Our Brave Hearts

Our Brave Hearts Perinatal Psychotherapist and Matrescence Coach The articles I read were all related to motherhood and I felt as though the writer spoke directly to me.

If you’re reading this, it tells me that you would like to know a little more about me and how I got to where I am now i.e being a life coach and a Demartini Method Facilitator who works with mothers. I personally always love to read about someone I am in interested in following online or working with, I hope you enjoy what you read here on my page and feel free to message me if you have any quest

ions regarding what I do. The night before a work conference that my husband had helped organise began, I was online (nothing new there) and I cant remember exactly what it was that I was reading, but I stumbled upon the most beautiful blog that set fireworks off in my heart and mind (there were a few tears as well, I can assure you). I didn’t sleep much that night as I stayed up very late reading what felt like EVERYTHING on this woman’s blog. I felt different when I woke up and as the day and evening and then weekend progressed, I knew something inside of me had changed and could no longer be ignored. It was as if all of a sudden I could see what had always been there, the blinkers were gone. I spoke to a mother of two children during a break in the conference and we connected as only mothers can, we shared our birth stories both brutal and beautiful. I listened to stories of a mother who did not want to go to a party because she felt that she would have nothing of interest to add to the conversation as she was ‘just’ a stay at home mum, and of a wife who questioned her value in terms of what she could contribute to a family business, she was also a stay at home mum at that particular time. There was an amazing woman who told me that she felt torn between happiness and guilt because she enjoyed going to work as she was getting a break from her children for a while. It was as if the universe was talking to me. I began to remember conversations of other women I had met over the years since I had become a mother. All of these women, myself included, had a story to tell. Some of these stories were painful to listen to as they confessed how difficult they were finding motherhood, or how going back to work had left them heartbroken or relieved, either way both options left the mother consumed by guilt. Other stories made me cry with laughter as I was regaled with episodes of exploding nappies, leaking breasts at the most inappropriate times and the madness that had kicked in due to lack of sleep. There are so many reasons to feel connected to one another and yet so many of us feel alone. I researched how I could interact with mothers in such a tangible way that would allow me to help them change their lives. Since then I have completed my advanced diploma in personal coaching and have set up my coaching business, Our Brave Hearts. I have also completed The Demartini Method Training Program and I am now a Demartini Method Facilitator. The Demartini Method developed by Dr. John Demartini is a scientific process that balances perceptions and emotions. It is being used professionally by many psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, educators, consultants and health professionals across the world. The Demartini Method is a tool with a 1000 uses for empowering and inspiring life and its applications include reducing stress, resolving conflict and creating new perspectives and paradigms for life. So now you know a little bit about me and how I came to be in this position of reaching out to women. How can I help you? Is there something on your mind that you haven’t told anyone about and it feels heavy to carry this around all the time? Are you struggling with the day to day reality of motherhood and trying to balance a career as well?Would you like some help to clarify what it is that you want for yourself right now? It can be so difficult to honour our needs when we aren’t even sure what they really are. You’re not alone. I’ll be here, ready to meet you half way and recognise your Brave Heart.

“I want my wife back” — this is something I hear a lot.This is my “Fragments of self” series. Bits of writing pulled fro...
08/08/2026

“I want my wife back” — this is something I hear a lot.

This is my “Fragments of self” series. Bits of writing pulled from old journals, notes app entries, things scribbled down and never shared. Not a real-time diary, not always dated, not always explained. Just what was on my mind in a moment of time ❤️

This one’s from the early days.

I often hear mothers tell me that their partner/husband misses who they used to be, that they want their wife “back”.

This is not said to be hurtful, but perhaps because society has encouraged us to believe that if we just hold on long enough, if we can just get through the first few days, weeks, months, the “old” us will reappear and everything will go back to “normal”.

This can feel very hurtful for the mother, without her being able to put it into words because she may not have even joined the dots yet, but it can feel scary because there is then a pressure to be ok, to be who she used to be and this somehow implies that her hurt, her vulnerabilities, her uncertainties are not welcome.

In fact, some mums can then make this mean that they are being awkward, they’re asking too much, they’re being dramatic.

But the home is no longer as she left it before she had the baby, it now has to accommodate the woman, who is now a mother. And this version of self is not the same as the one who existed before.

How does one ‘go back’ into a life that no longer fits the whole of who she is today?

The mother is now the home, the home of her baby, her family.

06/08/2026

Without the language of matrescence, describing what happened to your sense of self when you became a mother is like describing what the colour yellow tastes like.

Dr. Aurelie Athan likened matrescence to adolescence in order to highlight that it is also a time of major developmental transition, hormonal shifts, brain changes, identity evolution.

Language matters.

A gathering on matrescence in solidarity with the mothers of Palestine ❤️‍🔥So much of matrescence (the transition to mot...
05/08/2026

A gathering on matrescence in solidarity with the mothers of Palestine ❤️‍🔥

So much of matrescence (the transition to motherhood) happens without anyone holding the space for it. We’re expected to arrive on the other side of birth fully formed, grateful, coping. And underneath that expectation, so many of us are quietly unravelling and rebuilding at the same time, with nowhere to put it down.

