Monaghan Therapy Clinic - Counselling & Psychotherapy

Monaghan Therapy Clinic - Counselling & Psychotherapy IACP acredired psychotherapist. Speak English, Lithuanian and Russian. Hello, I'm Kristina Silovs, the founder of Monaghan Therapy Clinic.

My own personal journey has shaped my passion for helping individuals navigate their unique paths towards self-discovery and healing. With a profound understanding of the challenges life can present, I have dedicated myself to creating a space where individuals can embark on transformative journeys. Having witnessed the power of therapy firsthand, I established Monaghan Therapy Clinic in 2022 as a

haven for personal growth and empowerment. Drawing from years of experience, we are committed to providing compassionate and client-centred care. At Monaghan Therapy Clinic, we believe in the importance of creating a safe and non-judgmental environment where individuals can freely explore their thoughts, emotions, and experiences. Through a collaborative approach, we work together to cultivate increased self-awareness, develop effective coping strategies, and strengthen relationships. Our goal is to empower you to navigate life's challenges with resilience, finding renewed purpose and meaning along the way. Together, we can embark on a transformative journey that leads to personal growth, healing, and an overall sense of well-being. I invite you to join me on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment. At Monaghan Therapy Clinic, we are dedicated to supporting you every step of the way as you embark on your own path towards healing and personal transformation.

Some grief does not begin with death.Sometimes the person is still alive, but the relationship you had with them is gone...
04/09/2026

Some grief does not begin with death.

Sometimes the person is still alive, but the relationship you had with them is gone.
Or the closeness is gone.
Or the hope of being met, understood, or loved in the way you needed has begun to fade.

This kind of grief can feel especially painful because it is often invisible.

There may be no clear ending.
No shared acknowledgement.
No ritual for the loss.
Only the quiet ache of missing someone who is still here.

You may grieve the person they used to be.
The relationship you hoped could still be repaired.
The version of you that kept waiting.
The future you imagined with them.

And with that grief, other feelings may live alongside it too:
sadness, anger, guilt, relief, longing, even love.

That does not make your grief less real.
It makes it human.

Healing does not ask you to deny the attachment or pretend the loss did not matter.
It begins by allowing yourself to name what has been lost, even when the person is still alive.

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Sometimes happiness can feel like something you have to earn.You tell yourself you can rest after everything is done.You...
01/09/2026

Sometimes happiness can feel like something you have to earn.

You tell yourself you can rest after everything is done.
You can celebrate after the next goal.
You can enjoy life once you have been productive enough, useful enough, disciplined enough.

But the finish line keeps moving.

For some people, this belief begins early. Love may have felt easier to access when you achieved, helped, behaved, or asked for very little. Rest may have been treated like laziness. Needs may have felt inconvenient.

Over time, happiness can start to feel like a reward instead of something you are allowed to experience.

Healing can mean learning that joy does not need justification.

Rest does not have to be earned.
Pleasure is not irresponsibility.
Your worth is not measured only by what you accomplish.

You can still be ambitious, responsible, and deeply committed to your life without postponing every good feeling until you think you deserve it.

Happiness is not something you have to purchase with exhaustion.

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A safe therapeutic space is something I never take for granted.One of the most meaningful parts of my work as a psychoth...
27/08/2026

A safe therapeutic space is something I never take for granted.

One of the most meaningful parts of my work as a psychotherapist is hearing how a client experiences the therapeutic space.

A recent client review included these words:

"She has created a completely safe, welcoming, and non-judgmental environment that allowed me to open up at my own pace."

Reading this made me pause and reflect on how important the therapeutic relationship is.

For me, therapy is about creating a space where a person feels heard, respected and accepted — without judgement or pressure to move faster than they are ready for.

It is about building trust, listening carefully, respecting each person's individual experience, and working collaboratively.

I am very grateful to have received 26 five-star reviews. Each one represents someone who took the time to share their experience, and I never take that trust for granted.

Client feedback also gives me an opportunity to reflect, learn and continue developing my practice.

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to share their experience. It means a great deal.

Anger is not always only anger.Sometimes it is protecting something more vulnerable underneath.It may be guarding hurt t...
27/08/2026

Anger is not always only anger.

Sometimes it is protecting something more vulnerable underneath.

It may be guarding hurt that was never named.
Fear of being dismissed.
A younger part that once felt powerless.
A boundary that was crossed.
Grief that has not yet found words.

This does not make your anger wrong.
It may mean your anger has been trying to do a job.

For many people, anger becomes the emotion that steps forward when softer feelings have not felt safe enough to be seen. It can create distance, strength, and protection, even while something more tender is asking to be understood.

Healing is not about silencing anger.

It is about becoming curious about what it has been trying to protect.

