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26/09/2026

Talk, don't assume - Nike Ajayi

SHE IS CALLED A WIFE… BUT DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE WORD REALLY MEANS? — SOLA AND NIKE AJAYIBeing a wife is more than wearing...
26/09/2026

SHE IS CALLED A WIFE… BUT DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE WORD REALLY MEANS? — SOLA AND NIKE AJAYI

Being a wife is more than wearing a wedding ring or being called “Mrs.” It is a responsibility that requires character, commitment, wisdom, sacrifice, and intentional love.

The word WIFE can remind us of the qualities that should define a woman in marriage:

W — WISE: A wise wife knows that her words, decisions, and actions can either strengthen or weaken her home. She chooses wisdom, especially in difficult moments.

I — INTENTIONAL: Marriage does not thrive on assumptions. An intentional wife deliberately nurtures friendship, communication, affection, peace, and connection with her husband.

F — FAITHFUL: Faithfulness goes beyond avoiding infidelity. It means being trustworthy, loyal, dependable, and committed to protecting the marriage.

E — ENCOURAGING: A wife can be a powerful source of encouragement to her husband. She celebrates his progress, supports his growth, and reminds him that he is not alone.

Being a wife does not mean being perfect. It means being willing to learn, grow, apologise, communicate, love consistently, and become a safe and dependable partner.

WIFE IS A TITLE, BUT THESE QUALITIES ARE WHAT GIVE THE TITLE MEANING.

HE IS CALLED A HUSBAND… BUT DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE WORD REALLY MEANS? - SOLA AND NIKE AJAYI Being a husband is more than w...
25/09/2026

HE IS CALLED A HUSBAND… BUT DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE WORD REALLY MEANS? - SOLA AND NIKE AJAYI

Being a husband is more than wearing a wedding ring or being called “the man of the house.” It is a responsibility that requires character, commitment, sacrifice, and intentional love.

The word HUSBAND can remind us of the qualities that should define a man in marriage:

H — HONEST: A husband should be truthful and transparent. Trust grows where honesty is practiced.

U — UNDERSTANDING: Marriage requires listening, patience, and the willingness to understand your wife's feelings, perspectives, and needs.

S — SUPPORTIVE: A good husband does not compete with his wife. He supports her dreams, encourages her growth, and stands with her through difficult seasons.

B — BRAVE: Marriage requires courage—the courage to admit mistakes, have difficult conversations, protect the relationship, and choose love even when things are uncomfortable.

A — AFFECTIONATE: Love should be expressed, not merely assumed. Kind words, thoughtful gestures, attention, and genuine care help keep emotional connection alive.

N — NOBLE: A husband should demonstrate integrity, honour, humility, and good character. Leadership in marriage is not about domination but responsible service.

D — DEDICATED: Marriage thrives on commitment. A dedicated husband remains intentional about building, protecting, and strengthening his home.

Being a husband does not mean being perfect. It means being willing to learn, grow, apologise, love consistently, and become a safe and dependable partner.

HUSBAND IS A TITLE, BUT THESE QUALITIES ARE WHAT GIVE THE TITLE MEANING.


HAPPY BIRTHDAY PASTOR BISI ADEWALE!REALM celebrates an exceptional mentor, teacher, father, and builder of marriages and...
23/09/2026

HAPPY BIRTHDAY PASTOR BISI ADEWALE!

REALM celebrates an exceptional mentor, teacher, father, and builder of marriages and families.

Thank you for your years of sacrifice, wisdom, and unwavering commitment to helping couples build healthy, God-centered homes.

We pray that God continues to strengthen you, enlarge your influence, renew your grace, and fill your new year with divine health, favour, joy, and greater impact. May your life continue to be a blessing to generations.

Happy Birthday, Sir!

THE LIGHT BEFORE SLEEPIt was 11:45 p.m. The house was quiet, and both husband and wife were getting ready for bed.Husban...
22/09/2026

THE LIGHT BEFORE SLEEP

It was 11:45 p.m. The house was quiet, and both husband and wife were getting ready for bed.

Husband: “Please, turn off the light. I want to sleep.”

Wife: “No, please leave it on. I don’t like sleeping in complete darkness.”

The husband sighed. “Every night, it’s the same argument. Can’t you just turn it off?”

She replied, “And every night, you expect me to sleep uncomfortably just because you want the room dark.”

The argument grew louder.

