22/11/2024
Unfortunately, many parents are taught to achieve parenting by something called as harsh love by criticism, punishment, neglect, abusing the child or even isolating them.
Children need love ❄️ necessarily not the harsh ones.
Love which means warmth, affection that is consistent, secure and healthy🌈. No parents wants their children to be sad, hurtful, in pain. They want to see them flourish with colors, happiness and joy and in the pursuit of these goals, parents can go too far by overscheduling kids, micromanaging them, refusing to recognize learning or emotional struggles for what they are, modeling unhealthy responses to stress, violating boundaries, or criticizing kids or comparing them to others—even siblings—out of frustration.✨
What happens when a child feels angry? 😠What happens when the child is heart broken or feels guilty? 💔Have they been taught how to cope with these life challenges? Have they been taught how to self-regulate their emotions? Do they know how it is to sit with sadness? 🌼
Healthy parenting means allowing them to make mistakes, pick their choices, fall and then let them rise from their pain. 🍁Healthy parents let them feel they’re capable, they’re enough and worthy. They hug them, caress them, let them take a step back and come back with power of resilience and grit to deal with their internal emotional world✨ Empower them🌱
This helps them ride with the waves 🌊 of life without drowning but get up over and over again with greater courage. 🎁
