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Camilla Grainger Counselling

Qualified CBT therapist offering one-to-one therapy and life coaching.

I also deliver wellbeing and self-development workshops across the Midlands, supporting people to build confidence and improve mental health 🧠

08/09/2026

♥️Shame isn’t simply a feeling… it becomes a belief🦋

And I think that’s the bit we don’t always understand.

When you’ve spent years feeling not good enough, too much, difficult, different, unwanted, or like you just don’t quite fit anywhere… eventually you stop thinking “I feel like this” and start believing “this is who I am.”

That’s shame.

It’s that little voice that makes you question yourself.

Did I say the wrong thing?
Are they talking about me?
Do they actually like me?
Why am I so sensitive?
Why can’t I just be like everyone else?

And we can carry that for years without even realising where it came from.

We learn to people please.
We overthink.
We apologise when we’ve done nothing wrong.
We make ourselves smaller.
We look for rejection before it’s even happened.

But one of the biggest parts of healing is realising that just because you believe something about yourself, it doesn’t make it true.✨

Sometimes it’s just an old story you’ve carried for far too long.

And maybe it’s time to put it down. 🦋♥️

“Shame grows when we mistake what happened to us for who we are.”

Counselling with Camilla 🦋♥️

02/09/2026

Trauma is the wound; the event is the cause. 🦋

Trauma isn’t just about what happened to you.

It’s about what happened inside you because of it.

The way you learnt to protect yourself.
The things you started believing about yourself.
The fear you carried.
The walls you built.
The parts of yourself you pushed down just to cope.

Sometimes we spend years thinking, “But that was such a long time ago, why does it still affect me?”

Because the event may have ended, but the wound it left behind didn’t just disappear.

And that’s the part that needs our compassion, not our judgement.

Healing isn’t about pretending it never happened.

It’s about understanding why you became who you needed to be to survive it — and slowly realising you don’t have to protect yourself in the same way anymore.

The event is part of your story.
It doesn’t have to write the rest of it. 💗🦋

01/09/2026

What Does This Emotion Need? ❤️

We’re so quick to want to get rid of uncomfortable emotions.

The sadness.
The anger.
The anxiety.
The hurt.

We want it gone because it doesn’t feel nice.

But what if, instead of asking “How do I stop feeling this?” we asked…

“What does this emotion need?”

Maybe your anger needs you to finally say no.
Maybe your sadness just needs to be felt.
Maybe your anxiety needs you to slow down.
Maybe that hurt needs acknowledging instead of being pushed back down again.

Not every emotion needs fixing.

Sometimes it just needs listening to. ❤️

And sometimes, when we stop fighting what we feel, we start to understand why it’s there in the first place.

23/08/2026

I’ve been thinking a lot about grief lately and how completely different it can be depending on the person you’ve lost and how you lost them.

My dad’s death was absolutely awful, and I don’t actually let myself go back to that moment very often because I hate it.

But there was also something so beautiful about it.

I got into bed next to him, a song came on and my Dad looked at me and then took his last breaths.

People say sometimes people wait. I don’t know if that’s true or not. I just know what happened, and as painful as it is, I also know how lucky I was to be there with him.

My mum’s death was completely different.

It was sudden, traumatic and so much more complicated. There were no last moments together like that. No chance to prepare myself. And the grief that came with losing my Mum had so many other things mixed into it.

I think that’s something I’ve learnt through losing them both.

Grief isn’t just grief.

It depends on the relationship, the circumstances, what was left unsaid, what happened before they died and sometimes everything that happened afterwards too.

You can love someone and be angry with them.
You can miss someone and still carry hurt.
You can have a beautiful goodbye that absolutely breaks your heart.
And you can grieve someone when the relationship itself was complicated.

None of it means you loved them any less.

Maybe healing isn’t about eventually being “okay” with what happened.

Maybe it’s just reaching a point where you can hold all the different parts of it together.

The love, the hurt, the beautiful bits and the bloody awful bits.

Because sometimes they all belong to the same story. ❤️

I also can’t stop the thought that I should have had another 30/40-odd years with them both
I know I will never stop missing them ever 🦋

22/08/2026

Healing 🦋

Healing isn’t about becoming the person you were before.

Sometimes it’s about accepting that life changed you and learning to understand the person you became because of it.

It’s setting boundaries without feeling guilty.
Choosing peace over chaos.
Recognising patterns you once thought were normal.
Forgiving yourself for the things you didn’t know then.
And slowly letting go of what you can no longer carry.

One of the biggest things that has helped me personally over this past year has been writing.

I started putting down on paper the memories, feelings, loss, love and experiences I’d carried around in my head and heart for years. And somewhere along the way, writing became part of my own healing.

