Muzammil Karim Psychotherapist

26/05/2022

https://www.wthr.com/article/news/local/iu-researchers-develop-blood-test-for-depression-bipolar-disorder-team-neuroscience-psychiatry/531-de1466bc-ef79-4ab2-bd92-8fa55c68f5b6

Dr. Alexander Niculescu and his team have been working to make psychiatry more precise.

05/04/2020

World is not going to be same after this. We are going to experience grief in many forms. The intensity of existing griefs is going to become more exacerbated. The journey is going to be complicated but it's also going to be a great reminder of our strength that only gets recognised in the face of vulnerability...

Aao na aane wale gamon se kuch baat kare
Kuch unki sune kuch apni kahe
Kuch mustaqbil ki baat kare...

The coronavirus pandemic has led to a collective loss of normalcy.

16/03/2020

Love heals, infinite love heals infinitely

06/02/2019

Attacking others often serves to disown what the shameful person feels. In order to escape shame's self-diminishing effects, expressing contempt toward another person, or shaming them, re-locates one's own shame in the other. A man who anticipated being judged as inadequate, for example, would manipulate the self-esteem of his partner by denigrating her. When she became weak, self-conscious, and needed his approval, he was then more confident, as well as able to blame her for any failure on his part. Relocating one's own shame in another person is a typical self-protective maneuver among narcissists, since at the core of narcissism is unbearable internalized shame that is denied consciousness. Needing to hide a devalued sense of self, narcissists can appear self-inflating or entitled, and provoke envy in people around them.

Shame informs you of an internal state of inadequacy, dishonor, or regret .

16/11/2018

Because the avoidant person has learned to ignore and deny his own negative emotions, it will also be very difficult for him to recognize emotional cues in others or have much in the way of empathy. This person will, for all intents and purposes, be emotionally color blind. But, like many color blind people, this person is likely to be unaware that she is not accurately perceiving or adequately attending to others’ emotions. By extension, if you confront the avoidant person with revelations that he is emotionally unavailable and distant, you are likely to be met with denial and strong resistance (because he really doesn’t see it). Obviously, this pattern will wreak havoc in close friendships, romantic relationships, and even leader/follower relationships at work.

Learn to cope with you or your partner’s avoidance of closeness and intimacy

10/09/2018

Socioeconomics of Su***de

The depraved child of the death
Living behind the ruins of life
She feeds on darkest thoughts
Goes stealthy around
Whispers in everyone's head
"Life is worthless
for the ones who stay alive"

The immortal enemy of mortal life
She loves goodbyes
Leaving everyone shocked behind
Ruthless in her intentions
Cruel to worthiness of life

I met her many times
In the dark corners of my own life
And in unknown alleys of other lives
I have spoken to her oftentimes
And at the end of each conversation
She mocks me with this every time:
"I sell death only because you want to buy."

P.S.: Death is a bitter truth sold to us as drug in the form of su***de.
P.P.S.: One death (su***de) every 40 sec (WHO, 2017).

***depreventionday

15/06/2018

To heal sometimes we need to fall apart...

16/05/2018

When you’re in a negative mood you tend to expect more negative outcomes and see yourself and others more negatively. When you are sad or depressed, you are likely to see yourself as having little to be happy about or that you have little to look forward to. You are more attuned to painful events. When your mood changes your view of your future is more optimistic and your see the many reasons you have to be grateful though nothing changed other than your mood

Thinking we are right in our perceptions may be an illusion.

22/02/2018

For a long time, I convinced myself that a childhood spent immersed in old-fashioned books would insulate me somehow from our new media climate – that I could keep on reading and writing in the old way because my mind was formed in pre-internet days. But the mind is plastic – and I have changed. I'm not the reader I was.

When we become cynical readers – when we read in the disjointed, goal-oriented way that online life encourages – we stop exercising our attention. We stop reading with a sense of faith that some larger purpose may be served. This doesn't mean we're reading less – not at all. In fact, we live in a text-gorged society in which the most fleeting thought is a thumb-dash away from posterity. What's at stake is not whether we read. It's how we read. And that's something we'll have to each judge for ourselves; it can't be tallied by Statistics Canada. For myself: I know I'm not reading less, but I also know I'm reading worse

So maybe that change into a cynical writer can be forestalled – if I can first correct my reading diet, remember how to read the way I once did. Not scan, not share, not excerpt – but read. Patiently, slowly, uselessly...
..Books have always been time machines, in a sense. Today, their time-machine powers are even more obvious – and even more inspiring. They can transport us to a pre-internet frame of mind. Those solitary journeys are all the more rich for their sudden strangeness.

For a long time Michael Harris convinced himself that a childhood spent immersed in old-fashioned books would insulate him from our new media climate, but he was wrong

09/12/2017

Every dark emotion has a value and purpose. There are no negative emotions; there are only negative attitudes towards emotions we don’t like and can’t tolerate, and the negative consequences of denying them. The emotions we call “negative” are energies that get our attention, ask for expression, transmit information and impel action. Grief tells us that we are all interconnected in the web of life, and that what connects us also breaks our hearts. Fear alerts us to protect and sustain life. Despair asks us to grieve our losses, to examine and transform the meaning of our lives, to repair our broken souls. Each of these emotions is purposeful and useful—if we know how to listen to them.

Grief, fear and despair are part of the human condition. Each of these emotions is useful, says Miriam Greenspan, if we know how to listen to them.

05/08/2017

This model of attachment influences how each of us reacts to our needs and how we go about getting them met. When there is a secure attachment pattern, a person is confident and self-possessed and is able to easily interact with others, meeting both their own and another’s needs. However, when there is an anxious or avoidant attachment pattern, and a person picks a partner who fits with that maladaptive pattern, he or she will most likely be choosing someone who isn’t the ideal choice to make him or her happy.

For example, the person with a working model of anxious/preoccupied attachment feels that, in order to get close to someone and have your needs met, you need to be with your partner all the time and get reassurance. To support this perception of reality, they choose someone who is isolated and hard to connect with. The person with a working model of dismissive/avoidant attachment has the tendency to be distant, because their model is that the way to get your needs met is to act like you don’t have any. He or she then chooses someone who is more possessive or overly demanding of attention.

In a sense, we set ourselves up by finding partners that confirm our models. If we grew up with an insecure attachment pattern, we may project or seek to duplicate similar patterns of relating as adults, even when these patterns hurt us and are not in our own self-interest.

What is your attachment style?

04/04/2017

Non-attachment doesn’t mean being cold as a stone. Emotions don’t cease to exist as you learn to let go. You just relate to them differently because you understand their ephemeral nature.

Sadly, non-attachment or detachment as proposed in Buddhism is radically misunderstood by many. Non-attachment actually brings about the most profound sense of care, compassion, and freedom you could ever imagine. But, I understand why the word “detachment” might send chills up your spine. So let’...