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05/08/2026

The Personal Growth Power of Saying “No”

Saying "No" can be powerfully helpful. A well-placed and thoughtful refusal also models healthy boundary-setting. It teaches others to respect limits, both yours and theirs....

Saying "no" models healthy boundary-setting and It teaches others to respect limits, both yours and theirs.

03/08/2026

The Most Dangerous Lies Are the Ones We Tell Ourselves

Most of us think of lying as something we do to other people. But the most damaging lies are often the ones we tell ourselves. Small acts of self-deception may protect us from guilt or shame in the short term, but over time they distort our judgement, shape our beliefs, and affect our relationships. This post explores how self-deception develops, why it is so convincing, and why honesty with ourselves is the foundation of personal growth....

14/04/2026

This needs no commentary from me. I only ask that you read it and see if it doesn’t touch some part of you.

Here is a poem by my colleague, Jayne Gumpel. Appropriate for this moment: Beloved people of Iran— It is a curious thing, this feeling of distance, as though I am here and you are there, as though what touches your sky does not ripple through mine. And yet this is precisely the illusion. We have d...

01/04/2026

Communicating Effectively – 7 Skills Worth Developing

When our attempts at communication fail, we blame the other person, but, the reasons for failed communications are more nuanced than that.

19/03/2026

Steady mood swings and respond in a more a measured way

16/03/2026

In the intricate dance of human relationships, communication is the rhythm that keeps partners in sync. Transparent communication, especially, acts as the spotlight, illuminating the intricacies and vulnerabilities that make relationships meaningful. communicatingwell

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15/03/2026

We all want to be noticed. Maybe you don't want to stand out, but there are situations where you want to be noticed, to be taken seriously, aren't there?

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15/03/2026

15/03/2026

While we are busy chasing happiness, most us are doing the opposite, without realising it. I wrote about this here:

If unhappiness is your goal there are many things you could do to keep yourself down, failure for example, or judging yourself harshly.

12/03/2026

Most people think communication is about talking.
In reality, the real skill is listening.
When you genuinely listen to people, something powerful happens:
• Relationships become stronger
• Misunderstandings reduce dramatically
• People feel respected and valued
Whether you're leading a team, working with clients, or improving personal relationships, great listening changes everything.
I created a practical course to help people develop this skill:
Active Listening for Better Communication
Inside you’ll learn simple techniques that help you:
– Understand people more clearly
– Reduce unnecessary conflict
– Build stronger connections
You can check it out here:
https://www.udemy.com/course/become-a-great-listener/?referralCode=872B3243B00AC4AEB4ED
Because when people feel heard, conversations become far more productive.

This course teaches practical techniques that help you focus your attention, understand others more clearly, and support more productive dialogue.Listening skills are often overlooked, yet they are the most essential skills in communication.When you listen carefully and attentively,...