Musarrat Seekdaur • EMDR Therapy

09/07/2026

We often complain that so many people are “emotionally avoidant”.

We notice how many of our parents and grandparents struggle to identify, let alone talk about, their own feelings. Happiness is understated. Pride in their loved ones is often expressed quietly, if at all.. and it is painful to be at the receiving end.
Frustration, grief, fear, and disappointment are too often expressed as anger toward people who were never the source of the pain.

Yet, as a society, many still defend corporal punishment as formative; necessary, even.
What does a child experience when they are hit? Injustice. Helplessness. Shame. Fear. Confusion. A nervous system overwhelmed with emotions they are neither allowed nor helped to understand or express.

Many of our elders never experienced emotional safety. They learned that vulnerability was dangerous, that expressing hurt could be met with a rotin bazar, a sangle, humiliation, or silence. So they adapted. They survived.

Many turned out "fine." They built careers, raised families, became law-abiding and responsible adults. Yet…

For many people, behind competence lies internalised shame, low self-worth, pent-up anger, fears that remain inaccessible, and emotional distance. Family relationships become strained because early bids for emotional expression were met with punishment rather than understanding.

I don't question the resilience of previous generations. I question the cost of that resilience.

The effects of corporal punishment are not always obvious. They don't always show up as dysfunction. Sometimes they show up as an inability to ask for help, discomfort with vulnerability, difficulty identifying emotions, or relationships where love is present but emotional intimacy feels out of reach.
When we normalize fear as discipline, we shouldn't be surprised when generations grow up disconnected from their emotions.

Call this generation sensitive. Or call it the generation that is flagging up an important issue to end one aspect of generational trauma.

09/06/2026

07/06/2026

More men are coming to therapy.
Truth is, many more would like to do so.
Perhaps the issue is not a lack of awareness or information.
Perhaps it lies in the way male emotional struggles have been overlooked, minimized, or misunderstood over the years.
Many Mauritian men were raised to be strong, dependable, and self-reliant. Yet they were rarely encouraged to speak openly about fear, sadness, loneliness, or vulnerability.
When silence becomes a measure of strength, asking for help can feel unfamiliar…alien, even when it is needed most.
This Men’s Mental Health Month, let us start with one small step: encouraging a friend, partner, brother, father, son, or colleague to seek help without judgment, ridicule, or punishment.
Sometimes, support begins with a conversation.

05/06/2026

31/05/2026

It’s an unprecedented time for mothers.

Caught between parenting techniques, social media “perfection”, and the rise in mental health challenges, motherhood today comes with no shortage of advice, expectations, and scrutiny.

We have spent decades reimagining the role of a mother through the lenses of culture, patriarchy, and different waves of feminism. As the definition of a “good mother” kept changing, the pressure to “ace” motherhood only grew.

Yet somewhere along the way, we forgot a simple truth: there is more than one way to be a good mother.

Worth is not measured by how closely a mother meets expectations.

And in our pursuit of the perfect mother, we often overlook those carrying the less visible burdens.

Today, I hold a special thought for:

Mums living with mental health conditions who still put meals on the table while navigating the side effects of medication.

Mums who had to stop breastfeeding because of illness or treatment and were judged for a decision they never wanted to make.

Mums struggling with postpartum depression.

Mums learning to navigate the silence of an empty nest.

Mums who cannot access mental healthcare because of stigma, taboos, or family expectations.

Anxious mums standing at the school gate, trying to let go one step at a time.

Neurodivergent mums managing sensory overload and competing demands while building stable, healthy lives for their children.

Motherhood has never looked just one way. Neither has strength.

And perhaps the gift some mothers need this year is not another reminder to do more, be more, or give more.

Perhaps it is a little more grace, a little less judgment, and a helping hand when they need it…

18/04/2026

13/04/2026

Silence is tragic.

12/04/2026

L’affaire de la Twaha Academy a ravivé un débat que la société préférait taire. Derrière les procédures judiciaires et l

10/04/2026