Garden of Eadon

03/08/2026

As a child, the end of the holidays meant going back to boarding school.

Packing wasn’t just packing. It was remembering every item on the school list because if you forgot something, you simply went without until the next exeat or holidays.

These are the quieter ways early experiences can continue to shape us—not always dramatically, but in ordinary moments that suddenly make a little more sense when we stop and reflect.

I’d be interested to hear whether this resonates with other former boarders. What are the seemingly small things that still catch you by surprise?

If you’d like to explore these experiences in more depth, my next Boarding School Survivors Circle begins on 18 September. You can find more information via the link in my bio.

27/07/2026

21/07/2026

Sometimes men’s mental health looks like this.

Not therapy.
Not a workshop.
Just good food, honest conversation and a few hours away from the pressures of everyday life.

Last night we held our first Supper Social, bringing together local men from different backgrounds and stages of life.

One thing that struck me was how quickly strangers became a table of people sharing stories, ideas and plenty of laughter.

Community doesn’t always begin with deep conversations—it often begins with simply showing up.

Our next in-person event will be a walk and circle in Marble Hill Park on 17 August. DM for details.

20/07/2026

One of the unexpected highlights of this year has been becoming a regular contributor to .

What began with introducing the Twickenham Men’s Circle has grown into conversations about men’s mental health, connection, community, wellbeing and, in this month’s edition, The Sustainability of Being Human.

As a psychotherapist, I believe some of the most important conversations happen beyond the therapy room. Writing for a local magazine is one small way of making psychological ideas more accessible and helping build a stronger, healthier community.

A huge thank you to Phil, Maxine and everyone at TW Magazines for the opportunity and continued support.

And now… off to our Twickenham Men’s Circle Supper Social this evening. Looking forward to another evening of good food and even better conversation.

15/07/2026

Two years ago today, we said goodbye to my mother.
I’ve been thinking about how different her death and her funeral felt.
I chose to sit beside her as she passed. It was one of the most private and intimate moments of my life.
And then, almost immediately, there were things to do.
People to call. Decisions to make. Practicalities to manage.
Looking back, I wonder if all that doing helped hold me together when emotionally I was anything but together.
She had died.
But I don’t think I had really begun to process what that meant.
The funeral was different.
My family and I were able to take Mother’s wishes and create something that also allowed us to say goodbye.
A eulogy. Music. Flowers. Food. Family and friends.
Whiskey.
Our village.
For me, the funeral created a space to stop doing and begin feeling.
To honour her life. To share memories. To cry and laugh. And to allow other people to carry some of the grief with us.
Perhaps that’s why rituals around death have mattered to us for so long.
Death can be deeply private. Grief needs somewhere to go.
That day, surrounded by people who loved her and loved us, we committed Mum to God, with Reiki and love.
And, although I couldn’t have known it then, I think I was making a commitment too.
To growth.
To living more honestly.
To carrying the best of her forward.
Her funeral wasn’t the end of our relationship.
It marked a transition.
Hers committed to God, with Reiki and love.
Mine committed to growth.
Two years on, I’m deeply grateful to everyone who stood beside us that day. ❤️

13/07/2026

Some anniversaries arrive quietly.

A smell. A song. Wimbledon on the television. A place you’ve been before.

This week marks two years since my mum’s funeral, and it’s prompted me to reflect on how grief changes over time. Not because it disappears, but because our relationship with the people we’ve loved continues to evolve.

Reiki was something we shared deeply together, and its principles have taken on an even richer meaning for me over the years. Honouring .

On Wednesday I’ll be sharing a photograph from Mum’s funeral and a few thoughts about why funerals and the day someone dies can feel so different.

Then on Friday I’ll publish a longer journal exploring grief through personal experience, psychotherapy, men’s work and some of the writers who’ve shaped my understanding.

If this resonates with your own experience of loss, I’d love to hear what grief has taught you.

06/07/2026

Social media often encourages us to think bigger audiences come from better content.

Over the last few months, I’ve found something different.

The most meaningful conversations haven’t come from trying to “beat the algorithm”. They’ve come from genuine relationships.

Whether it’s collaborating with nutritionists, men’s groups, schools or other therapists, every conversation brings together different perspectives and ultimately offers something richer for the people we support.

Therapy has always been relational. Perhaps social media should be too.

So, over the coming months, you’ll see more conversations, collaborations and shared thinking alongside my usual posts.

If you’re looking for therapy, my inbox is always open.

And if you’re a practitioner, educator or someone whose work complements mine, I’d love to hear from you. Let’s see what we can create together.

👇 Is there someone you’d love to see me collaborate with?

03/07/2026

Sometimes our bodies speak before we have words.

Pain, low desire or difficulties with intimacy are often experienced as problems to fix. Sometimes they are. Physical health always deserves proper attention.

But sometimes, once medical concerns have been explored, another question begins to emerge:

What might my body be trying to tell me?

This week’s Journal reflects on women’s psychos*xual health through the lens of mind, body and soul, exploring how safety, connection and self-understanding can shape our experience of intimacy and pleasure.

Sometimes healing begins not by pushing the body harder, but by listening to it more deeply.

Link in bio.

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01/07/2026

The Wedding card arrived as an interesting reflection this month.

Following the Family card in June, I’ve found myself thinking about commitment, accountability and the relationships that shape us. From completing my journey with , to new collaborations like the recent pleasure guide with , it feels like a month of deepening connection rather than simply making new ones.

For me, this card isn’t just about marriage. It’s about the commitments we make to ourselves, to one another, and perhaps most importantly, to becoming more fully who we are.

I’d love to know what this month’s card stirs in you.

29/06/2026

Many women come to therapy believing there is something wrong with them.

Low desire.
Difficulty reaching or**sm.
Pain during s*x.
Feeling disconnected from their bodies.

Sometimes there are physical reasons.

Sometimes there are emotional, relational or psychological reasons.

Often they’re deeply interconnected.

What interests me most is not just the symptom, but the questions that sit beneath it.

Can I trust my body?
Can I express what I need?
Can I experience pleasure without guilt, pressure or performance?

Those are conversations worth having.

This week I’ll be exploring these themes further, and I’m delighted to have collaborated with on a free guide exploring pleasure, wellbeing and self-connection.

I’ll share how to access it in my Stories.

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