Relationship School Matters

02/06/2021

Dating 👫 in the 80s and early 20s

01/06/2021

*RELATIONSHIPS* --- *HUSBANDS* 😇

Ephesians 5:25-29 (MSG )

25-28 *Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting😇. Christ's love makes the church whole* .

*His words evoke her beauty* . Everything he does and says *is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness* .

*And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They're really doing themselves a favor—since they're already "one" in marriage.*

29No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and *pampers* it.....
👆may you begin to *pamper your wifes🙌🙌🙌*

01/06/2021

We invite you to make Jesus Christ the Lord of your life by praying thus:*

_“O Lord God, I believe with all my heart in Jesus Christ, Son of the living God. I believe He died for me and God raised Him from the dead. I believe He’s alive today. I confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, I have eternal life; I’m born again. Thank you Lord, for saving my soul! I’m now a child of God. Hallelujah!”_

11/02/2021

*WAYS TO PREPARE FOR A GODLY RELATIONSHIP- Pt 4*

Preparing yourself for a godly relationship takes work. But so does a great relationship. If you can learn these things now, you will be more prepared for a successful, Christ-centered relationship later.

Remember, if you’re already in a relationship… these tips can help you improve the relationship you already have. There’s always room for improvement, and it’s not too late!

Once again, the absolute best way to prepare for an awesome relationship is to be a godly young man/woman. *Nothing will prepare you better than having a solid foundation in God’s Word.* Biblical principles are the best rules to follow in order to have a successful and awesome relationship!

*Shall we continue from where we stopped last two days ago?*

*8. Don’t Set Your Expectations Too High (or too Low!)*

*“Better is little with the fear of the LORD, than great treasure and trouble therewith. Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith.”* Proverbs 15:16-17

Let me explain. I think we as young women/man should have high expectations for the young man/woman who wants to win our heart. If expectations are too low… you may end up with someone who will not properly lead you in a godly, Christ-like way. In this way, you should set high standards of godly character, leadership, and integrity in any young man that “comes courting”.

*However, on the flip side, having expectations that are too high can be very dangerous as well.* Expecting a young man/woman to always make you happy and romance you every single day of your life…. well that’s just setting an impossible and unreasonable standard.
*Set high standards on things that really matter – like his walk with God, godly character, polite manners, family values, etc.* But don’t set your standards too high in other areas – like romance, expensive gifts, fancy dates etc.

*9. Choose to Be Joyful*

*“Rejoice in the Lord always; and again, Rejoice.”* Philippians 4:4

It’s been awhile since I talked about joy. But choosing to be a joyful and happy person will go a long way in preparing you for a great relationship. Sour moods, constant unhappiness, and wrong emotions will drag other people (especially him) down. However, a happy, joyful spirit will bring life and energy to any relationship.

*It’s our job to choose joy and happiness. It is NOT the responsibility of other people or a special young man to make us a happy.* That kind of expectation could ruin a relationship!

Choose today to…

*Look on the bright side – be positive* (1 Thessalonians 16-18)

*Smile!* (Proverbs 15:13)

*Fight against wrong bad moods and wrong emotions –* especially during that time of the month (Proverbs 16:32)

*Be joyful in the Lord* (Philippians 4:4)

*Be content* (Philippians 4:11)

*Choose to be lighthearted and merry* (Proverbs 17:22)

*Fight against worry and fear –* Learn to trust the Lord instead (Philippians 4:6)

Avoid complaining (Philippians 2:14)

*10. Change Yourself Instead of Others*

*“And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.”* Matthew 7:3-5

So often, we try to change other people. But if we do this, we will just end up frustrated and disappointed because we can’t change other people! We need to learn to accept people as they are – without trying to change them. So, if you meet someone you would love to change – don’t even try. You can pray for others, and hope for the best – you can even encourage and motivate them to do what is right… but you will never change them. Instead, focus on yourself.

This is one area where it’s okay to be a little self-focused. *What do you need to change about yourself? What are your weaknesses? What are your particular struggles? Pinpoint your own weakness and faults (not other people’s faults).* Try to found out your blind spots (you know, those areas of weakness you can’t see as easily as other’s can?) Ask a close friend to point out things you need to work on. Make a self-improvement list. Set goals for yourself.

*Be an encouraging cheerleader for others… but don’t try to change them.* With God’s grace and help, work on changing the only person you can possibly change: yourself.

*Learn to grow in the Lord. Grow in character, and grow as a person. Learn how to make changes in your own life -especially spiritual changes- and you will be preparing yourself for a great and godly relationship!*

*The Lord bless you.*

08/02/2021

*WAYS TO PREPARE FOR A GODLY RELATIONSHIP- Pt 3*

Preparing yourself for a godly relationship takes work. But so does a great relationship. If you can learn these things now, you will be more prepared for a successful, Christ-centered relationship later.

