11/06/2026
And these are just naming A FEW…
1. What makes you angry? Human behaviours, injustice, lying, etc. The more disproportionate your reaction is the better because it gives clearer data. I hate littering for example and I get thoughts of serious violence. Ask “what does it say about that person?” To me that’s entitlement, not caring about others and the planet. THAT is what you hold dear. Those values were violated.
2. Imagine you’re drained from the week. What activity would be your idea of hell? Maybe a networking event, high school reunion, gym, family gathering, sightseeing in London, going out out… Unpick that first thing that comes to mind and gives you a visceral ICK feeling: Crowds? Social expectations? Fakeness? Uncomfortable clothes? Sensory hell? Noise? Those are your sensory triggers. The opposite qualities will be your recharge set up.
3. You’re exhausted. Who would you hate to be near? Those are your energy vampires. Who do you seek out? Those relationships rare and special. Most neurodivergent people have 0-1 people in that category, which includes a cat or a dog.
4. If I gave you 10k, what could you do for me? (credit to ). It gets you thinking specifically (i.e. FOR ME, what does Thanh need that I could help with) and gets past the blockage that the generic “what are you good at?” hits. Then expand, picture someone else asking you another specific question. Rinse and repeat until you have a list of things you’re good at.
5. How do you show people that you love them? Food, gifts, gestures, letters, surprises, thoughtful recommendations? The way we express love + care often reflects how we like to receive it. And the way we like to receive often comes from what we didn’t get growing up.
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