30/08/2026
We state this without thinking… She’s lost her spark, her spirit seems low...
We say these things because we can see them long before someone can explain what they’re carrying, it shows up in the body: the flat gaze, the heaviness, the spark that used to be there and isn’t. The eyes report what the mouth hasn’t found words for yet.
That flatness isn’t a character flaw or a mood someone should snap out of. It’s often a nervous system that’s been asked to hold too much, dimming itself to cope. And the quiet truth is that it rarely lifts through willpower alone. It lifts through being seen, and being met.
So if you’ve noticed it in someone, say something. And if you’ve felt it in yourself, that’s worth taking seriously, not pushing past.
Written by Anitha D, Trauma-Trained Somatic Psychotherapist and founder of The Mind Body Counselling Center, Chennai. Sessions online and in person.
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