It hasn’t changed what happened. But it has helped me make sense of it, look at things differently and give a voice to things I couldn’t always say out loud.

What started as something just for me has gradually become something much bigger.

Maybe one day I’ll be brave enough to share it. Maybe one day it will even become a book. 📖🦋

For now, I’m simply writing and healing as I go.

Because healing doesn’t always mean that something stops hurting completely.

Sometimes it’s that quiet moment when you realise…

“That doesn’t hurt like it used to.” 🤍

And that is progress.

17/07/2026

🌿💜 Moments like this remind me why I do what I do. 💜🌿

I’m always so grateful when parents take the time to share their feedback. With permission, I’d love to share this beautiful message:

✨ “Thank you so much for your support with Zac. The anxiety that was taking over his life is a distant memory. He’s grown so much in confidence and wants to be a therapist.” ✨

The truth is, therapy isn’t something that’s done to someone—it’s something we do together. I can offer a safe space, guidance, tools, and encouragement, but it’s the young person who shows up, trusts the process, and does the incredibly hard work. Zac did exactly that, and he should be so proud of himself 🦋

12/07/2026

When a Relationship Takes Away Who You Were

One of the greatest losses in an unhealthy relationship isn’t always the relationship itself…

It’s losing parts of yourself.

The version of you who was calm becomes reactive.
The version of you who trusted begins to question everything.
The version of you who hated conflict finds themselves arguing.
The version of you who always tried to stay kind starts saying things they never thought they would.

Not because they’ve become a different person…

But because our nervous system adapts to the environment it’s in.

When we spend long periods feeling criticised, walking on eggshells, or constantly trying to explain ourselves, our brain naturally shifts into survival mode. Instead of feeling safe enough to connect, we become focused on protecting ourselves.

Over time this can lead to:
🦋 Hypervigilance – always anticipating the next conflict.
🦋 Defensiveness – feeling the need to justify or prove yourself.
🦋 Emotional exhaustion – where even small conversations feel draining.
🦋 Losing touch with your own values because you’re simply trying to get through the day.

This isn’t who you are.

It’s how human beings adapt when they no longer feel emotionally safe.

Healing isn’t just about leaving a relationship.

It’s about calming your nervous system, rebuilding trust in yourself, rediscovering your values and remembering who you were before survival became your normal.

You don’t heal by becoming someone new.

You heal by reconnecting with the person you were before you had to protect yourself every day.

💜🦋

08/07/2026

💛 Client Feedback 💛

“Thank you so much for everything you have done for our daughter. The change we have seen in her has been truly amazing. We genuinely feel like we have our daughter back. We can’t thank you enough for your support, kindness, and care throughout her journey.”

🦋Receiving messages like this is such a privilege. Thank you to every family who places their trust in me. Being part of a child’s journey and seeing them grow in confidence, resilience, and happiness is why I do what I do. 💛

23/06/2026

Seven years ago today, a moment changed the course of my life.

The years that followed weren’t easy, but they taught me resilience, boundaries, and the value of protecting my peace.

Not every scar is visible, but every one tells a story of survival.

Here’s to healing, growth, and never forgetting how strong you really are.

Today, I’m grateful for the strength I didn’t know I had, the lessons I never wanted to learn, and the person I became because I refused to stay broken.

09/06/2026

I heard I was ugly 😉

Years ago, that would have broken me.

Now, as a counsellor, I understand that the things people say about others often tell us far more about them than the person they’re aimed at.

Women are taught to compare, compete and measure themselves against each other. It’s exhausting.

The truth is, secure people rarely need to do that. They don’t need to rank other women, tear them down, or make cruel comments to feel better about themselves.

The people who say these things are often speaking from their own insecurity, hurt or need to feel superior. That doesn’t make it okay, but it does make it less about the person they’re talking about.

It’s something I see in my counselling room too. So many people are carrying around comments that were said years ago. A throwaway remark from a parent, partner, friend or stranger that somehow became part of the way they see themselves.

But someone else’s opinion is not your identity.

I’ve survived too much in my life to let someone else’s opinion define me.

I’d rather be known for my kindness, my resilience and how I treat people than whether I fit someone else’s idea of beautiful.

And to anyone carrying a comment that’s lived in their head for too long: challenge it. Ask yourself whose voice it is, and whether it’s a voice you’d go to for advice in the first place.

Because looks change.

Character doesn’t.

❤️

And if someone feels better about themselves by calling another woman ugly, that’s a competition I was never interested in winning anyway.

We are all beautiful in our own way ♥️🦋
Not every opinion needs yo be accepted ✌️

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Tuesday	9am - 8pm
Wednesday	9am - 8pm
Thursday	9am - 8pm
Friday	9am - 8pm
Saturday	9am - 5pm

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