Iam fine Foundation

05/02/2025

𝐿𝑖𝑓𝑒 𝑑𝑜𝑒𝑠𝑛’𝑡 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑝𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑑 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑖𝑡. 𝐼𝑡’𝑠 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑔𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑛 . 𝐼𝑡’𝑠 𝑎𝑙𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑦 ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔.

The evolution and the basic idea of settlement runs parallel to the concept of struggle for existence and also the basic physiological and safety needs of mankind . The never ending efforts towards planning the life actually never ends and would never ever end in the future also. Yet …

Yet human planning continuously, relentlessly and with self motivated determination, keeps working on safety needs and settlement.

The life keeps going and so does human pursuit towards planning it .

However, very soon in life comes a time when the pursuits of planning takes priority. The efforts towards having a good life jeopardises the life itself .

We stop living in a hope that we can plan our life . We stop being in the present and keep shuttling in past memories and future options.

We stop living.

Is this what we want to do ?

Plan for life and not live ?

Does the life start when we are ready and prepared for it ? What’s our defination of that preparedness or readiness for life?

Life does not stop. It keeps going

Our preparedness is just a fantasy that , we all know very well, does not get into reality.

When was I, last, ready for life ?

How long did that moment last ?

What changed it ?

What did I do when I finally was prepared for life ?

We must ask these questions and question our own plannings and preparedness towards life.

Are we following pursuits that never come to a consummating end?

Does that mean we stop making efforts?

Does that mean we stop planning ?

The problem is not planning or efforts towards being prepared .

The problem is the priority that we give to planning , readiness and thinking about life instead of life itself .

That also leads us to the basic question. What is life ?

We all can define it in our own ways as long as it’s letting us be in the life or live the life without being ready and prepared for it .

Can I define what’s life for me?

Can I define it without the elements or boundaries or parameters of readiness or preparedness?

𝑖 𝑎𝑚 𝑓𝑖𝑛𝑒.
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21/08/2024

Humans or Relationships?

The question that we need to ask is a very simple one.
Human or Relations?

What’s at the core of our efforts or dynamics toward each other? Is it the relationship itself that’s of prime importance or is it the human that’s at the end or at both the ends of the relationship?

Humans are bound to each other with a natural desire to be with each other. The relationship building process is a means to achieve this natural state of peaceful co- existence, unless it’s threatened with yet another instinct or law of survival. Struggle for existence or survival of the fittest may push aside all relationship building instincts. These are very rare cases and whenever that happens, it sabotages everything.

However, in normal human relationship dynamics, we are just going by our basic instincts of bonding. In the process, we sometimes forget that we are dealing with humans. It’s not the relationship that’s important. It’s the human that is more important than the relationship. We create so much of drama, manipulation, lies and self-justification around the relationship dynamics, that we just completely ignore or forget as to why we started it.
We try to build perfect relationships and keep focusing on the relationship instead of the humans involved in it.
We hide our own imperfections behind our ego We hide our imperfections by abandoning the relationship. We do not realise that it’s not the relationship we are abandoning. We abandon the human.
We abandon to an extent that the same human becomes worse than even a stranger. We don’t feel the need for relationship. And more than that we don’t feel the need to have any connect with the human involved.
Why such hatred towards fellow humans? Just because relationship was a burden we start disliking humans?
Why let go of all the efforts, feelings, emotions and positivity involved in getting close to a humans?
We may try building newer relations with different humans but till we understand and respect the human in the relation, we may be repeating the same thing again and again.
We will keep trying to build a perfect relationship with imperfect humans and in the process end up moving away from the humans. For more info visit us at http://www.iamfinefoundation.com/latest-update/humans-or-relationships-the-/112?utm_source=facebookpage

