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Accredited CBT & EMDR psychotherapist
Internal Family Systems therapist (IFS)
Certified Yoga Teacher
Anxiety, depression, trauma and PTSD
Mind-body
Traditional & holistic therapy
Online therapy
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mindgrowingtherapy.co.uk
M: 07949236991

01/02/2026

Growth isn't pretty BUT it's worth it 🙌

27/01/2026

As a young person, I didn’t know what I was experiencing. I didn’t have the language for it.
No explanation for why I felt so reactive, emotional, messy.

Learning about trauma was validating.
Therapy was freeing.
But looking back, there were parts of me that felt shame. Parts that judged my younger self as immature, difficult, oversensitive. Parts that even disliked her.

What I’ve learned is this:
You can only know what you know at the time.
You can only do what makes sense with the tools you have.

Trauma distorts how you see yourself and the world. It affects how you regulate emotions, how you connect, how safe you feel. It isolates you. Survival often looks chaotic from the outside.

Working with those parts of me brought understanding and compassion. My younger self wasn’t broken—she was overwhelmed. She was trying to survive internal chaos with no roadmap.

Without her perseverance, I wouldn’t be here today.

So instead of hating her, I honour her. I understand her mistakes. I respect her resilience.

You do better when you know better.

When you look back on your own journey, please hold that same compassion. You may know more now. You may take accountability. You may have changed your life completely. But your younger self didn’t have access to this knowledge or safety.

They did the best they could at the time.
And that deserves understanding, not judgment. 🤍

11/01/2026

I often work with clients who say they are allergic to kindness and compassion. Not because they lack it—quite the opposite. They are often among the most caring, attuned, and compassionate people toward others. Yet when it comes to offering that same kindness to themselves, or receiving it from someone else, they feel awkward, unsafe, or even agitated.

This reaction usually makes sense when we look at their early experiences. If your world was harsh growing up—if crying was met with shouting, dismissal, or punishment rather than comfort—you learned something very important: vulnerability is not safe. Affection is unpredictable. Emotional needs are better hidden.

Over time, the nervous system adapts. Feelings are avoided. Tenderness becomes unfamiliar. Compassion, especially when directed inward or received from others, doesn’t register as soothing—it registers as a threat. What was meant to calm instead activates discomfort, shame, or the urge to pull away.

So when kindness arrives, it isn’t experienced as warmth. It feels intrusive. Disorienting. Almost dangerous. Not because the person is broken, but because their system learned, early and wisely, how to survive in an environment where care was absent or conditional.

You don’t have to force kindness or self-compassion. Go slow, at your own pace. Over time, what once felt unsafe can begin to feel neutral — and eventually, even comforting.

05/01/2026

I’m so lucky to work with some amazing people 🥰 The feedback I’ve received is truly heartwarming and I’m grateful to share it, with permission.

Trauma can shatter lives. It makes people feel helpless, isolated, and weak for struggling so much. It’s often misunderstood, as others don’t always get it unless they’ve been through similar pain.

But seeing these incredible individuals shine, flourish, and heal is an absolute dream come true. 🌱

Thank you for trusting me. Your strength and beautiful soul will forever live in my heart. 💚

31/12/2025

This time of year always makes me pause.
I reflect, review, and revisit my life.
I think about where I am… and where I want to be.

For the longest time, I imagined growth as a straight line.
A smooth journey from A to B.
No detours. No setbacks. Just progress.

But life doesn’t work that way.
It’s full of ups, downs, and unexpected bumps.

And every single fall mattered.
Each one built strength.
Each one forced resilience.

So now, when I feel low or discouraged, I don’t quit.
I pause. I rest.
I give my body and mind what they need.
Then I try again.
Because every fall teaches you exactly what to do next time.

If you fall, take a breath, readjust your crown, and try again. Happy New Year everyone 👑🎊

18/12/2025

IFS Practice: Befriending Your Parts

🔎 What does “befriending” mean?
It’s about building trust and connection with the different parts of you. Instead of pushing them away, you welcome them with curiosity and kindness.

✨ 1. Notice the Part
Pay attention to the emotion, thought, or sensation that shows up.

✨ 2. Acknowledge Its Effort
Say: “I see you. I know you’re trying to help or protect me.”

✨ 3. Offer Kindness
Let the part know it’s welcome. You might say:
• “Thank you for working so hard.”
• “I appreciate your effort.”

✨ 4. Ask What It Needs
Invite the part to share:
• What would help it feel safe?
• What support does it want from you?

✨ 5. Stay Connected
Remind the part: “You don’t have to carry this alone. I’m here with you.”

🌟 Remember: Befriending your parts builds trust. Over time, they feel less alone and more willing to soften, opening space for change.

08/12/2025

😂 This is way too funny not to share. Hope none of you had the same experience as Julie... Here's a few tips to help you find a therapist that truly works for you! 👇

🚫 Don’t be like Julie — find the therapist that’s right for you!

Reaching out for help is no longer seen as a weakness — but finding the right therapist can feel overwhelming. Here’s what to consider:

✨ Know your needs
Be clear about what you’re struggling with. Is it anxiety, low mood, or trauma? Therapists often specialize in different areas, so choosing someone who matches your needs will make the process more effective.

🔄 Therapy is like exercise
Think of therapy as different types of workouts. Each one strengthens you, but in a different way. CBT is like interval training — structured, focused, and designed to build resilience quickly. EMDR is more like rehabilitation exercises — targeted and powerful for healing trauma. Counselling is closer to yoga — slower, reflective, and focused on emotional flexibility. All aim to improve your wellbeing, but the style and outcomes vary.

🤝 Meet before you commit
Most therapists offer free consultations. Use this time to get a feel for their personality and style. Are they honest, direct, nurturing? Therapy is a relationship — you need to feel comfortable with the person you’ll be working with.

📜 Check accreditation
Accreditation doesn’t mean one therapist is “better” than another, but it does mean their work is overseen by a professional body. This adds a layer of safety and accountability if issues ever arise.

💡 Trust your gut
This can be hard if you’ve experienced trauma, but pay attention to how you feel after meeting a therapist. Do you feel listened to? A little more hopeful? Even though therapy is challenging, the right therapist should leave you feeling supported. Remember: you’re not obliged to continue if it doesn’t feel right.

👉 Therapy isn’t one‑size‑fits‑all. Take the time to explore, ask questions, and find the therapist who truly fits you

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+447949236991

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http://www.mindgrowingtherapy.co.uk/

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