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The MINDEST framework has evolved.Neuroplasticity is now officially part of the way I work.In simple terms, neuroplastic...
14/07/2026

The MINDEST framework has evolved.

Neuroplasticity is now officially part of the way I work.

In simple terms, neuroplasticity is the brain’s ability to adapt, reorganise and create new neural pathways throughout life in response to experience.

Why does that matter?

Because lasting change isn’t built on motivation or willpower alone. It’s built on how the brain learns through repetition, experience and behaviour.

Every repeated thought, emotion and action strengthens certain neural pathways while others gradually weaken.

The better we understand how the brain changes, the more intentional we can be about creating change that actually lasts.

This is another piece of the science behind the MINDEST framework.




Ever noticed how your brain seems to obsess over things you’ve started… but haven’t finished?Not the things you never in...
14/07/2026

Ever noticed how your brain seems to obsess over things you’ve started… but haven’t finished?

Not the things you never intended to do.
The things you began.

You pause halfway through a Netflix episode because you’re tired. The next day, you find yourself wondering what happened next, even though you’ve got another 500 shows to choose from.

You read three chapters of a book, put it down for a week, and catch yourself mentally replaying the last scene.
You start reorganising a cupboard, pull everything onto the floor… then decide you’ll “finish it later.” Every time you walk past it, your brain gives you that little nudge.
Why?

We call this the Zeigarnik Effect.

When we begin something, our brain creates what you could think of as an open loop. Until that loop is closed, part of our attention stays attached to it.
It’s almost as if your brain doesn’t like unfinished stories.
And it’s not because they’re important, but because they’re incomplete.
That’s a really important distinction.

The unfinished cupboard isn’t more important than paying your work.
The unwatched episode isn’t more important than your shopping or homework, yet somehow they keep popping into your mind.
Why?
Because your brain isn’t ranking importance, it’s tracking completion.

I actually think that’s one of the reasons modern life feels mentally exhausting.
At any given moment we’ve got twenty open loops running in the background. Individually, none of them matter much.
Collectively?
They quietly compete for your attention all day.
What’s fascinating is that your brain often relaxes the moment it knows how that loop is going to close.
Not necessarily when you’ve finished it…
…but when there’s certainty that it will be.

That’s why writing something down, scheduling it, or deciding on the very next step can sometimes feel surprisingly relieving.
You haven’t completed the task.
You’ve simply reassured your brain that the story has an ending.

Maybe that’s why your mind keeps interrupting you at the most random moments. Its not trying to annoy you, it just hates unfinished endings.



Grief isn’t a problem to solve, it’s a relationship to renegotiate.For decades, “healthy grieving” meant detachment. We ...
08/07/2026

Grief isn’t a problem to solve, it’s a relationship to renegotiate.

For decades, “healthy grieving” meant detachment. We know better now.

The relationship doesn’t end when the person does. It evolves, into memory, ritual, internal dialogue, a version of them you carry on purpose.

Modern grief theory calls this “Continuing Bonds” - the idea that a healthy relationship with loss isn’t about severing the connection, but reshaping it.
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I work with grief through this lens, not to help you “move on,” but to help you find the form the relationship takes next.

If that’s lands - get in touch.

www.mindest.co.uk
[email protected]



A little practice update.MINDEST is now a recognised provider with WPA (Western Provident Association).If you have WPA p...
01/07/2026

A little practice update.

MINDEST is now a recognised provider with WPA (Western Provident Association).

If you have WPA private health insurance, you may be able to access counselling with me through your policy (subject to your level of cover and WPA authorisation).

One more way to make therapy a little more accessible.

If you’d like to find out more, feel free to get in touch or visit www.mindest.co.uk




Learn the difference and watch your nervous system stop treating every assumption like evidence.Your attachment style wi...
19/06/2026

Learn the difference and watch your nervous system stop treating every assumption like evidence.

Your attachment style will hate it at first.

Do it anyway 🤘


We are not baking in this therapy office, that’s for sure.Proper air flow so we can actually breathe through the heavy s...
27/05/2026

We are not baking in this therapy office, that’s for sure.
Proper air flow so we can actually breathe through the heavy stuff.




Healing doesn’t care if we’re on Teams or in person, it shows up where the space feels safe. Same focus, same depth.Wond...
24/05/2026

Healing doesn’t care if we’re on Teams or in person, it shows up where the space feels safe. Same focus, same depth.
Wondering what this could look like for you?



Projective story cards quietly bypassing conscious defences and opening access to deeper emotional material, symbolic th...
08/05/2026

Projective story cards quietly bypassing conscious defences and opening access to deeper emotional material, symbolic thinking, unconscious associations and internal narratives that are often difficult to reach through direct questioning alone….!
🧁 🧠

Today in the counselling room we used some EMDR adjacent processing and light bilateral work to: Shift emotional states ...
05/05/2026

Today in the counselling room we used some EMDR adjacent processing and light bilateral work to:

Shift emotional states without bypassing the pain
Restructure internal dialogue in real time
Bring movement into places that felt completely stuck
Balance depth with containment
Make abstract pain something visible and workable
Move clients out of mental paralysis, each in their own way.

If you fancy some trauma work - I’m here.
www.MINDEST.co.uk

Today I was speaking to foundation degree counselling students at University Centre South Devon about what this work act...
22/04/2026

Today I was speaking to foundation degree counselling students at University Centre South Devon about what this work actually looks like beyond textbooks and theories.

Thank you for the invite!

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