12/08/2024

What’s so special about understanding?
Understanding of self and the understanding of others forms the basic dynamics of how we see the world and how we experience our limited days in it.
Not just the logical part of emotions and actions but also the so-called heart part of it.
A great, rare and toughest thing to to learn in life is that the heart is not to supposed break. We want to love and go all out to loving, only to discover again and again that it takes a long time to know people, to understand people and to know that understanding is love.
Even without intentional manipulation, drama and deception, people will surprise you, will shock you, will hurt you — not out of malice, but out of the incompleteness of their own self-knowledge, which continually leads them to surprise themselves too.
They will break heart. They will break promise. It is because they believed themselves to be the kind of person who could keep it and found themselves to be a person who could not. If we live honestly enough and observe ourselves, we will all find ourselves in that position eventually. Our own nature haunts ourselves. Pure relationship is a matter of clear sight — of seeing through other’s self-concealment and removing our own projections. People are so very secretive. they conceal because they are scared of appearing eccentric or different
It is, of course, impossible to ever fully know what it is like to be someone else Impossible to fully convey to another what it is like to be you. The dream of perfectly clear vision is indeed just a dream. But we can always see a little more clearly in order to love a little more purely.
Honesty, Openness and Willingness to understand others and self is the key to pure relations in spite of all the drama we create around us. For more info visit us at http://www.iamfinefoundation.com/latest-update/what-s-so-special-about-unders/111?utm_source=facebookpage

07/08/2024

Saying yes to life

The constant search for answers pertaining to life may give some food to the brain but may not give answers.
We may find or derive our own answers but they may not be the right answers.
We may keep digging more and more and yet may not be able to unearth anything.
It’s like an ant moving around a round ball or sphere. Making efforts to reach somewhere but still remaining on the same sphere.

The intellectual exercise of finding meaning and reasons for things is yet another way of pleasing our own ego to have answers and understanding of all the things.

What is it that we are trying to understand? Life?
Isn’t life just life itself?
Isn’t it just about living?

Intellectually, we all understand what life is. It’s the truth that we all have seen enough of. Especially, if we are a normal adult with a normal life.

What is normal life?

A normal life is all about birth, pain, happiness, gain, loss, love, hate, fair, unfair, winning and losing.
A normal life is being right and being wrong. We give so much importance to our ego that we are always worried about being wrong and the consequences of the same.

Old age is life
Disease is life
Loss is life
Humiliation is life
Misery is life
Broken heart is life
Depression is life
Death is life

If we agree that all the above is life, how can we say no to all the pain and misery?
Saying no to all the above means saying No to life.
Life is a mix of both positive and negative experiences. We can try but may not find answers or explanations to our negative experiences.
We can’t even find answers and logic behind our positive experiences.

Things just happen our way and things just do not happen our way. In reality, there is nothing like our way. It’s the life’s way. When we say yes to life we say yes to its ways.
We can’t enjoy or appreciate the mountains if there are no valleys.
We enjoy the highs with reference to lows.

So when we already have accepted and said yes to life, why feel negative or anxious or scared about something that we have ourselves said yes to?

Can’t we be just bold enough to commit to all the ways of life?
All understanding and intellectual realization about life should also be materialized into our real actions and the projection of same in our thinking.
We all understand everything and must have gained lot of wisdom but can we transform this into living as per our understanding?
Can’t we just roar with our head held high to the ways of life?

Let’s take it head on and walk through it.

I am fine

Saying yes to life The constant search for a

16/06/2024

Mankind per square feet

“Misty drops of water, floating in the air. A face with closed eyes, feeling the bliss of freshness and serenity in the air. Life touching life. Life feeling one with the universe. A divine merger of mankind with the creation. “

A small noise and the dream is over. The same mankind is faced with an entirely different experience of universe. Noise, contamination, pollution, vehicles, jams, multi-tasking, human frictions, race against time and a life dependent on technology, A merger of mankind with the creation of mankind and surely not divine.

The growth and development that was needed to make human life better in terms of food and shelter, has possibly gone in a direction beyond the need parameters. Unknowingly, but surely with lot of efforts, mankind has created this anti divine universe around it. The development of some of our cities, and to give an example of one of the fastest growing ones, is a clear indicator of what we can do to our own serenity in the pursuit of better life or growth.

