Relationship Aglow Network

31/05/2026

BEFORE YOU SAY YES

26/05/2026

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

Charm can open doors. Character determines whether you should have entered the room in the first place.

A charming person can impress a crowd, speak beautifully, dress well, and make people feel special. But charm without character is dangerous. It creates trust faster than truth can verify. That is how people end up following manipulators, dating liars, electing corrupt leaders, and partnering with people who look good publicly but are rotten privately.

Character is expensive. Charm is cheap.

Character is what remains when applause disappears, money reduces, pressure rises, and nobody is watching. It is consistency without supervision. Integrity without reward. Discipline without audience.

Many people destroy their future because they confuse emotional attraction with moral qualification. Someone being charismatic does not mean they are loyal. Someone being confident does not mean they are competent. Someone being spiritual publicly does not mean they are clean privately.

The hard reality: Charm attracts attention. Character sustains trust.

Charm can get you hired. Character keeps you respected.

Charm can build relationships quickly. Character keeps them alive long term.

If you choose charm over character, eventually you will pay for it with disappointment, betrayal, instability, or regret.

Train yourself to study patterns, not performances. Watch how people treat those beneath them. Watch what they do under pressure. Watch whether their words survive time.

Because in life, the most dangerous people are not always evil-looking people. Sometimes they are the most attractive personalities in the room.

Choose character. Charm fades when conditions change. Character becomes stronger when conditions become difficult.

© The Olayemis

14/05/2026

“Marriage is sweet when you marry your friend. When friendship becomes the foundation of marriage, love flows naturally because you already understand each other’s strengths, flaws, weaknesses, and values.

My husband and I were friends before we eventually got married, and that friendship made our journey easier, deeper, and more beautiful. Many young people today, especially ladies, believe they should marry someone distant or unfamiliar because they fear being too known. I once had that mindset too. I wanted someone far away, but God had a different plan. He brought us closer, and we discovered that one of the greatest blessings in marriage is marrying someone who already understands your heart.

Friendship creates trust, comfort, communication, laughter, and genuine companionship. When you marry your friend, you are not just marrying for beauty, money, or emotions — you are marrying someone you can pray with, grow with, laugh with, and build life with.

To every young person: don’t ignore genuine friendship. Sometimes, the person who truly understands you, supports you, corrects you with love, and stands by you consistently may be God’s best for you. Learn to marry your friend.”

© The Olayemi's

01/05/2026

20/04/2026

ARE YOU READY!

RELATIONSHIP AGLOW NETWORK INC.
with The Olayemis
presents:

INTERACTIVE SESSION

THEME: AM I LOVING RIGHT?

This is not just another talk…
It’s a life-transforming conversation designed to: ✔ Heal from heartbreak
✔ Address real relationship challenges
✔ Help you understand love from God’s perspective
✔ Reposition you for a healthy, fulfilling relationship aligned with God’s perfect will.

🗓 Date: Sunday, 26th April 2025

⏰ Time: 8:00 PM (Nigeria Time)

🌍 Same time applies in: Ghana, Liberia, UK, USA, South Africa, Cameroon, Ethiopia, Kenya, Rwanda, Uganda, Tanzania

📍 Venue: WhatsApp Platform

🎯 Join Live:
📞 Call or WhatsApp:
08130539995 | 07031106076

Host:
The Olayemis
Relationship & Marriage Therapists

14/04/2026

How to Communicate Your Needs Without Starting an Argument ❤️

Most relationship problems aren’t about love, they’re about poor communication.

Here’s a simple step-by-step way to express your needs calmly and clearly:

Step 1. Get clear on what you actually feel
Before talking, ask yourself: “Am I hurt, ignored, or overwhelmed?”

Step 2. Choose the right time
Don’t bring it up in the middle of an argument. Pick a calm moment.

Step 3. Use “I” statements, not blame
Say: “I feel unappreciated when…” instead of “You never…”

Step 4. Be specific about your need
Don’t be vague. Say exactly what you want: “I’d like more quality time on weekends.”

