have to be intentional. Sometimes you need to take the pause. To stop, take a breath, observe and practise slowing down.

It will all still be there, you can pick it back up.

So here I am.

People think because I'm a therapist I must have it all worked out but the truth is I am human first.

Today I just created space for myself. Not because I have no where else to be or nothing else to do but because recently it's felt like I have so many places to be and so much to do. So here I am taking my own advice.

And now, I get up and continue.

5 minutes won't change anything big but it will help your body to regulate and you to feel better.

17/10/2026

As a wounded child you didn't stop loving your parents you stopped loving yourself.

Learning to come back to yourself, to stop neglecting yourself, to no longer abandon yourself is one of the most challenging and rewarding parts of the journey.

Patterns keep you stuck. You deserve love, comfort and safety.

14/10/2026

It’s not what the lips are saying, it’s not even what the mind is thinking. What are the feet doing? If they’re not moving that’s why you’re stuck.

This always stays with me.

What are the feet doing?
I find myself quietly reflecting of late….

Looking at my choices and the impact these have on my emotional wellbeing and the way I’m able to show up for myself and others. Thinking about my circumstances and experiences and how they to play a role in where I am and how ultimately responsibility lies within myself for how I move forward in my life.

Someone said to me once that there isn’t any point listening to what a mouth is saying, or paying much attention to where the thoughts are at. The big question is - what are the feet doing?

We can spend hours, days, weeks, even years agonising over things, trying to find solutions or simply avoiding what we know we must do. But really this is all worthless, a distraction, a denial and a nothingness that helps us miss time on our journey and keeps us stuck.

It’s your feet that move you forward every time, on the journey that we call life.

As I look back over the last two plus decades I remember being in such a rush to get to life, not really realising that I was already there; for life is what we create and not something that happens to us.

It is in all that we experience, in the very moment we are in right now and all the moments in between. In the ordinary, the extraordinary and the mundane. It isn’t waiting, it won’t start when…

Life is a journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved, its only certainty is that nothing is permanent and this too shall pass.