Monaghan Therapy Clinic - Counselling & Psychotherapy

Monaghan Therapy Clinic - Counselling & Psychotherapy IACP acredired psychotherapist. Speak English, Lithuanian and Russian. Hello, I'm Kristina Silovs, the founder of Monaghan Therapy Clinic.

My own personal journey has shaped my passion for helping individuals navigate their unique paths towards self-discovery and healing. With a profound understanding of the challenges life can present, I have dedicated myself to creating a space where individuals can embark on transformative journeys. Having witnessed the power of therapy firsthand, I established Monaghan Therapy Clinic in 2022 as a

haven for personal growth and empowerment. Drawing from years of experience, we are committed to providing compassionate and client-centred care. At Monaghan Therapy Clinic, we believe in the importance of creating a safe and non-judgmental environment where individuals can freely explore their thoughts, emotions, and experiences. Through a collaborative approach, we work together to cultivate increased self-awareness, develop effective coping strategies, and strengthen relationships. Our goal is to empower you to navigate life's challenges with resilience, finding renewed purpose and meaning along the way. Together, we can embark on a transformative journey that leads to personal growth, healing, and an overall sense of well-being. I invite you to join me on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment. At Monaghan Therapy Clinic, we are dedicated to supporting you every step of the way as you embark on your own path towards healing and personal transformation.

Unresolved resentment is often quiet.It may not always look like anger.Sometimes it looks like emotional distance.Irrita...
24/06/2026

Unresolved resentment is often quiet.

It may not always look like anger.
Sometimes it looks like emotional distance.
Irritability.
Tension in the body.
Replaying conversations.
Feeling drained after certain interactions.
A heaviness you cannot quite name.

Resentment often grows when hurt, disappointment, unmet needs, or ignored boundaries are pushed down instead of acknowledged.

And over time, what remains unspoken can still shape relationships, trust, self-respect, emotional energy, and the ability to feel joy.

Resentment is not a flaw.

It is often a signal.

A signal that something mattered.
A signal that something hurt.
A signal that a boundary, need, or feeling may need gentle attention.

Healing does not always begin with forgetting.

Sometimes, it begins with understanding what the resentment is trying to show you.

Therapy can offer a safe space to explore the hurt underneath, reconnect with your needs, and find healthier ways forward.

Monaghan Therapy Clinic
Counselling & Psychotherapy

Trauma does not only affect memory.It can also affect the way you experience choice.For many people, trauma shapes how s...
18/06/2026

Trauma does not only affect memory.

It can also affect the way you experience choice.

For many people, trauma shapes how safe or unsafe a decision feels in the moment. The body may react before the mind has time to reflect. A person may freeze, avoid, agree too quickly, struggle to set boundaries, or doubt their own judgement.

This is not simply indecision.

It is often a survival response.

When trauma has taught the nervous system to prioritise protection, choice can start to feel limited, confusing, or emotionally costly. You may know what you want deep down, but still find it hard to act on it.

Healing can help rebuild that sense of agency.

With support, it becomes possible to slow down, recognise what your body is signalling, understand old patterns, and begin making choices from a place of greater safety and self-trust.

Monaghan Therapy Clinic
Counselling & Psychotherapy

Self-compassion is often misunderstood.Some people worry that being kind to themselves means making excuses, avoiding re...
16/06/2026

Self-compassion is often misunderstood.

Some people worry that being kind to themselves means making excuses, avoiding responsibility, or feeling sorry for themselves.

But self-compassion is not self-pity.

Self-pity can keep us stuck in helplessness, isolation, and the belief that nothing can change.

Self-compassion does something different.

It allows us to recognise pain without attacking ourselves.
It helps us respond with kindness instead of criticism.
It makes room for honesty without shame.
It reminds us that we can be hurting and still take the next small step.

Self-compassion does not remove responsibility.

It helps us meet pain, mistakes, stress, and growth with a kinder inner voice.

Sometimes healing begins with learning to say:

“This is hard, and I am allowed to feel it.”
“I do not need to shame myself to grow.”
“I can begin again without punishing myself.”

If this resonates with you, support is available.

Monaghan Therapy Clinic
Counselling & Psychotherapy

When the world feels unjust and heavy, it can affect us deeply.Distressing events can stir anger, fear, sadness, helples...
13/06/2026

When the world feels unjust and heavy, it can affect us deeply.

Distressing events can stir anger, fear, sadness, helplessness, confusion, and emotional exhaustion. These reactions are not weakness. They are human responses to pain, uncertainty, and suffering.

In moments like these, it helps to care for your mind gently.

Take breaks from upsetting footage.
Ground yourself in the present.
Keep to simple routines.
Talk to someone you trust.
Let yourself step away when you need to.

It is also important to remember that hope can still live, even in difficult times.

Hope can be found in people who help, in honest conversations, in small acts of care, in moments of rest, and in choosing compassion over despair.

For many people, hope is also found in faith in God and prayer. In painful times, faith can offer comfort, strength, and a reminder that darkness does not have the final word.

You do not have to carry distress on your own.

Support is available, and reaching out can be a brave step toward healing.

Monaghan Therapy Clinic
Counselling & Psychotherapy

Why do so many people say yes when they really want to say no?Often, it is not just about being nice.For many people, sa...
11/06/2026

Why do so many people say yes when they really want to say no?

Often, it is not just about being nice.

For many people, saying yes is linked to safety.

