10/06/2026
When you treat the real root cause, symptoms disappear.
A young woman came to see after breaking up with her boyfriend. She was terrified she would not be able to move because he was so controlling. She was crippled with worry and feelings of anxiety, so much so she struggled to sleep, eat and function day to day.
What emerged was a story about repeated relationship patterns. Each piece of the story revealed feelings of grief, a lack of boundaries, low self-worth and feelings of carrying the weight of the world on her shoulders. She couldn’t shake the feeling that somehow this just didn’t all add up; it felt so heavy to carry and at 19 it just didn’t seem right.
Many women I work with arrive believing they have an anxiety problem. They have learned to believe this is who they are. They have adopted the label that society has given them - that they’re anxious. And they have learned to forget that they haven’t always been this way.
When we work together, they begin to remember life before anxiety took over. A life before stress and burnout and overwhelm and exhaustion. They remember a time when life felt easier, freer, happier.
So what happened?
Stress, anxiety, overwhelm, exhaustion… these are symptoms. In the same way that a bucket with a hole in it can’t hold water - you fix the hole in the bucket (root cause) instead of trying to add more water (symptom). So you see, symptoms are like messengers, they point towards the problem - something that needs to be seen, acknowledged and healed. It’s not the anxiety that is the problem, you need to uncover the cause of the anxiety in the first place.
When we stop focusing solely on the symptoms, we open ourselves up to understanding what is actually going on at a deeper level. This is when everything changes. Not just for you, but perhaps for your whole family.
What if the thing causing you the most pain right now is actually trying to teach you something?
DM me if this story resonates with you at a deeper level.
Bláithín x