28/08/2026
I’m fine.
Probably one of the most normalised sentences in our everyday conversations.
How are you?
“I’m fine.”
How are things at work?
“I’m fine. Just busy.”
You look tired.
“I’m fine. I just need some rest.”
And we move on.
During a recent training session, we were talking about stress, workplace wellbeing and financial stress when one gentleman said, “You know, sometimes I say I’m fine because I don’t even know how to explain what is happening to me.”
That really got me thinking.
Because sometimes “I’m fine” isn't really an answer. It's how we cope.
We say it because we don't want to look weak.
Because everyone else seems to be managing.
Because we don't want to burden anyone.
Because there are bills to pay, deadlines to meet and people depending on us.
Because we worry about what people will think if we admit we're struggling.
And sometimes, we have simply become so good at carrying on that we haven't stopped to ask, “Am I actually okay?”
Stress is not a mental illness
Stress is a normal response to pressure, demands and difficult experiences.
But sometimes stress is also a sign that we have more on our plate than we can comfortably handle.
And when that pressure goes on for too long, it can start showing up in our sleep, mood, concentration, relationships, financial habits and general wellbeing. It can also contribute to or worsen mental health difficulties.
So when someone says: “Everyone is stressed.”
Yes, they are. But everyone isn't carrying the same load. This isn't about diagnosing the people around us.
It's about paying attention.
Notice when someone starts withdrawing.
Notice when they are constantly exhausted.
Notice unusual irritability.
Notice when they can't seem to concentrate.
Notice when the person who is normally lively and engaged becomes distant.
So, the next time someone says:
“I’m fine.” Take them at their word.
But if you've noticed they haven't really seemed fine for some time, ask again.
And instead of rushing to say:
“You’ll be okay.” Try: “I'm here if you want to talk.”
You don't have to have the answers.
You don't have to fix anything.
Sometimes, just listening without judgement can make a person feel a little less alone.
Mental health awareness isn't about diagnosing every bad day.
It's about noticing when something has changed, being willing to have honest conversations, and making it easier for people to seek help when they need it.
And if you've been saying “I’m fine” for months. Pause for a moment and ask yourself: “Am I actually fine, or have I simply become very good at coping while avoiding the parts of my life that are not okay?”
Sometimes, “I’m fine” is where the conversation needs to begin not where it ends.
As we head into the weekend, perhaps give yourself permission to check in with yourself and with someone you care about.