Pune, Maharashtra, India.

Possibly one of the fastest growing cities on the earth in last 20 years. And the rate of growth is increasing at a cumulative rate.
To define growth, the parameters are simple. Number of Industries and number of people.
To define growth means to provide better life or living conditions to people

Any one who has stayed in this city or has observed this city will understand that the city may have grown in terms of business but surely not in terms of living conditions. The only things that have grown are concrete structures and more structures. This although is an outcome of commercial growth and is must, could have possibly or should have been different.

The city is offering success, growth and prosperity to everyone but are we offering anything in return to the city?

The projects are being approved, sanctioned and executed. The amount of commercial gains are definitely one of the highest. But all this is leaving the city in a state of functional paralysis.
The roads, the pollution, the tankers the open spaces, the public utilities, the public transport, the airport, the roads to airport or hospitals or schools or for that matter the road to anywhere is surely not an easy one.

There is a huge development of IT parks, townships, housing societies and malls but the infrastructure around them remains questionable.
The time that it takes to inch through any part of the city is clear indicator of the chaos.
The population increase is inevitable as part of the growth but increase in population density is not.

The growth also gave an opportunity to develop new infrastructure, new satellite cities and better living conditions but the opportunity seems to be lost.
The end result is a city without proper infrastructure, roads and open spaces.
The end result is a city with pollution, traffic jams and water tankers.

The rains will once again test the city infrastructure.

Why is this happening?

The increased demand? Yes off course and that has also resulted in buildings being constructed without desired infrastructure around them. Delays in infrastructure planning and ex*****on makes it impossible for certain plans to be executed or completed, as by that time the land is occupied by something else. The plans keep changing and ex*****on remains incomplete. Underdeveloped, insufficient and impractical infrastructure further increases chaos and stop gap planning.

Why are plans being made and executed in isolation or in pockets.
Why are projects getting sanctioned when the lack of infrastructure around them is evident?
Why is population density not considered before planning the infrastructure?
Why are floor space indexes going up creating concrete towers going higher and higher in the sky losing sight of ground realities.

Who’s responsible?

Off course the mankind is responsible. If we want to live in such conditions, we are getting what we want.
If we want concrete jungles, then we are surely moving in the right direction.
If we want traffic jams and chaos and road rage, we are getting it.
If we want to focus on square feet rates and growth of the same, we will get it.
The square feet rates are going up and the sacrifice is made by mankind.
It’s the mankind that’s losing per square feet of growth.
The choice is ours.

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28/01/2024

The Fragility

Through the dense fog of multitasking and the web of mundane molecular events, its absolutely impossible to look beyond or see through the present and current struggles. However, sometimes, certain experiences and certain moments of truth do reveal the fragility of life in very shocking terms. They jolt us and make us sensitive towards the insecurities and mortality of things.

A sudden bodily discomfort, a diagnosis, a visit to hospital, any injury or accident, a visit to funeral or loss of some near or dear one. Any of them or some similar events may put us in a direct interview with the fragility of life. Things, we never thought could happen to us, start appearing vey much possible and happening to us.

This may, though not always, catapult us into a thought process of trying to understand the meaning of all this and trying to analyse if we are in reality living our lives optimally or meaningfully. We may try to negotiate through the dense fog of complex survival pursuits and see what we are trying to achieve and where exactly are we heading.

The question or the pursuit of living life optimally or rightly has been a part of human mind since we got this power of thinking. We may or may not have got answers to the right way but we surely can look into ‘My way’ or ‘the way I want way’. Understanding the fragility may not remove the dense fog or may not give answers but it may surely push us to rethink our own pursuits and live the fragile life our way.

