Benjamin Zulu Global

11/06/2026

If you keep intimidating men, do this

11/06/2026

There's a current trend where women are being advised to 'decenter their men.' The idea is this: 'Remove your man from being the center on which your life revolves.'

While the core idea is a good one, since no healthy man wants to be everything for his woman anyway, the phrase 'decenter your man' is unnecessarily aggressive and combative.

This language is coming from people who mostly are not married and are bitter towards men.

An honest person wouldn't use such toxic and aggressive language to pass advice that has nothing to do with men anyway.

A person who is at peace with themselves and men in general would package the advice correctly. Something like this: 'Build a rich and wholesome life such that marriage is an addition rather than the entirety of it. Relate with your husband from a place of richness rather than neediness. True love is shared, not begged. You cannot pour from an empty cup either as a mother, wife or friend. Always fill your cup first. With self care, with hobbies, with dreams. Everyone who cares about you wants you happy and vibrant.'

(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)

11/06/2026

When you are kind but you don't show limits...

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If you keep intimidating men, do this

11/06/2026

Niceness is a form of fear!!

11/06/2026

Im really stressed about something and I need your advice

I have this man i have being dating for sometime now ,...he claims he loves me but he has never shown me in any actions

Recently when the kids were about to open school I asked him to support me with the little that he has and he gave me the surprise of my life

Asking me to look for baby daddy ,oh why did I allow him leave Scott free when im suffering raising my kid alone,,oh I should give him baby daddys number 🤔 😕 mind you the last time I saw or talked to baby daddy was 6yrs ago ....

Do you really think this is nice ???
Coz i tried to explain to him that I won't be comfortable with this reunion when I have him in my life he said im rude n disrespectful 😤

"This lady has not healed from the trauma of the previous relationship and again there are rules in the dating jungle.
If you want to know who someone really is, watch them when there are no strings attached. S*x can cloud judgment. Many men think they are the hunters, but some women use intimacy as a strategy when they spot a potential provider. Interestingly, this tactic is rarely used on broke men.
Ladies, there are many ways to tell whether a man is generous or mean. A man who genuinely cares about you will naturally give here and there. Starting a relationship by asking for money may drive away a good man.During dating your bills are not your partners.
And if you have a child, be able to support yourself and that child first. If you can't, pause dating and focus on stability. Otherwise, you risk bringing another child into the same situation.
I thought this was common sense. 🤨
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11/06/2026

A couple was dining together one evening when the man requested his wife to add some soup to his bowl. It was late and they were both sleepy. She had just finished eating and washed her hands.

Serving her husband the soup would mean having to wash again, so she declined and asked him to do it himself since it was easier for him. He insisted she serve him, she insisted on not doing it.

The exchange ended in a standoff. He served himself while she went to bed ahead. They slept without talking to each other. The next morning, as they prepared for work, he asked her to apologize for her refusal to serve him and she said there was nothing to apologize for. He was being unreasonable.

She was submissive but she would not let him lord it over her.

They left for work in the same mood and in the evening the man repeated his stance. She maintained hers and this time there was a more heated argument. She would not budge and say sorry.

The next day she came home to changed locks and the husband was out of reach. She angrily went to spend the night at a hotel and looked for him the next day only to be met by a messenger delivering divorce papers.

That's when she started looking for mediators to get her to the husband so she could apologize. When the man was reached by phone he said it was too late. He didn't want to hear anything from her.

Did this marriage end over the soup or the sorry?

Neither. It ended over ego. Lack of wisdom. Assuming your partner's patience and forgetting that love and marriage are maintained by respect.

The man was too hard on his wife. Some issues are trivial and worthy of overlooking. When people are tired and sleepy they may not be in their best moods. There's no point arguing or insisting.

The wife was unreasonable in acting stubborn and argumentative over such a small thing. She could have declined the request politely, even in a sweet tone, and avoided the tension altogether.

Wise women know how to say no in a way that leaves the man still feeling honored and flattered.

This is the point: pride is the beginning of a fall. And humility is the beginning of a rise. Whether it's about marriage, love, or relationships, an ego flex will make you lose things that were destined to be yours.

(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)

11/06/2026

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