New Frame Therapy

New Frame Therapy Virtual 1:1 Psychotherapy, Coaching and Couples Therapy with a focus on emotional wellbeing and relationships.
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07/05/2026

Avoidant attachment in women often stems from not having enough emotional support in childhood.

It means you’ve had to figure things out on your own.

It was being an adult and being made to be independent before you were ready.

While there are good traits that come with this, it can mean lacking in other areas.

The good is that you’re able to problem solve. You’re self sufficient. You don’t rely on others to get things done.

The not so good, you find it hard to connect in relationships.

You don’t recognise when you need to ask for help until it’s too late.

You avoid intimacy and connection because it feels uncomfortable.

Relationships can be superficial and lack depth, which leads to loneliness and isolation.

It’s often why you struggle with intimacy and connection in relationships.

If you’re looking for a trauma informed attachment therapy for women in the UK and EU, I’m currently accepting clients.
All info is on my page or send me a DM to find out more.
Lizandra x

All therapists are not created equal.And I don’t say that lightly.Because therapy can be put on this pedestal like it au...
29/04/2026

All therapists are not created equal.

And I don’t say that lightly.

Because therapy can be put on this pedestal like it automatically means a safe space.

There can be an assumption that therapists are objectively ethical and automatically operate from integrity.

But therapists are still people. With biases and blind spots. An ego and unresolved stuff they haven’t looked at properly.

Some do incredible, life changing work.
Some… shouldn’t be in the room with clients.

That’s the uncomfortable truth.

There’s a quiet pressure to trust the title. To assume that because someone is trained, they’re safe.

But trust isn’t something you hand over in the first session because of a qualification.

It’s something that gets built. Slowly and consistently. That trust has to be earned through how someone shows up with you.

You’re allowed to pay attention to how you feel in their presence.
You’re allowed to question things that don’t sit right.
You’re allowed to leave if something feels off.

That doesn’t make you untrusting or suspicious of people. It makes you discerning.

A good therapist won’t expect blind trust.

They’ll understand that trust, especially if you’ve been through things, is something that needs to be earned. Not assumed.

And if we’re being real… the right therapeutic relationship should feel like a place where you can think for yourself more, not less.

As a Therapist there’s lots of things I do agree with. Therapy that is safe and trauma informed. What I don’t agree with...
17/04/2026

As a Therapist there’s lots of things I do agree with. Therapy that is safe and trauma informed.

What I don’t agree with is normalising harmful behaviours in relationships just because I understand the root cause.

It’s a big reason why I’m very selective about working with couples.

Ignoring signs of patriarchy, prejudice, capitalism and bigotry when it shows up in therapy.

You won’t see me relating trauma to mindset issues and trying harder when the core issue is safety and nervous system regulation.

Therapists who don’t go to therapy to work on their own issues scare me 😱

I’m Lizandra, a psychotherapist who sees the importance of nuance and critical thinking and practicing trauma informed therapy.
Follow along if that’s of interest to you 💞

10/03/2026

Being self aware doesn’t always mean healing.

What it can mean is that you’re great at talking about how you feel, while bypassing feeling your feelings.

It’s a way you can skip the emotional labour by keeping things surface level and avoiding feeling anything too deeply. Especially when it’s hurts or makes you feel vulnerable.

Self awareness isn’t a bad thing but intellectualising your feelings has it’s limitations.

It means you never really process your emotions. You just talk your way through them.

That keeps you stuck in your head and disconnected from your body.

Being very self aware but knowing what to do next is quite a combination.
Let me know if you relate ✨

26/02/2026

Your Mother Wound could be ruining your friendships.

When a child grows up with a mother who is dismissive and invalidating, it can make that child find adaptive ways to receive love and acceptance.

This is often where people pleasing and perfectionism become ways of feeling seen.

It can lead to patterns of over giving in friendships and always being in the position of the giver.

It can mean relationships feel like there is always underlying conflict or distance because you never feel safe.

It’s a relational pattern being repeated.


You don’t need a course, a gadget, or the “latest program” to regulate your nervous system.It starts with the everyday b...
18/02/2026

You don’t need a course, a gadget, or the “latest program” to regulate your nervous system.

It starts with the everyday basics: noticing when your body needs rest, moving when it asks, and tuning into small safety cues around you.

Regulation is about consistency, not complexity. Start simple. Keep doing it. That’s enough.

❤️Save this post as a reminder of your safety cues for simple nervous system regulation

The essence of therapy is holding more than one truth at the same time.You can be capable and still overwhelmed.You can ...
13/02/2026

The essence of therapy is holding more than one truth at the same time.

You can be capable and still overwhelmed.

You can understand yourself and still get reactive.

You can be kind and still need firmer boundaries.

Most people I work with aren’t confused about their lives.

They’ve already done the thinking.

What’s harder is letting the body catch up with what the mind already knows.

Therapy is learning how to stay with all parts of you, especially the bits you usually rush past.

That’s where things actually start to move.

I’m currently accepting new and returning clients in March for 1:1 therapy for a hybrid of online and in-person therapy in St. Albans.

Send me a DM with the word THERAPY to learn more or book your initial consultation via the link in bio.

10/02/2026

The healing journey can feel lonely and isolating.

That’s usually because you’re letting go of the people and things that no longer fit.

You don’t have to become so self focused that you forget that we are relational by nature.

It’s about finding different ways to be in connection.

I’m not the therapist for everyone, but I also don’t try to be. I’m mindful of the clients I work with so I can be sure ...
04/02/2026

I’m not the therapist for everyone, but I also don’t try to be.

I’m mindful of the clients I work with so I can be sure I can help them and they can make the most out of therapy.

That means not automatically saying yes to everyone. (That’s a bonus of private practice).

Many of the clients I work with are self aware and high functioning.

They tend to be intellectualisers and avoidant of their feelings.

If that sounds like you and you’ve been thinking about therapy, get in touch. (UK & EU only)

People rarely go no contact for small reasons or isolated incidents. It’s not really anyone else’s place to decide who i...
28/01/2026

People rarely go no contact for small reasons or isolated incidents.
It’s not really anyone else’s place to decide who is right or wrong.
Often in these situations, everyone loses.

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Monday 10am - 6pm
Tuesday 10am - 6pm
Wednesday 10am - 6pm
Friday 9:30am - 3pm

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+447934764469

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