Triyoke

01/11/2025

When desire becomes memory we lose something.

In a marriage, it sounds like silence. The arguments stop, not because peace has arrived, but because resignation has. The words that once bridged difference now lie unused, and the calm feels heavy, not healing.

In parenting, it looks like compliance. You pander instead of engage, agree instead of connect. The air stays smooth, but the current underneath runs cold — the spark of honest exchange quietly gone.

And within yourself, it feels like stillness mistaken for peace. You call it acceptance, but it’s fatigue. You stop questioning, stop reaching, until complacency dresses itself up as calm.

When desire becomes a memory, the graveyard of having tried stretches endlessly behind you, and the orchard of hope is a distant scent you can no longer place.
Connection turns into coexistence. The living parts of love fall asleep — quietly, completely.

28/10/2025

Stability isn’t stillness.

When you hold a plank, it looks like stillness from the outside. But your muscles are in constant motion — tightening, releasing, readjusting — to keep you balanced. Even when sitting, your body makes countless small shifts to stay upright. You are stable because you keep moving.

Emotional stability works the same way. We often think stability in relationships means sameness — the same gestures, the same rhythm, no surprises. But real stability isn’t about holding still; it’s about staying responsive. It’s the ability to keep adjusting as life changes shape around us.

When your child was a baby, safety looked like being held in your arms. You carried their whole world. As a teenager, that same safety looks completely different — it’s in your listening, your trust, your willingness to give them freedom. The connection remains, but its form evolves.

In a marriage too, the needs of the early years — closeness, reassurance, the urgency of togetherness — often soften and shift a decade later. Stability here isn’t about preserving what once was, but recognizing what is needed now and meeting it with awareness.

Stable relationships are alive. They flex, breathe, and recalibrate. They don’t depend on predictability but on presence — the willingness to notice what’s changing and to move in response.

Stability is dynamic, not static.
It’s not about staying still; it’s about staying attuned, so connection can keep finding its balance through every new season.

09/05/2025

What Can We Do?
We cannot control the world outside—but we can influence how our children experience and interpret it. Here’s how:

1. Shield Them from the Media
Graphic images, disturbing headlines, and the dramatic tone of newscasters can make children feel no one is in control. Catch up on news privately. Limit their exposure—not to hide the truth, but to protect their emotional safety.

2. Focus on the Present
In a world that feels shaky, children need to know their immediate world is stable. Stick to routines. Share meals. Laugh together. Remind them—again and again—that they are safe.

3. Use Honest, Simple Language
You don’t need to explain everything. You can say, “Something sad happened in a place we love. People are upset. We’re staying safe and helping where we can.” Let them lead with questions if they want to know more.

4. Give Clear Reassurance
If your child expresses fear about upcoming events—like a planned holiday—reassure them gently: “I understand you’re worried, but the grownups are thinking this through carefully. We are doing everything we can to keep you safe, and we’ll be okay.” This clear and consistent reassurance helps ground their sense of security.

5. Handle Tricky Questions with Care
You don’t need perfect answers. Focus on values: “Sometimes people are scared and make hurtful choices. But in our family, we believe every person matters, no matter what they believe or where they’re from.” They may not remember every word, but they will remember how you made them feel—safe or scared, open or closed, kind or suspicious.

6. Understand How Fear Shows Up
Fear doesn’t always look like fear. It shows up in bedtime battles, tantrums, clinginess, or tears over nothing. These are safe outlets for emotions they don’t know how to name. Stay close. Listen. Let the tears come.

7. Don’t Rush to Fix It
Sometimes, the meltdown over the missing shoe or wrong spoon is their way of releasing built-up fear. Don’t distract or analyze. Just stay with them, quietly and lovingly.

05/08/2024

*Support Circle* provides a safe space for participants to share their truth without any judgment and connect with others. This group is designed for individuals at a crossroads in their relationships, whether due to separation, divorce, or loss. Together, we will explore emotions such as grief, shame, and guilt; address the fears and possibilities of being single, managing family expectations, and other concerns that can help us move forward.

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5 sessions of 90 mins each over 1.5 months
Where: Triyoke Therapy Clinic, Hughes Road
When: 11am-12:30pm on 17th Aug, 31st Aug, 14th Sep, 28th Sep and 12th Oct.
Cost: Rs.2500/ for 5 sessions.

22/02/2024

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19/09/2023

03/08/2022

We use social skills to interact and communicate with those around us every day. We do this through the use of both non-verbal communication (eye contact, facial expressions, body language) and verbal communication (volume, speed, tone of voice). Children and adults with ADHD can face challenges when it comes to understanding and implementing these social skills.
The first step of being able to work on this is to recognise that there is a social language that is being spoken that you are not able to decode. So identifying markers of what the language existing and then learning to respond to it would be the helpful steps in working through this challenge.

18/07/2022

ADHD challenges part 2

Emotional regulation skills and behaviour

People on the neurodivergent spectrum find it hard to regulate their feelings.

Think of this ability as one to reduce charge. Every time something doesn’t go our way or the ‘right’ way we collect a charge. As these charges build up we start transferring the charge as off track behaviour. It can look like picking a fight, shouting, getting upset or even needing to go to sleep. Those with ADHD find it hard to reduce their charge. So instead of a well regulated system where charges are moving in and out, this is a system that collects them but doesn’t know how to release them.

With the right support you can learn to build better resilience by working through these charges regularly.

17/07/2022

Russell A. Barkley, Ph.D. a recognized authority on attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD/ADD) in children & adults defines Executive function as a cognitive process that organises thoughts and activities, prioritizes tasks, manages time efficiently and makes decisions.

Any person with ADHD will naturally struggle with some (or all) these twelve executive functions.

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The idea that ADHD is about inattention is a very narrow one. It is about not knowing where to focus one’s attention, for how long and how much. Keep following this series to learn a more nuanced understanding.

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