Rhian Kivits

23/06/2026

Happy to have been featured as an expert in this Stylist piece on s*xual wellness myths:

https://www.stylist.co.uk/fitness-health/wellbeing/s*xual-wellness-myths/1004916

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A s*x therapist talks us through five of the most pervasive s*xual wellness myths and sets the record straight.

03/06/2026

Very pleased to have been featured as an expert in this BBC article about relationships.

Enjoy! 🌞

Ever wondered what keeps a relationship thriving year after year? The answer might be letting go of certain habits that quietly undermine your connection...

19/05/2026

In my thousands of hours experience helping betrayed partners and couples with the impact of s*xual betrayal, I watched the same pattern repeat.

Women would arrive having tried everything.

Supporting his recovery. Researching his behaviour. Seeking couple therapy. Yet still feeling completely stuck.

The reason was always the same. Almost no support was built around the woman who was betrayed.

Her recovery, her trauma and her healing were consistently treated as the afterthought in her own experience.

The Betrayal Prescription exists to close that gap.

If you discovered your partner’s serial cheating, internet misuse or other problematic s*xual behaviour, and you’re struggling to move forward, sign up for your free Survival Mode Checklist on my page.

This can help whether you decide to stay or go. You deserve to heal.

Rhian xo 🦋

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06/05/2026

S*xual betrayal trauma is not just ‘relationship pain’ or a ‘hiccup’ in your marriage.

For many women it’s a profound rupture in safety, trust, reality, identity and intimacy.

And when that pain is minimised by the people and society around you, the trauma becomes even heavier and more confusing.

I believe that you deserve support that recognises the depth of what you have been through.

Rhian xo 🦋

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03/05/2026

When I ask my clients what the loneliest part of s*xual betrayal is, I hear this all the time.

It’s not just the betrayal. It’s how impossible it is to talk about it.

There’s so much shame. So much fear of exposure. So much fear of judgement.

The silence can easily turn into isolation.

If this resonates, it’s not that there is something wrong with you. Please know that this is a ‘normal’ part of the experience.

S*xual betrayal trauma is real. It has a very real impact.

If you’re trying to make sense of all this, I’ve created a checklist to help you understand it more clearly.

Find it via my bio.

And this space is here for you.

Rhian xo 🦋

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01/04/2026

Made For Mums asked for my expert opinion on the topic of 'mismatched libidos'. 🔥

In my experience, what can be perceived as a mismatch can often be traced back to other factors, like poor intimate communication or a lack of emotional connection and pleasure.

You can read the article here:

05/03/2026

I've lost count of the number of times I've had to explain this to unfaithful partners.

What she doesn't know DOES hurt her.

It hurts more than you can imagine.

The real damage is evident when she looks back and no longer knows what was real and true.

Every memory, every special occasion and even an ordinary day feels tainted when she looks through the lens of your betrayal.

So stop minimising the harm by directing her back to your 'happy marriage'.

Happiness built on deception is not informed consent.

Be accountable for keeping her in a reality that was not of her choosing.

And start recognising the traumatic impact of your choices.

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03/03/2026

As a specialist therapist, I hear this again and again in s*xual betrayal cases, and it gets me every time...

“I thought we were happy. Not perfect. Not without stress. But we felt stable, solid and safe.”

Then the betrayal is exposed. And suddenly the life you treasured feels like a complete lie.

Memories don’t make sense. Conversations are replayed. Nothing feels real any more.

And then the shame creeps in.

“Why didn’t I see it?”
“I must have been so stupid.”

BUT you were not stupid and there are two important reasons why.

1 | Betrayal Blindness: a survival mechanism that protects you by softening or filtering the signs.

2 | Compartmentalisation and deception: cheating partners become experts at living their double life.

If it feels like your reality has collapsed, please know this is totally understandable after s*xual betrayal.

You’re not over-reacting or ‘just upset’. This is relational trauma and you deserve to receive the right support.

Rhian xo 🦋

PS. Get your free trauma checklist from the link below. Understanding how the betrayal has affected you is a vital first step.

https://go.betrayalprescription.com/freebie