A Parker Therapy

A Parker Therapy Individual, Couple and Family Counselling Ashley is a relationship therapist working with both individuals and couples.

All sessions are provided via telephone or online.

When you’ve both been hurt, it’s easy for a relationship to quietly become a competition.Whose pain is more valid. Whose...
20/05/2026

When you’ve both been hurt, it’s easy for a relationship to quietly become a competition.

Whose pain is more valid.
Whose needs come first.
Whose history explains their behaviour.

Nobody decides to do this. It just happens - especially when there’s no space made to actually process and talk about what you’re both carrying.

This is one of the most common patterns I see in couples work. And one of the most exhausting to be tangled up in.

The shift isn’t about who wins or outdoing each other. It’s about whether there’s enough room for both of you.

If you find yourself being defensive or trying to compete when your partner brings something up - chances are it’s something you’ve been sitting on.

Making space to talk about these things means that when one of you is hurt, it’s easier to stay present, curious and connected.

If you’re struggling to get through these interactions, get in touch ❤️

“Keep the past in the past” sounds healthy. Aspirational, even.But in relationships, the past isn’t back there. It’s in ...
11/05/2026

“Keep the past in the past” sounds healthy. Aspirational, even.

But in relationships, the past isn’t back there. It’s in the room. Unless you’ve lived in a solo bubble, there’s never just the two of you in the room.

It’s in how you react when they go quiet. It’s in why that tone lands so hard. It’s in what you need and can’t quite ask for.

Your early experiences with love, with safety, with whether people stayed don’t stay in the past. They show up in your relationship, repeatedly, until something shifts.

It’s not a flaw. It’s not a you thing, it’s a relationship thing. That’s how we work.

The question isn’t how to keep the past in the past. It’s what to do now that you can see it.

There are so many beautiful insights available when we look at how the past plays out in your present. It’s a gift. And hiding away means that those cycles you get into that keep you feeling stuck will quite often be on repeat.

That’s part of therapy.

If you’re curious get in touch. My diary is open.

Happy Monday 😘

Don’t ignore that sinking feeling that you’re being honest. Honesty isn’t about not telling the truth, it’s the editing ...
09/05/2026

Don’t ignore that sinking feeling that you’re being honest.

Honesty isn’t about not telling the truth, it’s the editing and filtering that begins without you even noticing.

It’s the difference between those beautiful moments where you feel completely seen. Where you laugh freely and don’t second guess yourself and the editing that starts.

The cost might be subtle initially but slowly it creeps up.

To explore working together, head to my bio and ping me a message ❤️

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02/05/2026

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A lot of couples come to me having spent years quietly shrinking. Not because anyone asked them to, but because it felt ...
22/04/2026

A lot of couples come to me having spent years quietly shrinking.

Not because anyone asked them to, but because it felt safer.

Less conflict.

Less risk.

The problem is you can’t build real intimacy
with a version of yourself that doesn’t fully exist.

This is some of the most important work there is.

If this resonates, track back. Where did this begin?

If you want someone in your corner to start unravelling some of this, pop me a message.

20/04/2026

Date nights don’t save relationships.

They can be lovely, but they’re only ever really lovely when you’ve treated the in between times like the foreplay beforehand.

No one wants to sit across from the person they love and feel completely alone, but if you’ve ever like this - you’re not in the minority.

So many couples arrive feeling like they’ve exhausted all options.

🌴 The holiday that once would have given that boost.

🍸 The night out that once would have created the space to connect.

🥘 Your favourite restaurant that has gifted you so many special occasions.

But it just hasn’t cut it this time.

You’re both there, but there’s something missing.

You spend your time reaching for your phone, talking about the kids - looking over at the couple on the other table laughing and talking.

But the lead up to this date has been empty.

You’ve swerved each other in the kitchen, made space to only talk about logistics, been too busy to say hello when you come back together after your day.

Those moments are the important ones.

The everyday interactions that are the glue for connection.

And there’s no quick solution.

Everyday intentional acts are the moments that make those rare date nights what you wish for.

So today, on this very ordinary Monday- make space for something meaningful. Don’t wait for the other person to make that move. You can go first.

And if you need a helping hand get in touch ❤️

Not that kind of nailed. 😉Relationships aren’t effortless. Sometimes you’ll feel like you’re getting it right. Sometimes...
16/04/2026

Not that kind of nailed. 😉

Relationships aren’t effortless.

Sometimes you’ll feel like you’re getting it right. Sometimes every single interaction lands like nails down a blackboard and you can’t even pinpoint why.

You’re probably convinced everyone else has cracked it and you’re the only one mentally mapping your escape route.

You’re not.

It’s easy to slide into a negative cycle. What’s less obvious is that with a bit of intention and some outside perspective, it’s just as easy to find your way back out.

Maybe this is a moment to get honest about where you are. Maybe you just need help seeing what’s still there.

Relationships aren’t supposed to feel relentlessly good. But prolonged misery isn’t something you just have to absorb either.

My diary is open for both intensives and longer-term work.

Tonight’s spring full moon is in Libra ♎️ which is the sign most associated with partnership. It’s also a moon of emerge...
01/04/2026

Tonight’s spring full moon is in Libra ♎️ which is the sign most associated with partnership. It’s also a moon of emergence - pushing through after a long winter.

What that means relationally

If you’ve been feeling more isolated and pulled inward through the winter and early spring - you may be feeling the pull to get closer.

What conversations have you been putting off?

The full moon amplifies what’s already there. Emotions tend to surface. This might look like feelings becoming harder to contain which can show up as friction, but it’s also an opening and an opportunity for connection. Things that have been simmering just below the surface tend to want to come out.

Libra energy asks: Do I feel seen? And am I showing up to see? It’s a good moment to check in with yourself and each other; not as a criticism but as an act of care.

Spring renewal isn’t about reinventing your relationship. But instead returning to what matters - the micro moments that make a difference.

A simple prompt for tonight under this pink moon:

🌸What’s one thing you want more of between us this spring?”🌸

Simple, low-pressure and open.

Use this moons energy to have that chat you’ve been putting off.

Big Moon love ❤️

This is 46 ❤️What an unexpectedly beautiful day 😍And I’ve made jokes all day about being closer to 50 than 40; but what ...
26/03/2026

This is 46 ❤️

What an unexpectedly beautiful day 😍

And I’ve made jokes all day about being closer to 50 than 40; but what a privilege.

I have the most wonderful people in my life and my dream job ❤️

What could you do on this ordinary Tuesday for yourself, your partner and your relationship?
13/01/2026

What could you do on this ordinary Tuesday for yourself, your partner and your relationship?

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