19/06/2026
What is actually happening today, and what are you imagining could happen?… This is a question I often find myself asking people in conversations. There seems to be something about it that allows space between the life we are living and the scenarios our minds can imagine. Our minds have this incredible ability to travel beyond the present moment. We can revisit things that happened years ago and feel them again - and we can also move into imagined futures and experience emotions connected to moments that haven’t arrived. We can find ourselves grieving losses we haven’t had, preparing for conversations that may never happen, fighting battles or trying to solve problems that aren’t actually in front of us today. The thing is…we’re not just “in our head” when we’re elsewhere than right here right now. Our nervous system is registering and responding to the replaying of shame and the anticipation of threat. These thoughts become intense inner experiences. Often there is relief in returning to the question…what is actually happening today? We are only ever able to live one moment at a time yet simultaneously we can live in different time zones of our lives - shuttling between past and future. This is a strange tension in being human. A way of finding peace is learning to carry the burden of yesterday and the uncertainty of tomorrow without leaving today too soon. ☺️