Remember, if you’re already in a relationship… these tips can help you improve the relationship you already have. There’s always room for improvement, and it’s not too late!

Once again, the absolute best way to prepare for an awesome relationship is to be a godly young man/woman. *Nothing will prepare you better than having a solid foundation in God’s Word.* Biblical principles are the best rules to follow in order to have a successful and awesome relationship!

*Shall we continue from where we stopped last week?*

*6. Learn How to Communicate Well*

*“Let no corrupt communication, proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”* Ephesians 4:29

Communication is key in life, and in relationships. Learning how to communicate well, isn’t as complicated as you might think. And you know what? The Bible has a lot to say about communication! Just read the book of Proverbs.

*I’m going to share some quick (and simple) communication tips with you. Some of these came from our pre-marriage counseling, others are things that my wife and I have found that just “work” for us…*

*Be Honest –* talk about things that bother you. Don’t clam up… speak up. Don’t hide things from others. Be honest and truthful with other people. Learn to talk about problems and work through them. (Ephesians 4:25)

*Speak with Kindness –* Be kind and loving when you talk to others. Don’t let unkind words come out of your mouth. Avoid raising your voice. Speak with love and kindness. (Ephesians 4:15 and 32)

*Work Together –* if a problem comes up, work together (or with others) to find a solution. Learn teamwork. (Romans 12:18)

*Communicate Often –* Don’t let too much time or distance come between you and other people – especially if you’re in a relationship. Communicate as needed to keep your relationships strong and healthy.

*Speak With Clarity and Use Details –* Be very clear and use details when trying to explain yourself. Avoid talking about serious issues over text. Call and talk on the phone… or better yet, speak in person, face to face!

Learning good communication skills will go a looong way to help you have a great relationship. Be sure to study out God’s Word, and see for yourself what the Bible has to say about good communication.

*7. Be “Others-Focused”*

*“Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.”* Philippians 2:4

No one wants to be in a relationship with a selfish or self-focused individual. Learn to focus on other people. Don’t always be thinking about yourself.

Be genuinely interested in other people – Keep their best interest in mind.

When you find yourself in a relationship with a special someone… don’t focus on what they can do for you – make it your goal to serve and bless them.

Someone said: *“Never be afraid to be the one who loves the most.”*

*Relationships are not supposed to be a 50-50 proposition like most people seem to think.* It’s not me giving 50% and my wife giving her own 50%. *It’s supposed to be both of us giving 100%.* But there is nothing wrong with being the one who gives or loves the most.

*Learn to be selfless and others-focused in your relationships.* Doing so will prepare you for a selfless and loving relationship that will bless your future spouse.

To be continued!

*A blessed week for you in Jesus name.*

19/01/2021

*TODAY'S LESSON:*

*WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS TOO BUSY FOR YOU*

You need a guy/lady that will regard you as his/her priority. However, he/she appears to be excessively occupied with work and left you wondering what should be done.

The truth is, the absence of time together with your man/woman can influence your love life in various ways. It doesn’t mean you relinquish everything to be with him/her.

*You should figure out how to live with a busy man/lady by following these suggested steps:*

*1. Learn to be independent.*
You have to understand that your man/woman needs space. His/her activity is similarly essential. Limit on the number of messages and calls you make to him/her once a day. Give him/her some breathing space, and he/she will most likely miss you.

*2. Discover something to keep you occupied.*
If your partner is too busy, then you additionally need to discover something that will keep you occupied also. Make a rundown of things that can fill your day with the goal, that you don’t stress over the undertaking. Also, discover things that are beneficial to you to improve life on your side.

*3. Be an understanding man/lady.*
Do not annoy your man/woman when he is caught up with his/her tight schedule. Your man/woman needs space to work. Know what he/she is doing truly matters to the family that you're about to build together.

Hope these points help.

*God bless you.*

01/01/2021

21/12/2020

If you want to have a good relationship with others, You have to Stop be judgemental learn to listen and understand them first before drawing ur conclusion

02/12/2020

Good and Healthy Relationship is not just a Wish. It takes hard work to Build and maintain

02/12/2020

10 Questions to Ask a Girl You Are in Love With

WithHaving found your life partner in your girlfriend is one of the most amazing feeling that you would ever have. Once you begin to feel that she is the one with whom you do not mind spending your entire life with, it is inevitable that certain questions would pop up in your mind immediately.