The Fragility must give me the agility to do things that I just want to do or love to do.
To live my life, my way.
To enjoy the fog, knowing it will continue, till I land on the other side of life.
I am fine
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01/01/2024

Beginning
They say - Life is nothing else but the death of past.
God grant me the courage to change the things I can.
Very Often in life when we are reminded that we are unfinished, that the story we have been telling ourselves about who we are and where our life leads is yet waiting to be written. Such moments come most readily at the beginning of something new.
To begin anything — a new practice, a new project, a new love — is to force yourself against stagnation. To break the standard routine, standard thoughts, desires and also standard action
Something that can only be done with great Courage and Honesty
We always need to be brutally honest with ourselves about our present status, where we have become stagnant and where new beginnings may be. There can be no growth if we do not remain open and vulnerable to what is new and different.
“Awaken your spirit to adventure,
Hold nothing back,
Learn to find ease in risk,
Soon you will be home in a new rhythm,
For your soul senses the world that awaits you.”
At every new beginning, unforeseen things can emerge. New possibilities. New risks. New Adventure
Part of the art of living wisely is to learn to recognize and attend to such adventures in one’s life.. For more info visit us at http://www.iamfinefoundation.com/latest-update/beginning-they-say-life-is-n/108?utm_source=facebookpage

23/07/2023

AMOR FATI
Fate has always been a concept that each one of us, for years, have tried to understand and to a great degree tried to even control.
We have tried controlling it through our efforts. We have worked a lot trying to get the best out of it. We have built strategies to make it work our way. We have out performed others, won races, wars and competitions against others and against time to keep our fate better than others.
And when nothing seems to work, we have tried manipulating it with help of certain practices that are purely magical and mystical in nature. Astrology, sun signs, moon signs, numerology, mantra, chanting, ta**ra, stones, gems and many kinds of religious or sect practices. All have been used and abused to maneuver the fate or change the fate.
Faith in something or someone, whether a human, superhuman or God, has been a favorite to woo fate to work as per our wishes.
In some cases we have even tried convincing and communicating with the known and unknown, through our prayers, to change the fate.
We have even tried bribing with sacrifices of all kinds including food, animals, instincts, basic needs and money.
We have put our faith in everything other than putting our faith on our own fate. It’s our fate.
It’s my fate. It belongs to me and I belong to it.
Fate is nothing else but my story. My Life.
It’s something where I can connect the dots backwards only and call it fate.
Fate is not governed by any laws of morality, spirituality or karma.
Prayers, money or sacrifices do not influence fate.
Fate is not fair or unfair. Its just fate.
It’s is governed by only one law and that’s life. A life that is supposed to be a mix of good and bad, love and hate, positive and negative, happiness and sadness, joy and pain, life and death.
There is no perfect mix of any of these black and white elements. Life may have its own mix and shades for every different individual. My grey may not be same as others.
I surely can try changing it to my liking but I may or may not be able to change it.
I surely would try but must also love my own fate.
It’s my fate. It’s my shade. It’s my story.
It belongs to me and I belong to it. Whatever it is.
And
I am fine with my fate.
As the latin term “Amor fati” - Love of one’s fate, suggests.
Pleasure and pain, peace and suffering are all part of my fate and are a necessity. Fate can’t exist without all the ups and downs and rights and wrongs and in any extremes and mix.
I am fine with it.
I love my fate.
Amor Fati !

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23/07/2023

Saying yes to life

The constant search for answers pertaining to life may give some food to the brain but may not give answers.
We may find or derive our own answers but they may not be the right answers.
We may keep digging more and more and yet may not be able to unearth anything.
It’s like an ant moving around a round ball or sphere. Making efforts to reach somewhere but still remaining on the same sphere.

The intellectual exercise of finding meaning and reasons for things is yet another way of pleasing our own ego to have answers and understanding of all the things.

What is it that we are trying to understand? Life?
Isn’t life just life itself?
Isn’t it just about living?

Intellectually, we all understand what life is. It’s the truth that we all have seen enough of. Especially, if we are a normal adult with a normal life.

What is normal life?

A normal life is all about birth, pain, happiness, gain, loss, love, hate, fair, unfair, winning and losing.
A normal life is being right and being wrong. We give so much importance to our ego that we are always worried about being wrong and the consequences of the same.

