the.zenfactor

the.zenfactor I'm a clinical psychologist with a passion for mental health.

I work with various sectors of society to do psychological assessments, diagnosis, intervention and most importantly implementing prevention strategies.

“I want to live one minute longer than my autistic child” I used to feel sad reading quotes like this cz it painted a ve...
13/05/2026

“I want to live one minute longer than my autistic child”

I used to feel sad reading quotes like this cz it painted a very bleak picture of what the future would look like for my child without me in the picture. And then at some point the sadness turned to anger- because I refuse to feel hopeless and helpless and I cannot for the sake of my child.

There has to be another way that ensures his survival and helps him thrive with or without me in the picture. This is not meant to be an exhaustive list but I hope it encourages parents to start thinking about the future in a more actionable manner.

Hope is our only choice in the face of uncertainty.

Every holiday after you’ve gone has left a void that can’t be filled. However Mother’s Day has to be my least favourite ...
09/05/2026

Every holiday after you’ve gone has left a void that can’t be filled. However Mother’s Day has to be my least favourite cause it showcases just how big the loss is. As weird as it sounds I feel you have been preparing me for this since as long as I remember and still it isn’t easy.

Everything I am and everything I will be I know I owe it to you and I’m a better mother because you showed me how. I think I’ve coped the best I can.

but today I give myself permission to just sit this one out, just this one day, where I allow myself to immerse in the loss and cry for the what ifs. I’m not going to be out there celebrating, I’m gonna be home looking through albums, talking about you and thinking about you. It would include lotsa ugly crying and low mood AND I know I’ll still be ok when the wave settles.

Today I welcome the grief fully; i can finally see theThestral (Harry Potter reference: Read it up or DM me)

To everyone experiencing the grief of losing a mother, be kind and patient with yourself. It may not be Happy but it can still be a meaningful day to honor the memory of your mother and your grief. 🤍

09/05/2026

Afternoons that I’m home is precious because we get to joint activities. As an alternative to screen time I plan activities that are simple to execute with my child.

It keeps her engaged for at least an hour and develops fine motor skills, creativity, the practice of doing art for the sake of art/ perfectly imperfect and for some reason- vocal chords practice cz we need to sing along to the music we are listening to (karaoke session).

Creating core memories one art project at a time ❤️

It’s been 2 years and counting. I still think about you everyday as I do life. I carry you in everything I do, all my th...
08/05/2026

It’s been 2 years and counting. I still think about you everyday as I do life. I carry you in everything I do, all my thoughts, my efforts. I see you in my kids, in my philosophy of life and it how I carry myself through the highs and low.

I can’t give up cz I know you didn’t. Not once. Not on life and not on us. Grief is a funny thing but I know I’ll be ok cz u raised me to be.

Till we meet again mom ❤️

And my personal favourite “God gives special children to special parents” I honestly dk how to react to this. This roman...
08/05/2026

And my personal favourite “God gives special children to special parents” I honestly dk how to react to this. This romanticisation of the realities parents with neurodivergent children live with needs to stop.

While you plan for your child living independently and prepare them for a future, we don’t know what that looks like.
The future is not something we can grasp at this moment and just take a moment to imagine how that would feel like. So no we don’t feel special or chosen, and we still rise up to do what’s necessary.

So this Mother’s Day let’s all just get educated and make it a point to have less judgment and solutions and more understanding.

Happy Mother’s Day ❤️

In a world that’s constantly rushing forward, maybe the most powerful thing we can do is return—intentionally.Modern res...
04/05/2026

In a world that’s constantly rushing forward, maybe the most powerful thing we can do is return—intentionally.

Modern research now echoes what Indian traditions have practiced for centuries: how we eat matters just as much as what we eat. From mindful eating and gut-brain connection to circadian rhythms and digestion, science is catching up to practices like eating with your hands, sitting on the floor, and honoring food with presence and gratitude.

When we slow down, engage our senses, and reconnect with cultural rituals, we don’t just nourish the body—we regulate the nervous system, improve digestion, and deepen our relationship with food.

This isn’t about choosing between tradition and modernity. It’s about integrating both—where ancient wisdom meets evidence-based living.

Eat with awareness. Eat with intention. Eat with memory. 🍃

NervousSystemCare ModernMeetsAncient

When our son didn’t talk even at 2 years, everyone told us he would outgrow it, that boys were slower. The psychologist ...
30/04/2026

When our son didn’t talk even at 2 years, everyone told us he would outgrow it, that boys were slower. The psychologist in me was sceptical but the mother was hopeful.

While friends would talk about how their homes were filled with boisterous antics and a lil chatterbox exploring the world, our home remained quiet and still.

When friends were exploring day cares and preschools we were exploring different assessments. Someone to give me another opinion and proof me wrong- because what my brain and my training knew; my heart couldn’t accept.

While others spent money on holidays and extra classes, we spent it on interventions after interventions. Medical, behavioural, speech, occupational and even spiritual.

Over time we learnt to stop expecting V (and ourselves) to fit in with everyone else and embrace the growth that came quietly but consistently. The journey is still tenfold but now we have clarity and the strength to forge our own path for our child- building our unique rites of passage along the way.

Do we still feel left out, tbh I guess it will always be there- that’s the reality of it, but acceptance helps us navigate it better.

If you or someone you know is struggling to acknowledge the realities or raising a neurodivergent child, or just needs someone who understands, feel free to reach out ❤️

It’s already hard, it doesn’t need to be lonely too.

As Autism Awareness Month comes to a close, I wanna appreciate the special people in the lives of children with autism-t...
28/04/2026

As Autism Awareness Month comes to a close, I wanna appreciate the special people in the lives of children with autism-their siblings.

Being parents to children who are neurodivergent takes all that you have, and when you have neurotypical children in the mix, naturally they also (inadvertently) become a part of the caring process.

Even as a psychologist, I need to admit it’s always not easy juggling the completely different set of needs each child has. We try everyday to be fair to both only to go to bed wondering if we fell short.

The number of times A’s “don’t worry amma I’ll take care of Anna-boy” has made me wanna just break down and cry is no joke. It’s not her responsibility nor job to do it and yet she tries her best. She looks out for him and plays with him when not many other kids do.

Thank you! You are truly the sunshine ☀️ of our home.

Give the siblings of children with autism a tight hug today cz they make life fuller for their neurodivergent sibling in every way. Their first social connection, play date, protector and supporter- they do it quietly and surely just showing up.

I’m a Clinical Psychologist raising children with mixed needs and everyday is a new set of challenge but also opportunities ❤️

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Getting reminders to trust my intuition left right and center. That quiet voice inside of you that points you in the rig...
12/06/2025

Getting reminders to trust my intuition left right and center. That quiet voice inside of you that points you in the right direction, your consciousness. We get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life and all the noise around us that we never take a moment to be quiet and listen to the beat inside of us.

I learnt yesterday “you can be dynamic without being a dynamite” it’s been one full circle but I finally feel like the pieces are clicking in place

If you listened right now, what is your intuition telling you?

For some time now I’ve been contemplating on my place in life, and many questions plague me like “do you belong?”, “is t...
08/08/2023

For some time now I’ve been contemplating on my place in life, and many questions plague me like “do you belong?”, “is this what you’re supposed to do”, “are you really needed” and today I decided to do a reading for myself.

This card plops itself out. 🤩 just one step at a time, w pure intentions, and hard work; the universe uplifts.

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