My therapist Jey

31/08/2026

31/08/2026

Control is tempting because it feels efficient.

When we are tired, stressed, or running late, our instinct is to micro-manage, issue orders, and demand immediate compliance just to keep the day moving. It looks like it works in the short term, but it usually just creates a power struggle where everyone leaves frustrated.

When we yell, demand, or use fear, we can force a child to stop what they are doing right in that second. But that isn't leadership — it’s just intimidation.

Leading with care isn't about being passive or letting your kids do whatever they want. It is about how you enforce your rules. You can hold a firm, non-negotiable boundary while keeping your voice calm and your approach respectful.

When we focus on care, we are teaching children why the boundary matters, rather than just forcing them to submit to our authority because we said so. It shifts the dynamic from an exhausting battle of wills into actual guidance.

When kids feel led rather than managed, they don't feel the need to constantly push. Drop the need to control every single moment and focus on guiding them through it.

Show them that the rules exist to keep them safe and supported, not just to prove who is in charge. ❤️

25/08/2026

Www.MyTherapistJey.com

25/08/2026

An excerpt of a conversation between Tara Brach and Tricycle’s editor-in-chief, James Shaheen

25/08/2026

Marshall B. Rosenberg, créateur de la Communication Nonviolente,nous a transmis 10 pas que nous pouvons faire pour contribuer à la paix intérieure, interpersonnelle et organisationnelle.
Je vous invite à explorer ces 10 pas ensemble .
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Aujourd’hui, voici le quatrième pas : Quand on demande à quelqu’un de faire quelque chose, vérifier d’abord si nous sommes en train de poser une exigence ou de faire une demande

Ce n’est pas la forme (les mots , le ton … )de ma phrase qui fait réellement la différence entre une demande et une exigence.
C’est ma capacité intérieure à accueillir un NON.

Si je laisse à l’autre la possibilité de dire non, si je suis prêtes à entendre ses préférences, à tenir compte aussi de ses besoins alors je suis dans une véritable demande.
Mais si je le blâme, le critique, le punis ou me referme quand il ne répond pas comme je l’espérais… alors ma demande était en fait une exigence déguisée.

Cela ne veut pas dire que je doive me forcer à être tout le temps dans la demande ou que les exigences sont « mal. »
Il est légitime d’avoir des attentes fortes sur des sujets qui nous tiennent à cœur.
Mais il est essentiel d’être honnête avec soi-même et avec l’autre :
Ne faisons pas croire à quelqu’un qu’il peut dire non, si au fond de nous nous ne sommes pas prêts à entendre sa vérité.

Pour moi, pratiquer la CNV, ce n’est pas se forcer à être d’une certaine manière, c’est développer ma clarté intérieure pour vivre plus d’authenticité en moi et avec les autres.

Et vous, comment recevez-vous ce 4e enseignement ?

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28/07/2026

🌿 Understanding Yourself Before Communicating With Others

So many of us learned to explain ourselves instead of understanding ourselves.

“I’m fine.” “I’m frustrated.” “I’m angry.” But underneath every emotion is information — feelings aren’t problems, they’re messengers pointing us toward what actually matters.

This gentle guide includes:
💛 A Feelings Wheel — because “I’m fine” often has more nuance underneath it
🌱 A look at our Universal Human Needs — connection, belonging, safety, rest, and more
🧭 A Needs Wheel to help you name what’s asking for your attention
✍ Simple reflection prompts to check in with yourself

Before we can communicate clearly with the people we love, we have to slow down enough to understand what’s happening inside us first.

Save this one for a quiet moment this week. Which emotion feels closest to what you’re experiencing today? 💬👇

28/07/2026

28/07/2026

Children are born curious.

They want to know how things work, why rules exist, who decided something was true, and whether there might be another way.

And sometimes, if we are honest, all those questions can feel exhausting.

It is quicker to say, “Because I said so.” Easier to give them the answer than make space for the wondering. More comfortable when they accept what they are told without pushing any further.

But curiosity is not something children need to outgrow. It is how they learn to think for themselves. It teaches them to look beyond what is obvious, challenge what no longer makes sense, and imagine possibilities the rest of us may have stopped seeing.

The children who keep asking why may not always be the easiest to hurry, convince, or control. But they may become the adults who question unfairness, rethink old systems, solve problems differently, and refuse to accept that something must stay the same simply because it has always been that way.

We do not have to know every answer. Sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is stay curious with them. To say, “That is a good question.” To wonder together…

And to protect that part of them that still so fiercely believes: there is always more to discover. ❤️