Old age is life
Disease is life
Loss is life
Humiliation is life
Misery is life
Broken heart is life
Depression is life
Death is life

If we agree that all the above is life, how can we say no to all the pain and misery?
Saying no to all the above means saying No to life.
Life is a mix of both positive and negative experiences. We can try but may not find answers or explanations to our negative experiences.
We can’t even find answers and logic behind our positive experiences.

Things just happen our way and things just do not happen our way. In reality, there is nothing like our way. It’s the life’s way. When we say yes to life we say yes to its ways.
We can’t enjoy or appreciate the mountains if there are no valleys.
We enjoy the highs with reference to lows.

So when we already have accepted and said yes to life, why feel negative or anxious or scared about something that we have ourselves said yes to?

Can’t we be just bold enough to commit to all the ways of life?
All understanding and intellectual realization about life should also be materialized into our real actions and the projection of same in our thinking.
We all understand everything and must have gained lot of wisdom but can we transform this into living as per our understanding?
Can’t we just roar with our head held high to the ways of life?

Let’s take it head on and walk through it.

I am fine

Saying yes to life The constant search for a

15/07/2023

Two births, single life It is said that we are born twice. Once when we are biologically born and other when we realise as to why we are born. The question may or may not give any clear answers. Some may find love in what they do or the purpose in what they do. Some may be able to do things that they love or find a purpose in. And for some others, love and purpose may always conflict with what they are doing. Whether you love your work or whether you work on your love or whether your work comes in the way of your love or the love comes in the way of your work, we are always working and loving and trying to find purpose or meaning in our actions. In most of the cases, instead of finding a meaning, we may be actually justifying our actions. If they are in line with what we love, we say we have found the meaning. If they are in conflict with what we love, we can always justify it with a higher purpose. Justification is an ego reaction. Obviously it pampers our ego but may not bring us closer to what we want or love.Whatever action we are taking or justifying today may not be in line with what we want. We want a healthy life but we may not be taking action on it. We want peace but we may not be working towards it. We want a good character but may not be acting on it. We want to love and be loved but we may be acting exactly opposite to it. We want others to feel happy because of us but we may be hurting them. We want to make the best of whatever destiny has given us but we may be ignoring it. Why are my actions not in line with what i really want?Why am i hiding behind reasons, logic, excuses, justifications, procrastinations and my own ego? Is my ego more important than my happiness and me? i am fine. For more info visit us at http://www.iamfinefoundation.com/latest-update/two-births-single-life-it-is-/107?utm_source=facebookpage

10/07/2023

“I Gave You a Part of Me That I Knew You Could Break—What did you do?”

With a stick, he wrote this on the soil below his feet.

He sat on the rock at the top of the small hill, surrounded by multiple hills and valleys. The location had a serene hue blanketed with a soon to end dusk. Alama’s gaze was fixed, moist and tired. It was blank, inspite of all the earthy colours around in the entire valley.

He was not sure if he wanted the time to stop or pass away into future as early as possible. A part of him was thinking of the past and a part of him wanted to forget the past and escape into the future. A part of him was dead and a part of him wanted to live, again.

The WORLD he knew was never his. He never felt one with that WORLD.

His knowledge of The WORLD around him and his feelings of The WORLD around him, never seems to be in any harmony.

Why?

He could never understand why he was like that.

Was he from The WORLD?

Sometimes, for some, the pain of some early-on heartbreak will often cling tenaciously to their hope that perhaps someday the object of their desire will be forthcoming. But there are others who, in the aftermath of their early-on heartbreak, will find themselves withdrawing completely from the world of objects—their heart shattered…

And then there are some who carry on with this shattered heart, without even knowing what and why the heart feels shattered.

They keep looking for their world with this lonely feeling. Pain, struggle and a journey full of heaviness and sadness.

And sometimes they come across someone or something, that makes them feel that they have someone whom they feel as part of their world.

