Together-A-Part

01/10/2026

October is Domestic Abuse Awareness Month.

When children experience domestic abuse, they are victims in their own right — not simply witnesses to what happens between adults.

There has been important progress in recognising this in law and policy. But for children living in care, the reality can be incredibly complex, particularly when they continue to have contact with the parent who caused harm.

Children may feel love, loyalty, fear, responsibility and confusion all at once. Their visits may trigger behaviours rooted in survival and safety:

• Hypervigilance

• Controlling or avoidant behaviour

• Emotional shutdown

• Difficulty trusting adults

• Distress before or after contact

• Taking responsibility for the feelings of others

• Appearing “challenging”, withdrawn or dysregulated

These behaviours can be overlooked, misdiagnosed or treated in the same way as neglect or abuse, without understanding what they are communicating.

A child’s behaviour is often an adaptation to what they have experienced. It needs curiosity, context and a trauma-informed response — not judgement.

Domestic abuse requires specialist, domestic-abuse-informed support. This is especially important when adults are caring for children who remain connected to the person who harmed them.

Through Together-A-Part, I provide support and training for adults caring for children who have experienced domestic abuse — helping them understand the impact, recognise safety behaviours and respond in ways that promote safety, connection and recovery.

Children in care deserve to be understood as victims in their own right, every day — not only in legislation, but in the decisions, relationships and support that shape their lives.

30/09/2026

Today I had the pleasure of attending the NCT Fostering Friendly event at Moulton Community Centre

It was inspiring to meet people who are passionate about supporting children and young people, and to celebrate the incredible difference foster carers make every day. Their patience, compassion, resilience and commitment can help create safety, stability and hope during some of the most challenging times in a child’s life.

Foster carers provide so much more than a home — they offer connection, understanding and the opportunity for children to heal and thrive.

It was also a privilege to share a little about Together-A-Part and how therapeutic parenting support, training and reflective practice can help foster and adoptive parents feel more confident and supported in their role.

A wonderful event, and a valuable reminder of how much can be achieved when we work together. 💛

22/09/2026

Navigating SEND (Special Educational Needs and Disabilities) or trauma with your child can feel overwhelming, isolating, and utterly exhausting.

You love your child fiercely, but standard advice often doesn’t fit your reality. You’re left wondering if you’re doing enough, doing it right, or if things will ever feel calmer at home.

I work 1-to-1 with parents who are ready to move past survival mode and create real, lasting change for their family.

Through tailored coaching, we’ll work together to:
✅Understand the root cause behind challenging behaviors and emotional regulation needs.
✅Build practical strategies that work specifically for your child’s unique processing and trauma history.
✅Advocate with confidence in educational and support settings without feeling dismissed.
✅Restore balance and connection at home so you can stop feeling like you're constantly fighting fires.

Your child’s journey doesn't have to be a battle you fight alone. Small, intentional shifts in how we support them can completely transform their long-term outcomes—and give you back your peace of mind.

If you’re ready to invest in personalized, 1-to-1 coaching to support your child's growth, drop me a DM or drop the word "SUPPORT" in the chat below

We’ll have a confidential chat about where you’re currently at, what your family needs, and how we can work together to help your child thrive.

Learn more about my approach at www.together-a-part.co.uk

28/08/2026

If everyone pulls their children out of school because schools are responding to absence with punitive measures (FPNs and criminal records), we risk breaking the whole system — and with it our children’s future.

Without a functioning formal education system we face:

• Fewer job opportunities in a country already suffering high unemployment.

• Parents forced to stay home and lose work because their children are not in school.

• A generation less prepared to contribute to a productive, stable society.

The system must wake up: punitive responses to absence only push families away. If we want a productive society now — and for future generations — we need fair, practical solutions that keep children in school and support parents, not punish them.

share your thoughts below; how would you call for sensible reforms: education should be about support and opportunity, not criminalisation.

28/08/2026

🚨 LET’S TALK ABOUT SCHOOL ABSENCE FINES: Is the system completely broken? 🚨

I've been looking into the official Department for Education numbers, and the reality is startling.

Remember back when headteachers had the common-sense discretion to allow parents up to 10 days of authorised term-time leave? The government axed that in 2013 and eventually brought in strict, mandatory £80 to £160 fines. We were told zero-tolerance would fix school attendance.

But look at what the actual statistics show:

📉 The "10-Day Discretion" Era(Pre-2013):

Overall absence was around 5.1% – 5.3%.

Persistent absence (kids missing 10%+ of school) was low, at just 5.2% – 6.1%.

