Healing with Michelle

09/06/2026

Although they can feel very similar, shame and guilt are not the same.
💚 Guilt says:
"I did something bad."
It focuses on our behaviour and can encourage us to reflect, make amends and learn from our experiences.
💙 Shame says:
"I am bad."
It goes much deeper and can leave us feeling unworthy, defective or somehow "not enough."
Shame often causes us to withdraw, hide parts of ourselves or judge ourselves harshly.
Our struggles are only one part of our story.
Healing begins when we learn to separate who we are from what we have done.
We can acknowledge our experiences, take responsibility where needed and still meet ourselves with kindness and compassion.

08/06/2026

🧠 Not every thought is a fact.
We all have unhelpful thinking styles—automatic patterns of thought that can influence how we see ourselves, others, and the world around us.
These "thinking traps" are common, especially during periods of stress, anxiety, grief, or low mood. Becoming aware of them isn't about judging ourselves; it's about learning to respond with curiosity and compassion rather than automatically believing every thought we have.
🌿 Awareness is the first step towards change.
Which thinking trap do you notice yourself falling into most often?
💙 Be kind to yourself. You're human.

🔍 Mental Filter Focusing only on the negative while overlooking the positives.

🌪️ Catastrophising Expecting the worst-case scenario.

🏷️ Labelling Defining yourself or others with harsh labels. "I'm a failure."

⚫⚪ Black and White Thinking Seeing things in extremes with no middle ground.

❤️ Emotional Reasoning Believing something is true simply because it feels true.

💭 Jumping to Conclusions Assuming what others think or predicting negative outcomes without evidence.

📏 Should and Must Statements Holding yourself to unrealistic expectations.

🔎 Magnification and Minimisation Making problems bigger and strengths smaller.

👤 Personalisation Taking responsibility for things that aren't entirely your fault.

🧠 Overgeneralisation Taking one negative experience and believing it will always happen.

06/06/2026

Grief can come from losing a loved one, but it can also come from losing a part of yourself, the end of a relationship, a job, a dream, a chapter of life, or even saying goodbye to a beloved pet. 💜
Some days bring sadness, anger, confusion, loneliness, anxiety, denial, or longing. Other days, we find moments of acceptance and even peace.
Healing doesn't happen in neat stages we can simply check off. It's a journey filled with twists, turns, ups, and downs—and that's okay.
Give yourself permission to feel it all. There is no "right" way to grieve and no timeline you have to follow. Be gentle with yourself, trust the process, and remember that even on the hardest days, you are not alone.
✨ Healing isn't about never falling apart—it's about learning to move through the ride with compassion, grace, and hope. Eventually, we find moments of peace again.
💜 Whatever you're grieving, your feelings are valid.
❤️ ❤️

03/06/2026

A few simple reminders for June ❤️

Which one are you going to prioritize as you enter the second half of 2026?

04/05/2026

You can’t stop people from trying, but you can be ready to respond. In an attempt to get their needs met, some people will try to persuade you to change your mind. When you want something different, be assertive about it.

The best way to stop someone from guilt-tripping you is to recognize (in the moment) when it is happening and respond to the situation.

Sometimes people don't like it when you’re assertive, but it’s still necessary for you to be assertive.

Be kind and advocate for your needs.

14/02/2026

I have been working here for 3 years now, started as a placement to follow on to being a place i work on call. I have met the most fantastic people here and honoured to be a part of their journey.

22/12/2025

Waking up at 3 AM? 🕒 In Traditional Chinese Medicine, 1 AM to 3 AM is "Liver Time." If you consistently wake up then, your liver might be overloaded or stressed. Try eating dinner earlier, avoiding alcohol, and reducing stress to sleep through the night. Your body is talking to you.

16/12/2025

When my beautiful friend talks about white light, yet the light is going through him in the video ☺️ Blessed to know this man. Thank you for all your teachings, Gren.
Together we have held the space for quite a few of these evenings 🤍 here are some captures of the beauty.

16/12/2025

A powerful tool. Yes, boredom can be linked to sadness, and anger can feel like hurt which one are you? look deeper, understand feel and process

16/11/2025

https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/m00053fy/nadiya-anxiety-and-me

I really recommend this to watch ###

In this one-off documentary, Nadiya Hussain sets out to find the cause of her anxiety, exploring the most effective, available treatments.