Chelle Rawlings: Therapy

13/04/2026

NEW OFFERING - Woofer Wellness Walks!

Fancy something a little different? Why not join us for our pack walk on a Tuesday morning? A safe space for you to come relax, connect and chat amongst a lovely pack of super friendly woofers all ready with a waggy tail to boost your mood!

Walks are led by myself offering wellness and coaching and an opportunity to connect with like-minded souls.

Walks are run as a group or if you wanted a more in depth experience, you can book as a 1:1.

**Dogs provided! 😅🐾

Curious? 💚🐾✨ - Get in touch!

24/01/2026

Healing comes from feeling...

So often we try to logic away our uncomfortable feelings believing that if we understand or suppress them we can somehow make them go away, but the truth is that understanding is only half of the process and suppressed emotions only come back stronger.

Feeling the feels and allowing what's inside to surface and be released is the key to our healing.

Scream, shout, cry... do all the things we're told as children 'big girls/boys' don't do. Learn how to feel your feelings safely and release them instead of suppressing them and pushing them down. You wouldn't hold back the joy, happiness or love so give yourself permission to express yourself fully. 💚✨

🎥 Dr Gabor Mate.
Music: Mint Leaves
Musician: Jeff Kaale

18/05/2025

Loneliness comes up so often in the therapy room, often after a break up, a long period of time without contact from a loved one, in couples work, divorce, following a bereavement or family feud.

It can be one of the most complex, painful and debilitating feelings; visceral, intimate and physical.

When we feel this way we often look outside of ourselves for comfort or the reason, the cause of this pain, because we think if we can identify it, distract ourselves or ignore it; we can fix it, control it, blame someone or something else for the way we are feeling.

We want to be rescued.

When we suffer a bereavement, we accept and understand that we need to create space to feel the pain of heartache, sadness, and loneliness. It forces us to look within ourselves rather than externally because there is often no-one to blame and we learn how to find comfort in friendships, faith/personal beliefs and remembering our loved ones through sharing and grieving.

But when we feel lonely from loss and someone is still alive, grief takes on a different approach and we forget to create that space to turn our attention inwards. We don't allow ourselves the same compassion we would if that person had passed and so we believe the source of the feeling is external.

It can feel too overwhelming to think that maybe, what we're feeling is caused by something within ourselves and this is the time to look inside and think about what it is we need to face...

Questions to consider are;

*. Where have I not been showing up for myself?
*. How can I be my own comfort/support?
*. What do I miss about that person?
*. Where do I feel I'm lacking and what can I do about it?
*. Why do I need someone else to fill that gap or make me happy?
*. Why did I leave, did we argue, did I create distance, or did that happened in the first place?
*. What if I just allow myself the space to grieve and feel this feeling - painful though it is?

Loneliness comes from a feeling of being incomplete, but in order to be fulfilled, we need to feel whole within ourselves first.

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18/05/2025

Self-Care Sunday 💚✨

16/05/2025

Eco-Therapy in action...

Birdsong stimulates safety within our nervous system, helping to re-regulate ourselves from a place of discomfort.

Birds sing when they feel safe and are in unthreatening environments which we as humans through evolution have ingrained into our cell and soul knowledge. This means when we tune ourselves into the sound of birdsong, not only do we bring ourselves back into the present moment; and release overriding/intrusive thought patterns and emotions; but we also ease our nervous system by providing the safety and regulation we need.

To deepen the experience, allowing ourselves time to walk barefoot or sit on the grass in nature gives us grounding and stability and helps us feel connected to nature and to that sense of safety the birds are tapping into.

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# birdsong

Image Credit & Inspo thx to:

12/05/2025

18/03/2025

The truth about self love? - it's not all fluffy blankets, bubble baths and cosy nights in (although those are pretty good too😜).

10/12/2024

Now read that again...

Our trauma response can lead us to feel responsible for the way others perceive our words, actions or behaviours, when in fact we are only responsible for the intention behind them. If someone needs clarity to understand you, it's up to them to ask rather than assume they know your meaning/intention... and how they receive that information will very much depend on their experiences and insecurities.

When we've experienced trauma, we constantly look to others words and behaviours and how they receive us to assess our safety and we can feel the need to over explain ourselves or overthink to try and ease the situation. - We feel responsible for managing that person's response to us.

If we allow ourselves to feel responsible for how others perceive us it can show up as other unhealthy relationship patterns such as poor boundaries, taking on too much responsibility, self blame/doubt/worth, difficulty trusting, codependency or people pleasing.

When we speak our minds, we need to let it land and trust that if the other person feels hurt/angry or upset they will seek clarity in a healthy way. 🤎✨

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For more on healthy relationships, boundaries and self worth follow

**F2F, telephone and online apts available for Individuals, Couples and relationship work.**

05/10/2024

Often when experiencing unresolved trauma, we're not comfortable receiving love/kindness, have a misconception of loving/kind behaviour, cannot allow ourselves to receive love/kindness or simply don't recognise it when it's given. In order to receive love we have to first feel trust and this cannot always be freely given.

If you're struggling to receive love and give trust, look for the green flags mentioned in my previous post and ask yourself what love looks like for you. Not all love is grand gestures and fairytales, love is more often found in the smaller acts such as being given space to work through your feelings, making you feel safe when anxiety levels are high, acts of comfort and compassion, consistency, showing up and meeting you where you are to name but a few.

If you're recovering from trauma practice being patient with yourself and your emotions and look for the smaller acts of love that can sometimes feel threatening. Ask yourself why you feel threatened and practice self compassion.

For more on trauma, self love and emotions follow

Or if you need to talk, contact me for further information and availability.