The nervous system may learn that avoiding tension, keeping others happy, or staying agreeable feels safer than being honest about discomfort. When this happens, approval can start to feel more important than authenticity.

This pattern can show up as overcommitting, difficulty setting boundaries, guilt after saying no, emotional exhaustion, and losing touch with what you actually want.

It is not a weakness.

It is often a protective response shaped by past experiences, stress, or fear of disconnection.

The good news is that this pattern can change.

With awareness, support, and therapy, it is possible to build healthier boundaries, tolerate discomfort, and help the brain learn that saying no can also be safe.

Monaghan Therapy Clinic
Counselling & Psychotherapy

June is Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, a time to raise awareness, reduce stigma, and remind men that support is av...
09/06/2026

June is Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, a time to raise awareness, reduce stigma, and remind men that support is available.

Mental health struggles in men do not always look obvious.

They can show up as stress, burnout, irritability, emotional shutdown, constant pressure, isolation, difficulty asking for help, or simply saying “I’m fine” when things are not fine.

Many men feel they need to cope alone.
Many fear being judged.
Many have been taught to hide vulnerability instead of talking about what they feel.

But struggling does not make someone weak.

Reaching out, talking to someone you trust, naming what you are going through, and seeking support can be powerful first steps toward healing.

Therapy can help men better understand stress, emotions, and patterns that may be affecting their wellbeing.

Support is available, and asking for help is a sign of strength.

Monaghan Therapy Clinic
Counselling & Psychotherapy

Emotional hypervigilance is more than feeling stressed.It is a heightened state of alertness where the brain and nervous...
04/06/2026

Emotional hypervigilance is more than feeling stressed.

It is a heightened state of alertness where the brain and nervous system stay focused on possible danger, even when there is no immediate threat.

For many people, this can show up as overthinking, reading too much into tone or facial expressions, feeling constantly on edge, expecting criticism, or struggling to relax in safe environments.

This response often develops through past trauma, chronic stress, repeated emotional threat, or growing up in unpredictable environments.

It is not a character flaw.

It is a protective pattern the mind and body have learned in order to survive.

The good news is that healing is possible.

With the right support, it is possible to understand triggers, regulate the nervous system, rebuild a sense of safety, and help the brain learn that not every situation is a threat.

Therapy can help you feel calmer, safer, and more grounded in daily life.

Monaghan Therapy Clinic
Counselling & Psychotherapy

Why does your mind keep preparing for the worst?Sometimes, this is not negativity.It is protection.When the brain has le...
02/06/2026

Why does your mind keep preparing for the worst?

Sometimes, this is not negativity.

It is protection.

When the brain has learned to expect stress, disappointment, criticism, or uncertainty, it can start scanning for danger before anything has even happened.

You may find yourself overthinking small situations, expecting bad news, replaying conversations, or constantly asking, “What if something goes wrong?”

This can feel exhausting, but it often comes from a nervous system trying to keep you safe.

The goal is not to shame yourself for these thoughts.

The goal is to understand the pattern, separate facts from feared outcomes, and slowly teach the mind and body that not every thought is a warning.

With support, it is possible to feel more grounded, more present, and less controlled by worst-case thinking.

Monaghan Therapy Clinic
Counselling & Psychotherapy

People-pleasing can look like kindness from the outside.But sometimes, beneath the constant yes, the apologies, the fear...
28/05/2026

People-pleasing can look like kindness from the outside.

But sometimes, beneath the constant yes, the apologies, the fear of disappointing others, and the habit of putting everyone else first, there is something deeper happening.

People-pleasing can become a survival pattern.

For some people, it begins as a way to avoid conflict, stay accepted, protect relationships, or feel safe. Over time, saying yes when you want to say no can start to feel normal.

But the cost can be heavy.

Exhaustion.
Resentment.
Blurred boundaries.
Losing touch with your own needs.
Relationships built on performance instead of honesty.

Healing begins when you start noticing where you abandon yourself to keep the peace.

You are allowed to have needs.
You are allowed to say no.
You are allowed to be honest.
You do not have to disappear to be loved.

Therapy can help you understand these patterns and rebuild boundaries with more confidence and self-compassion.

Monaghan Therapy Clinic
Counselling & Psychotherapy

Why does the brain sometimes choose familiar pain over unknown peace?Because the brain is built for prediction.When some...
26/05/2026

Why does the brain sometimes choose familiar pain over unknown peace?

Because the brain is built for prediction.

When something is familiar, even if it is painful, your nervous system knows what to expect. It knows the pattern. It knows how to prepare. It knows how to survive it.

Peace, on the other hand, can feel unknown.

A healthy relationship may feel strange.
Calm may feel uncomfortable.
Being treated kindly may feel suspicious.
Rest may feel unsafe.
A new way of living may feel harder than repeating an old pattern.

This does not mean you are broken.

It often means your brain and body learned to protect you in environments where uncertainty felt dangerous.

Healing begins when you start noticing the familiar patterns, pausing before repeating them, and slowly allowing calm to feel safe.

You can learn to trust peace again.

Monaghan Therapy Clinic
Counselling & Psychotherapy

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YWCA Building, North Road, Co. Monaghan, H18KF 98
Monaghan
H18KF98

Opening Hours

Monday 10am - 4pm
Tuesday 10am - 3pm
Wednesday 10am - 6pm
Thursday 10am - 8pm

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