The Happy Home Coach

17/08/2026

Autistic burnout is more than just feeling a little tired. It may also co-exist with depression or be mistaken for depression, which can make it harder to recognise and get the right support.

It often also shows the hidden cost of coping in environments that don’t meet autistic people’s needs.

If you're a parent, partner, carer or professional, it can be worrying and confusing when you can't understand what may be going on for an autistic person you support. It may look as though nothing has changed in their life. There may have been no major life event and no obvious reason why they are finding it harder to cope.

Autistic burnout may be one reason for persistent or increasing difficulties in everyday life. Burnout isn’t a behaviour problem to fix. It’s a sign that demands have exceeded capacity - and the most helpful response is more understanding, fewer demands, safer environments, and gentler support.

Read our autism advocate and consultant Helen Edgar’s blog to learn more about autistic burnout and why recovery starts with meeting autistic people’s needs. https://orlo.uk/ImmMy

NHS England Workforce, Training and Education

11/08/2026

A wonderful charity with so many lovely people involved who do so much good work 🥰

If you’re near Bourne pop in for a cuppa ☕️ or you can support from afar 🫶🏼

11/08/2026

Sharing this to reinforce how language can change your perspective & reinforce positives that can be nurtured & built on.

I see lots of change in clients when they start to understand that the language they automatically use creates a negative feeling about themselves or their situation.

Often just a change in language in its own can be the biggest change to the brain functioning to show you more positive outcomes.

Your brain always wants to complete what you tell it, it will look for ways to show you that what you say is true.

Let’s take general greetings that happen daily. Notice…when you are asked how are you?
When you say “not too bad thanks” which is a very common response.

Which word does your brain zoom in on? I’m going to guess it’s likely the word bad. Your brain then goes on to find & show you all the evidence it can to prove it’s bad.

Answer it “I’m pretty good thanks” or “I’m getting there thanks” where does your brain go now? 💁🏻‍♀️

A very tiny change with a potentially big impact given you probably answer that question a lot.

This is not about not connecting to how you are feeling. You’re not ignoring that you may be feeling abit sh*te! “Getting there” still acknowledges you’re not feeling 100%.

As said, the above conversation is all superficial language, it’s general greetings, we are not talking about in depth “tell me how you feel” deep convos. Those are also important but they are then unpacked through deeper convos & hopefully after moving through the emotions felt with the words, a natural lift & reframe happens to move into daily life convos.

My Calm Foundations workshops talk about this whilst teaching you skills for daily calm & my Mindful Me programme goes into depth alongside more of other topics that help create more calm, confidence & reduced stress.

Drop me a DM or pop a 🧘 below 👇 to find out more.

Great change of perspective!

10/08/2026

Useful info to aid understanding 🫶🏼
A balance of love & limits 🥰

Parenting isn’t about being perfect. It’s about finding the balance between love and limits.

Children need warmth: to feel heard, safe, valued and connected. They also need clear boundaries: routines, guidance and consistent expectations that help them understand the world around them.

Too much control without connection can leave a child feeling unheard. Lots of love without clear limits can make boundaries confusing. And when both warmth and guidance are missing, children may feel unsupported.

The goal isn’t strict parenting or “easy” parenting. It’s being present, listening, setting fair boundaries and showing children that rules can exist alongside kindness.

Every parent has difficult days. What matters is the pattern we build over time: connection, consistency and care.

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06/08/2026

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05/08/2026

How do you start to find your authenticity?

You start with doing. Actions however messy help you to discover what is authentic for you. Doing is the key to working out what you like, dislike, want, don’t want etc.

Action also breeds motivation, not the other way around.

You start to become aware of what drives you, what values you hold, & who you are…then you can advocate for what you need, want, desire, to live & function feeling supported 🫶🏼

One of the things that I loved about NLP training was delving into what makes me me with values & working out what they were & why. I believe all children should be taught this! …But I can’t teach all children…& that is not defeatist, it’s realism….what I can do is start to spread the learning to teach as many children as possible. So those conversations happen that help them discover themselves.

This is why when you work with me you will learn about your values so that you can pass them on to the children in your life to support them being their authentic self in the future to be successful adults 🧡

If you want to learn more and be in my next group of Mindful Me, drop a MINDFUL 🧘 below or DM me.

We start the last week of August. Investment in yourself & children is £449 with an early bird offer for enquiries before 15th Aug!

If the investment is above your level right now, you can book in for Calm Foundations which can be single sessions of £45 or purchased in packages 🧡 drop a CALM 😊 below or DM to book in.

Authenticity isn’t just the polished, confident parts of who we are. 💜

It’s speaking your truth and sharing your story — but it’s also changing your mind, showing emotion, making mistakes, feeling vulnerable, and choosing what feels right for you.

Sometimes authenticity looks bold. Sometimes it looks messy. Sometimes it simply looks like showing up when you’re not quite sure yet.

There’s no perfect way to be yourself. ✨

💭 What does authenticity look like for you right now?

03/08/2026

This! 👇👇👇 sensing danger can be an automatic response, often with no active thought process behind it…your body learns what it needs to do based on experiences & what it senses right now. The filtering process that causes the behaviour happens in a split second.

If you want to understand your own responses & learn to calm your nervous system so you can respond rather than react, drop me a DM 🧡

Sometimes a child isn’t “overreacting.”
A teenager isn’t “being difficult.”
An adult isn’t “too sensitive.”

Sometimes their nervous system has already decided: “I don’t feel safe.”

That split-second scan is called neuroception — the body’s automatic way of noticing safety, danger, or uncertainty before the thinking brain has caught up.

It listens for things like tone of voice, facial expressions, body language, sudden changes, confusion, tension, predictability, and the general “feel” of a place.

A kind voice can be a safety cue.
A calm face can be a safety cue.
A predictable routine can be a safety cue.

But shouting, harsh tone, angry expressions, sudden movement, or uncertainty can feel like danger cues — especially for someone who has experienced stress, trauma, or repeated overwhelm.

And when the body senses danger, it may move into fight, flight, or freeze.

Not because someone is choosing to be dramatic.
Not because they are trying to cause problems.
But because their nervous system is trying to protect them.

This is why calm voices matter.
This is why gentle body language matters.
This is why clear explanations matter.
This is why safe, supportive relationships matter.

Regulation often starts with helping the body feel safe enough to listen, learn, connect, and cope.

Before we ask, “What’s wrong with this behaviour?”
Maybe we can ask, “What is this nervous system noticing right now?”

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30/07/2026

The imprints you leave behind can be life changing 🫶🏼

19/07/2026

🫶🏼 Happy Sunday being present in whatever you are doing today 🧡