Alama realized how he was almost getting to be in terms with the life in The WORLD inspite of all the challenges of chronic feelings of being an outsider in The WORLD. He had accepted his world as different from The WORLD and that he was lonely in that. He understood that he had to become a part of The WORLD, but on his own terms. He knew how his world was different from The WORLD. He was wise not to expect things from The WORLD.

But he did not realize that in the efforts to become a part of The WORLD, he started feeling The WORLD as his own world. He started shedding his protective cover. He became vulnerable. He started trusting that The WORLD would not hurt him again. He forgot that his heart was already shattered.

He forgot he was not part of The WORLD.

Once again, shattered, defeated, betrayed, insulted, taken for granted and dumped.

Deja vu?

He wrote once again on the moist earth and teary eyes and a gloomy feeling of helplessness;

“I Gave You a Part of Me That I Knew You Could Break—And you broke it!”

Still sitting on the same stone, oblivious of his surroundings, he realized that it has actually happened many times. Multiple times.

Its not déjà vu.

Why is he not learning? Why is he not changing? Why does he keep making efforts in a vain hope? Is he in a fantasy world and not ready to open his eyes to reality?

“Sometimes, for some, the pain of some early-on heartbreak will often cling tenaciously to their hope that perhaps someday the object of their desire will be forthcoming and trust worthy.”

He had the answer!!!

He was not part of The WORLD. He was different.

He can be a part of The WORLD but can not become one of them. Never!

He was Alama !

He can only join hearts not shatter them. He can only give and forgive. He was Alama. He was meant to be eternally hopeful that some day, The WORLD would be like him.

He is hope and hope only!

He suddenly realized that the earth was moist again. Not from his tears but from the early dawn due drops.

He was ready once again to be hopeful. He was ready once again to trust. He was ready once again to be Alama, inspite of being alone in The WORLD.

He took a small stone and wrote on the moist big stone on which he had spent the entire night.

“I Gave You a Part of Me That I Knew You Could Break—But you could not!”

I am Alama

I am fine

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09/07/2023

Saying yes to life

The constant search for answers pertaining to life may give some food to the brain but may not give answers.
We may find or derive our own answers but they may not be the right answers.
We may keep digging more and more and yet may not be able to unearth anything.
It’s like an ant moving around a round ball or sphere. Making efforts to reach somewhere but still remaining on the same sphere.

The intellectual exercise of finding meaning and reasons for things is yet another way of pleasing our own ego to have answers and understanding of all the things.

What is it that we are trying to understand? Life?
Isn’t life just life itself?
Isn’t it just about living?

Intellectually, we all understand what life is. It’s the truth that we all have seen enough of. Especially, if we are a normal adult with a normal life.

What is normal life?

A normal life is all about birth, pain, happiness, gain, loss, love, hate, fair, unfair, winning and losing.
A normal life is being right and being wrong. We give so much importance to our ego that we are always worried about being wrong and the consequences of the same.

Old age is life
Disease is life
Loss is life
Humiliation is life
Misery is life
Broken heart is life
Depression is life
Death is life

If we agree that all the above is life, how can we say no to all the pain and misery?
Saying no to all the above means saying No to life.
Life is a mix of both positive and negative experiences. We can try but may not find answers or explanations to our negative experiences.
We can’t even find answers and logic behind our positive experiences.

Things just happen our way and things just do not happen our way. In reality, there is nothing like our way. It’s the life’s way. When we say yes to life we say yes to its ways.
We can’t enjoy or appreciate the mountains if there are no valleys.
We enjoy the highs with reference to lows.

So when we already have accepted and said yes to life, why feel negative or anxious or scared about something that we have ourselves said yes to?

Can’t we be just bold enough to commit to all the ways of life?
All understanding and intellectual realization about life should also be materialized into our real actions and the projection of same in our thinking.
We all understand everything and must have gained lot of wisdom but can we transform this into living as per our understanding?
Can’t we just roar with our head held high to the ways of life?

Let’s take it head on and walk through it.

I am fine
For more info visit us at http://www.iamfinefoundation.com/latest-update/saying-yes-to-life-the-consta/106?utm_source=facebookpage