03/11/2026
𝗔𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝗿𝗴𝘂𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁.
It can be tempting to say nothing until you explode, or to ask in a way that comes out as blame. Neither feels good.
The trick is to talk about your nervous system, not their behaviour. A few examples:
"I'm finding it hard to regulate right now. I'm going to step out for a few minutes."
"Would you mind if we put some music on? It really helps me."
"It's not you, it's my misophonia. Can I sit at the end?"
Notice what these have in common. They're calm, short and they take ownership. Nobody is being accused of anything.
It won't always go perfectly. But clear, kind boundaries protect your relationships far better than silent suffering followed by an explosion.