02/08/2026
Three years on Tuesday I started my journey within the TRAINING CLUB reflecting back here are my 3 biggest lessons.
I thought I knew what leadership looked like. I thought I knew what success cost. I was wrong on both counts.
Three years in, here’s what’s changed…
1. Presence over balance. For a long time I believed there was a trade-off. Progress at work meant something at home had to give. So I split myself in two, work got my time, home got what was left over. I was rarely fully anywhere. Eventually I realised the trade-off wasn’t real. I don’t chase balance anymore. I chase presence. When I’m coaching or building, that gets 100% of me. When I walk through my front door, my family gets that same version not distracted, not half-thinking about tomorrow, not guilty for switching off. Just there.
2. More isn’t better. I used to think the answer to everything was doing more, more hours, more work, more effort. Effort’s non-negotiable, but I learned the hard way that it only gets you so far. The real gains came from finding the handful of things that move everything else, the member experience, the coaches, the standards, the culture and getting relentless about those instead of spreading myself thin across everything. Being busy was never the goal. Being effective was.
3. Everything reflects you. I used to think my job was managing people and solving problems. What I didn’t see was that the energy in the room, the standards on the floor, the culture we live in none of that happens by accident. People don’t follow what you tell them. They follow what you consistently do. So when things slipped, I stopped asking “why are they doing that?” and started asking “what have I modelled?” That question changed how I lead completely.
Three years in, the biggest shifts weren’t externally They were in me. Here’s to the next three years.