📈 The Strict Post-Pandemic Era (Now):

Overall absence has jumped to 6.3% – 6.8%.

Persistent absence has nearly doubled, sitting at a massive 18% – 19%.

Think about that for a second. We now have the strictest, most punitive system of fines and court threats in history, yet school absences have skyrocketed to record highs.

Fines are clearly not working.

🤯 And here is the kicker...Since the pandemic, a massive wave of families have chosen to completely leave the system for Elective Home Education (EHE). Tens of thousands of children have been removed from school rolls entirely.

Logic dictates that with so many children out of the system, the remaining school register numbers should be easier to manage.

Yet, despite a smaller pool of children, the percentage of school absences has still gone up.

This proves that the system isn’t catching the kids who are slipping through the cracks.

Instead, it is treating stable, loving families who want to take a family holiday—or families struggling with school anxiety and undiagnosed neurodivergence—like criminals.

Criminal charges and heavy fines cost taxpayers huge amounts of money, damage a parent's future job prospects, and don't actually support children to learn.

Surely we need to ditch the fines and start supporting families instead?

What do you think? 👇Did you prefer the old system where headteachers could use common sense? Do you think fines are a fair deterrent, or is it time for a completely different approach? Let’s talk in the comments!

29/06/2026

Do you have a child who absolutely adores anything pony-related and wants to know more?
Check out this new book on Amazon: World of Ponies by K.D Rose. Packed full of interesting facts, information and fantastic images that will keep your pony-mad child entertained for hours.

Follow K D Rose and explore their bibliography from Amazon's K D Rose Author Page.

18/06/2026

There is nothing more rewarding than seeing the real-world impact of therapeutic parenting. 💙

We are incredibly moved by the feedback we’ve received recently from foster carers and adoptive parents in our community. From celebrating a full week of hard-earned sleep to finding new, long-term ways to support children navigating trauma—these milestones belong entirely to the amazing parents and carers doing the work every single day.

It is an absolute privilege to walk alongside you, offer a listening ear without judgment, and provide the practical tools you need to thrive.
Thank you to everyone who trusts us to be a part of your family’s journey. Your dedication is changing futures. ✨

👉 If you are looking for tailored support, an eye-opening workshop, or just a safe space to talk through your situation, we are here for you. Discover how we can support your family or book a free discovery call at: https://www.together-a-part.co.uk/

18/06/2026

There is nothing more rewarding than seeing the real-world impact of therapeutic parenting. 💙

We are incredibly moved by the feedback we’ve received recently from foster carers and adoptive parents in our community. From celebrating a full week of hard-earned sleep to finding new, long-term ways to support children navigating trauma—these milestones belong entirely to the amazing parents and carers doing the work every single day.

It is an absolute privilege to walk alongside you, offer a listening ear without judgment, and provide the practical tools you need to thrive.
Thank you to everyone who trusts us to be a part of your family’s journey. Your dedication is changing futures. ✨

👉 If you are looking for tailored support, an eye-opening workshop, or just a safe space to talk through your situation, we are here for you. Discover how we can support your family or book a free discovery call at: https://www.together-a-part.co.uk/

16/06/2026

Have you ever looked at your child’s behaviour and wondered, "Where is this coming from?" 🤔
Whether you are navigating sudden outbursts, rigid controlling behaviours, desperate people-pleasing, or moments where your child withdraws into shame—it can feel incredibly overwhelming to know how to respond.

But what if these behaviours aren't your child simply 'acting out', but rather their internal world acting as a shield? 🛡️

At Together-A-Part, we help caregivers look at behaviour through a different lens. Beneath the tough defensive exterior, the need to control the environment, or the urge to over-comply, there is often a scared, hurting, or traumatised 'part' that is just working overtime to keep your child safe

Together we will:
🔍 Identify the Behaviours: Recognise the 'Controller', the 'Pleaser', the 'Defender', and the 'Ashamed' parts for what they are—survival strategies.

🗣️ Name to Understand: Help your child gently label these parts without shame.

💛 Send Messages of Safety: Approach with curiosity, not judgement, to let their nervous system know the danger has passed.

The ultimate goal of therapeutic parenting isn't to punish the protector, but to soothe it—helping your child realign their internal world and safely reconnect with their calm, curious, and compassionate Authentic Self. ✨

You don't have to navigate this complex journey alone.

Ready to find a pathway to re-alignment for your family?
Let’s discuss how we can support you. Book your FREE 30-minute call with us today. 👇
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