On Sunday 16th August at 11am, I’m hosting an online gathering, part teaching, part conversation, part simply being in the (virtual) room with others. We’ll talk about what matrescence actually is, why it’s so rarely named, and what changes when we finally have language for what we’re living through.

This gathering is part of a nationwide fundraising Gathering for Palestine campaign by Irish Psychotherapists for Palestine supporting therapeutic services for children and families in Palestine.

People all over Ireland are running events in their own way, playing to their own strengths, discussing this topic is mine ❤️😍

All funds will support a new Psychosocial project in the North of Gaza.

In partnership with Gaza go Bragh this new project will be called Nour-al-Tufula, meaning “the light of childhood.” This project will provide Play & Art to children in the North of Gaza. 🇵🇸❤️

Suggested donation is €10–€25, or whatever is possible for you. No amount is too small, and no one will be turned away.

To join: donate via the link in comments, screenshot your donation, and send it to me (either message me here, DM me on IG or email [email protected]) and I’ll send your Zoom link straight back.

Bring yourself, however you’re arriving. There’s room for all of it.

In solidarity, with love,
Jacqueline x

📅 Sunday 16th August, 11am
💻 Online via Zoom
💶 Suggested donation €10–€25 (or whatever feels right for you) — link in comments

If I could hold that version of myself in my arms today, I would do so with such love and tenderness. She was brave to s...
04/08/2026

If I could hold that version of myself in my arms today, I would do so with such love and tenderness. She was brave to speak the words that felt frightening. She was brave to talk about the parts of motherhood that felt so hard and so lonely.

It was her that led me to the work I do today.

When I sit with mothers who speak through their tears, I feel the pain and the judgement and the guilt and the disbelief echo in their words.

There is a sentence that I hear over and over from mothers, and that sentence is “I didn’t expect it to be this hard.”

The transition to motherhood can be so much heavier than anyone tells you it will be.

It asks you to grieve a version of yourself while you’re still learning the shape of the one you’re becoming, often with no space to say so out loud. So many mothers carry that weight quietly, certain they must be the only one who feels this way.

They aren’t.

I wasn’t either.

Swipe through for the post that changed the course of my work, written by the woman I once was, for every mother who needs to hear it now.

The world’s silence is killing them.Silence is normalising genocide as a background to our lives. I cannot and will not ...
04/07/2026

The world’s silence is killing them.

Silence is normalising genocide as a background to our lives.

I cannot and will not be complicit in the killing of mothers and children.

Communities to join if you haven’t already done so:




















movement

This is why educating ourselves about and taking action for decolonising therapy is so important. I believe that when a ...
30/06/2026

This is why educating ourselves about and taking action for decolonising therapy is so important.

I believe that when a field built on supremacy, unacknowledged privilege and exclusion calls itself the authority, it goes way beyond failing the mothers it ignores. It is actively causing harm and we cannot say we didn’t know.

When industries (such as the maternal mental health one) are not acknowledging the mental health of mothers whose children are being killed whilst the world watches on, it’s silence is deafening.

It tells those mothers that their lived realities are outside the bounds of what is considered worthy of care, that their pain doesn’t count. That their grief doesn’t qualify.

We are watching that harm being inflicted in real time. You and I.

Black mothers, Indigenous mothers, mothers living under occupation and state violence have language for such catastrophic, state-sanctioned loss. For grief that is political. For mothering under conditions of violence and occupation.

The knowledge exists. It has just been systematically excluded from the field that calls itself the authority.

Some accounts for you:
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themamaspace

As I read over the words I wrote 8 years ago, I realise they ring as true for today as he prepares for his last day tomo...
25/06/2026

As I read over the words I wrote 8 years ago, I realise they ring as true for today as he prepares for his last day tomorrow.

What a privilege to watch this boy of mine fly.

13/06/2026

I don’t want to trim this piece in order to please a system that encourages us to speak faster, perform better and contort ourselves into something that looks and sounds like everything else.

Pouring of words onto a page offers me something. The page receives without judgment and holds unconditionally.

The time of teenage years is almost upon me and it feels like I am caught up in the marching on of time but just want to stand still, for a moment, just let me stand still for a moment.

A mother’s love.

Not every mother who sits with me comes because of motherhood.Anxiety. Relationship difficulties. A creeping sense that ...
02/06/2026

Not every mother who sits with me comes because of motherhood.

Anxiety. Relationship difficulties. A creeping sense that they’ve lost themselves somewhere along the way. Feeling like they’re failing at everything and succeeding at nothing.

Not always “motherhood stuff.” And yet motherhood is always there. Shaping how they see themselves, how they move through the world, how much they feel they deserve support.

That’s why I work the way I do.

A matrescence-informed lens adds depth and insight to everything we explore together, whatever it may be that brings you through the door.

I am delighted to offer the two new spaces that have come available:

❤️ Tuesday 12:45 · In-person · Skerries

❤️ Friday 9am · Online

Link in bio to book a free 20-minute consultation call. 🌿

Touched by sorrow, flavoured with grief and abundant in love.Sometimes, not all the time, I feel my life in every single...
30/05/2026

Touched by sorrow, flavoured with grief and abundant in love.

Sometimes, not all the time, I feel my life in every single cell in my body.

The simplicity, the mundane, they take my breath away.

A mother’s love

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