Step 5. Listen without interrupting
Communication is not just talking, it's understanding.

Step 6. Stay calm, even if it gets emotional
If things escalate, pause instead of reacting.

Step 7. End with appreciation
Let them know you value the relationship: “I’m sharing this because I care about us.”

Healthy communication builds strong relationships.

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© The Olayemis

14/04/2026

HOW TO APPROACH A SINGLE LADY ONLINE AND ONSITE
This is how to get the attention of the lady you like and will like to marry.

Some brothers don't know how to approach some sisters in their inbox
Here is Appraoch made easy

1. Make a little research about the lady

Go through her social media platforms, read her posts and the things she share on her wall.

It will give you a clue about her person, interests and the things she is passionate about.

Get to know a bit about her.

Education, business, career, family, fashion, gender equality, women advocacy, women empowerment etc., are all areas of interest and passion

Take note of these. Her personality, interests and passions are good areas to strike up a conversation with her.

2. Don't start using endearment names

This is a turn off for many ladies. Be responsible. Endearment names are for those in a relationship.

You just met a lady and you have started calling her sweet sweet names. E. G Baby, Babe, Sweetheart, Darling, Angel, Angle, egbon... It's angle 90 ni...

3. Chat her up

After you have gathered enough information about her Spiritually, physically etc. Then, chat her up.

Don't enter into a lady's DM and be asking her, "Can I know your name?" "Where are you from" "Where are you chatting from" etc.

You are not serious...ask her about the names of her ancestors too.

👉DM her and be polite.

👉Exchange pleasantries

👉Introduce yourself

👉Then, bring up a conversation with her based on what you observed on her wall.

You can ask her a question

You can compliment her on what she is doing

You can encourage her

You can offer to support her in whatever capacity you can, that's if she needs any support

All these are based on what you noticed on your wall.

4. Keep checking up on her

Don't state your mission yet

Try making her your friend.

Till and water the ground.

You don't sow a seed on fallow ground.

Be calming down small small, my friend.

👉Make it a point of duty to communicate with her frequently

👉Chat her up always, call her if she gives her contact, check up on her, how she's doing, how her day is going, what challenges she's facing and how you can be of help to ease the situation, how her day went etc.

👉Crack sensible jokes. This depends on how free she is with you. This is just to make her happy.

She will be getting the message small small.

Give her enough attention.

5. State your mission

After you have done your homework, after you have tilled, watered and saturated the ground, plant your seed.

Depending on how she relates with you now, if she's free with you now, then ask her out. Shoot your shoot. 😎😎🤣

She may fall or she may not because she's yet to approve of you..

Continue with number 4.

These are just few ways to get a lady's attention.

Stop harrasing ladies in their DM with your manhood and endearment names!

Be responsible! And be sensitive in the spirit.
And grab your copy

They won't teach you this in school.

Oya, come and pay your tithe single brothers 😎😎😎😎😎

24/03/2026

Dear Esteemed Ministerial Partner,

Grace and peace to you in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

We write to you with a deep sense of purpose and a burning passion for souls as we prepare for our Easter Retreat Program (ERP) 2026, themed “Jesus – The Way of Life.” This divine gathering will take place from March 3rd – 5th, 2026 in Calabar, Nigeria.

As part of this retreat, the Lord has laid it strongly on our hearts to carry out a One-Day Mission Outreach on Wednesday, March 4th, 2026 (Day 2) at 5:00 PM. This outreach is designed not only to preach the Gospel but to demonstrate the love of Christ in action by reaching out to the community through tangible acts of kindness.