There are many factors and dimensions that need to be addressed before moving in with your potential life partner and in order to get an informative and genuine insight, you would need to ask her multiple questions. This article is an attempt to share some of the most essential questions that you should ask her to know her inside out and to make the most beautiful and crucial decision of your life.



1) Close you eyes, hold your thoughts for a while and then try to imagine what would your perfect life look like to you. Try to be as elaborate as you can.

This question would essentially help you to know her better. This is, in a way, very idealistic question – a question that would help you in determining what kind of personality does your girlfriend entails.

Moreover, it would assist you in comparing your own ideals of a perfect life with hers and you shall be hopefully able to decide whether this is the woman with whom you can envisage your entire life.



2) What are your life goals and ambitions? Would you want to work in the future or do you feel that a domestic life is ideal for you?

Well, this is one of the most important questions. Frame it wisely and in accordance with the mood and the disposition of your girlfriend. Knowing about her future goals would help you in estimating your future life with her.

Whether the girl is oriented towards having a sharp edge in the business or is she more favorable to staying at home tells a lot about your compatibility with her.

You will know if your girlfriend’s frequency matches with you and you can accordingly take your relationship further.

3) What, according to you, are the responsibilities of a woman in a relationship?

This again is a very important question to be put forward to your girlfriend. Ask her, very gently and of course very vaguely, about her perspectives on the role of woman in a relationship.

Try to figure out from her answer her own disposition with you in the coming years. You would also know if she is going to prove a nagging partner or an understanding one. Additionally, you can get a fair idea about her expectations from a relationship.

You would also know if she is going to prove a nagging partner or an understanding one. Additionally, you can get a fair idea about her expectations from a relationship.



4) For how long did your last relationship last and what was the reason for your breakup? What aspect of his personality was most likable/ unlikable for you?

Okay, guys! First and foremost, there is no point feeling envious about their last boyfriends because you too had your share of past relationships.

Listen to your girlfriend carefully and try to understand her definition of an ideal relationship. You would also know how well can she sustain relationships and what are the absolute turn offs for her when it comes to life partners.

You would also know how well can she sustain relationships and what are the absolute turn offs for her when it comes to life partners.



5) Have you ever betrayed anyone in relationships? What were the reasons?

Take note that this is one of the most serious questions and might offend her if asked out of context. Find a suitable time to ask her this question because well, as uncomfortable as it might be for her, this is an important question.

You will gather from her response whether she is a stable person or not, whether she is a habitual cheater or circumstances compelled her to be an infidel. You can make your move after knowing her personalities well.



6) How much time did you use to spend with your ex-boyfriends? Do you think you would have wanted to have them around less/more often?

This question will tell you whether your girlfriend and potential life partner for long term commitments would prefer having you around almost always or would she like to have her own space as well.

The frequency with which she used to meet with her ex-boyfriends would also prepare you mentally to invest that amount of time with her in the relationship.

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7) What do you think is the wastage of money? How important is money in your life?
One of the most practical questions indeed! Indubitably! Guys, you have to ask this question to your girlfriend to know how well would he be able to cope with the financial constraints in the future if any.

Also, her definition of wastage on money would also give you adequate hints about how well does she manage the finances.

See, relationships are not only about roses and chocolates; it is important to talk about realistic aspects of life as well.

9) How often would you like to engage in s*xual intimacy with your partner? What are your expectations from him on s*xual parameters?

Needless to say, s*x comprises a very important foundation of any romantic relationship.

If the two people are s*xually compatible, it could result in a wonderfully strong relationship.

It is hence necessary to know her expectations from her partner and you can calculate in your mind whether you are capable or fulfilling those expectations.

9) What do you do to rejuvenate yourself when you are stressed?

This question sounds very random and could be asked on a casual date. However, this is again one of the most significant things to know about your girlfriend. After all, if you are interested in her, it is your responsibility to know what makes her happy and how does she manage stress so that you could be by her side efficiently when she would need you.



10) Which movie/ TV Series and best music or song she loves the most?

We ask this question to our friends as well so knowing the same about your potential life partner is not a bad idea at all. Moreover, it will give you ample hints to know how can you set her mood alright if ever, she is angry at you. You would also get an idea about her sense of humor and her general taste when it comes to entertainment this way.Won’t this information help you in making your consequent dates more engaging and interesting? Absolutely!

You would also get an idea about her sense of humor and her general taste when it comes to entertainment this way.Won’t this information help you in making your consequent dates more engaging and interesting? Absolutely!



SO, these are only a few of the hundred of questions that you can/must ask your girlfriend in order to know her and love her better. Of course, she would realize that you do deeply care about her and are interested in her life details. This would certainly make your bond stronger and would give you the assurance of wonderful and healthy long term relationship in the times to come. Good luck guys!