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Sometimes you reach the goal, get what you worked for, and still feel an unexpected emptiness.That can be confusing.Even...
26/08/2026

Sometimes you reach the goal, get what you worked for, and still feel an unexpected emptiness.

That can be confusing.
Even shame-inducing.
You may wonder if you are ungrateful, if the achievement meant nothing, or if something is wrong with you.

But emptiness after achievement does not always mean you chose the wrong thing.

Sometimes it means the external milestone did not meet the deeper emotional need beneath it.

You may have been longing for peace, worth, rest, connection, or a sense of wholeness. And while achievement can be meaningful, it cannot always give what only deeper inner work, grief, healing, or self-understanding can offer.

Sometimes success ends the chase.
And in that silence, a more honest question appears:

What is it that I truly need now?

The emptiness may not be a failure.
It may be an invitation to listen more closely to yourself.

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Sometimes tears show up right in the middle of anger.That can feel confusing, especially when what you want is to speak ...
20/08/2026

Sometimes tears show up right in the middle of anger.

That can feel confusing, especially when what you want is to speak clearly, stay firm, or be taken seriously. But crying when angry does not mean your anger is less real.

Often, it means more than one feeling is present at once.

Anger may be there.
But so may hurt.
Disappointment.
Helplessness.
Grief.
Emotional overwhelm.

For some people, tears are not the opposite of anger. They are part of how anger is felt in the body.

This can happen when something important feels wounded, when the nervous system becomes flooded, or when it has not always felt safe to express anger directly.

Crying does not make you weak.
It does not make you manipulative.
And it does not cancel the truth of what you feel.

Sometimes tears are simply carrying the vulnerability beneath the anger.

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Sometimes the anger is not only about what just happened.A comment, a delay, a disappointment, or a moment of feeling di...
18/08/2026

Sometimes the anger is not only about what just happened.

A comment, a delay, a disappointment, or a moment of feeling dismissed can seem small on the surface. But when the reaction feels bigger than the event, it may be because something older has been touched.

Anger can carry many layers.

Old hurt that was never named.
Accumulated resentment.
Exhaustion from overgiving.
The pain of not being heard.
A boundary that has been crossed too many times.
A part of you that has been trying to feel protected.

This does not mean your anger is wrong.
It may mean it deserves to be understood more deeply.

Healing is not about silencing anger. It is about becoming curious about what it is trying to say, what it is protecting, and what it may be asking for.

You are not too much.
Sometimes anger is simply the voice of what has gone unaddressed for too long.

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Some forms of loneliness do not come from being alone.They come from being surrounded by people who know what you do, de...
13/08/2026

Some forms of loneliness do not come from being alone.

They come from being surrounded by people who know what you do, depend on what you provide, and appreciate how capable you are, while still not really knowing you.

They know your role.
Your strength.
Your reliability.
Your usefulness.

But they may not know your fears, your needs, your tenderness, or the parts of you that also need care.

Being valued is not always the same as being seen.

And when your worth becomes tied to what you offer, it can become difficult to ask:
Who knows me beyond what I do for others?

Healing may begin when you no longer settle for relationships built only around your function, and begin making room for ones where your presence matters too.

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Outgrowing the role your family gave you can bring a very particular kind of grief.Sometimes you were the peacemaker.The...
12/08/2026

Outgrowing the role your family gave you can bring a very particular kind of grief.

Sometimes you were the peacemaker.
The strong one.
The achiever.
The caretaker.
The easy child.

These roles may have helped you survive, belong, or stay connected. But healing can make them feel too small for who you are becoming.

That is where grief can appear.

You may grieve the role itself.
You may grieve the approval that came with it.
You may grieve the certainty of knowing who you had to be.

And still, growth can be right.

Becoming more fully yourself is not a betrayal.
It is often a necessary part of healing.

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Sometimes being needed can feel like love.When people rely on you, praise you for always being there, or turn to you eve...
06/08/2026

Sometimes being needed can feel like love.

When people rely on you, praise you for always being there, or turn to you every time they are overwhelmed, it can create a powerful sense of worth. But being needed is not always the same as being loved.

Many people learn early that closeness comes through usefulness.
Being the helper.
The strong one.
The dependable one.
The one who asks for little and gives a lot.

Over time, it can become hard to tell the difference between love and overgiving.

Real love makes room for mutuality, honesty, boundaries, rest, and being known beyond what you do for others.

You do not have to earn love by being endlessly useful.

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YWCA Building, North Road, Co. Monaghan, H18KF 98
Monaghan
H18KF98

Opening Hours

Monday 10am - 4pm
Tuesday 10am - 3pm
Wednesday 10am - 6pm
Thursday 10am - 8pm

Telephone

+353874868684

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