🌍 Our Mission

We are committed to:

Reaching souls with the saving message of Jesus Christ

Extending hands of love through distribution of relief materials (in-kind support)

Ministering hope, healing, and restoration to individuals and families in the community

💰 Outreach Budget

To effectively carry out this mission, we have projected a budget of:

₦500,000 (Five Hundred Thousand Naira)
≈ $333 USD (estimated equivalent)

📊 Proposed Budget Breakdown

Food Items & Relief Materials (Rice, Garri, Oil, etc.) – ₦250,000

Clothing & Basic Needs Support – ₦80,000

Evangelism Materials (Tracts, Bibles, Follow-up materials) – ₦50,000

Logistics & Transportation – ₦60,000

Public Address System & Setup – ₦30,000

Miscellaneous / Contingency – ₦30,000

🤝 Why Your Support Matters

The Gospel is most powerful when it is both preached and demonstrated. This outreach is an opportunity to:

Win souls into the Kingdom

Show the compassion of Christ in practical ways

Impact lives that may never step into a church building

Partner in eternal rewards through kingdom advancement

Scripture reminds us:
"He who wins souls is wise" (Proverbs 11:30)

Your partnership—whether through financial support, materials, or prayers—will go a long way in making this mission a success. Together, we can bring light, hope

18/03/2026

Food for Thought

“Stop Calling It Love When God Didn’t Send It”

Not every open door is from God.
Some doors are tests of your discipline.

Just because they pray… doesn’t mean they are sent.
Just because they quote scripture… doesn’t mean they carry God’s heart.

Many people don’t fall into the wrong relationship because they are bad.
They fall because they are impatient.

You said you are waiting on God…
but your emotions are rushing ahead of His timing.

Truth you must accept:

God will not bless what He did not build.
And He will not sustain what you forced.

If you cannot hear God clearly when you are single,
you may ignore Him completely when you are in love.

Because feelings are loud…
but the voice of God is often gentle.

Ask yourself:

Is this relationship drawing me closer to God…
or making me compromise quietly?

Do I have peace… or just excitement?

Am I led by the Spirit… or by loneliness?

Loneliness has made many people call a distraction “destiny.”

Do not trade your calling for companionship.
Do not rush into what God has not confirmed.

It is better to be single and aligned with God…
than to be in a relationship and out of His will.

The right person will not compete with God for your heart…
they will lead you closer to Him.

Wait wisely. Pray deeply. Discern carefully.

© The Olayemis

12/02/2026

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

THE WEIGHT OF BEING A WOMAN

Lately, I have been deeply occupied with taking care of my children. In the simplicity of everyday motherhood, I encountered a powerful lesson.

Whenever I am with my baby girl, my baby boy, Adura, immediately comes close. The moment I attempt to carry the baby, he climbs onto my lap as well. I noticed that subtle spark of jealousy in him. It was amusing😅. I laughed and thought to myself, a boy child can be this jealous?

Yet beyond the laughter was a revelation.
What I was witnessing was not rivalry, but bonding, attachment, and emotional formation. And in that moment, I understood again that the home is the first nation, and the woman is its builder.

Women are home builders by divine design.
We nurture emotions, stabilize relationships, and create safe spaces where identities are formed. We are the support system to our husbands, caregivers to our children, and the unseen managers of life’s daily rhythms.

Family is demanding. It requires time, intentional presence, sacrifice, and sometimes the postponement of personal ambitions. There were seasons I desired to pursue studies and opportunities outside my country. The doors were there, but family responsibility narrowed my options. Not because capacity was absent, but because stewardship was required.

This is why I say to single women: build capacity early.
Learn. Grow. Acquire skills. Read widely. Pray deeply. Develop yourself intentionally. Family life is beautiful, but it will demand your time, focus, and energy. Capacity built before marriage sustains purpose within marriage.

Below is the meaning of WOMEN:

W — Womb of possibility: carrying life, vision, and future.
O — Order keepers: bringing structure and stability to homes.
M — Multipliers: expanding whatever is entrusted to us.
E — Economists: managing resources wisely and sustainably.
N — Nurturers of nations: shaping character before the world does.

I have learned this: a woman may pause her personal pursuits for a season, but she never stops building. Quietly, faithfully, intentionally, she builds nations, beginning from her home.

© Dr. Mrs. Benita Joshua