Husband: “I’m your husband. Why can’t you make this little sacrifice for me?”

Wife: “And I’m your wife. Why must I always be the one sacrificing?”

Silence.

The husband turned away angrily. The wife picked up her pillow and moved to the edge of the bed.

Neither of them slept.

But the next morning, they were still arguing about the same question:

Who should compromise, the person who wants the light OFF or the person who wants it ON?

Or is there a better solution that neither of them has considered?

What would you do if you were their marriage counselor? Who should compromise, and why?
Drop your honest opinion. Let’s discuss.

DEAR COUPLES, DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE BEG FOR YOUR TIME AND ATTENTION - SOLA & NIKE AJAYIOne of the most expensive mistake...
21/09/2026

DEAR COUPLES, DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE BEG FOR YOUR TIME AND ATTENTION - SOLA & NIKE AJAYI

One of the most expensive mistakes couples make is giving their best time and attention to everything else while giving their spouse whatever is left.

Your spouse may not always need money, gifts, or expensive outings. Sometimes, what they desperately need is you, your presence, your attention, your listening ears, and your undivided time.

Being phiysically present in the same house is not the same as being emotionally present. You can sit beside your spouse for hours while your mind is somewhere else. You can respond to messages all day but barely have a meaningful conversation with the person you married.

Dear couples, be generous with your time and attention. Put down the phone sometimes. Turn off the television. Look into your spouse’s eyes. Ask how their day really went. Listen without immediately trying to correct, defend, or judge. Create moments where both of you can talk, laugh, pray, dream, and simply enjoy each other’s company.

Remember, relationships are built through repeated moments of connection. What you consistently give your attention to eventually receives your heart.

Don’t wait until your spouse complains, withdraws, or becomes emotionally distant before you realize they have been asking for your attention for a long time.

Your spouse should not have to compete with your phone, work, friends, children, or other commitments for a place in your life.

Give your spouse the gift of your time, presence, and attention. These things may cost nothing, but they can mean everything.

Couples, when was the last time you gave your spouse your undivided attention without distractions?

The Things Couples Hide That Can Slowly Damage Their Marriage - Sola and Nike Ajayi Not every secret in marriage starts ...
18/09/2026

The Things Couples Hide That Can Slowly Damage Their Marriage - Sola and Nike Ajayi

Not every secret in marriage starts as something serious. Sometimes, couples hide things because they are afraid of their spouse’s reaction, they want to avoid conflict, or they simply believe, “It’s not a big deal.” But what is hidden today can become a bigger problem tomorrow.

A healthy marriage requires honesty, trust and transparency. Here are some things couples should be careful about hiding:

1. Financial Matters
Hidden debts, secret spending, undisclosed income or financial commitments can create serious trust issues when discovered. Couples should discuss major financial decisions openly.

2. Emotional Struggles
Pretending everything is fine when you are hurting can create emotional distance. Your spouse cannot support you effectively if they do not know what you are going through.

3. Relationships and Friendships
Secret communication or friendships that you deliberately hide can create suspicion and insecurity, especially when your spouse eventually discovers them.

4. Past or Present Issues That Affect the Marriage
Some experiences may be difficult to discuss, but if they are affecting your emotions, behaviour or relationship, they should not be buried indefinitely.

5. Major Decisions
Career moves, family commitments, investments or other major decisions should not be made secretly when they affect both partners.

Remember, privacy is not the same as secrecy. Privacy allows healthy personal space; secrecy deliberately withholds information that your spouse reasonably needs to know.

Marriage grows stronger when couples can talk honestly, listen without unnecessary judgment, and face difficult matters together. What you communicate today can protect the trust you need tomorrow.

Would you share your spouse’s toothbrush or towel? Some couples see it as love and closeness, while others have personal...
17/09/2026

Would you share your spouse’s toothbrush or towel?

Some couples see it as love and closeness, while others have personal boundaries about hygiene.

If your answer is NO, what’s your reason? Let’s hear your honest opinion in the comments!

Good day sir, I got married to my high school lover,though we both went to different universities and graduated at diffe...
16/09/2026

Good day sir, I got married to my high school lover,though we both went to different universities and graduated at different times, Providence still brought us together.

What I enjoyed most in my marriage is the love that my mother in-law has for me,she loved me to the extent that whenever I reported my husband to her, she will practically beat him up, when I experienced this once, I stopped reporting him to her.

However, I usually threatened him that I will report him so that he can stop hurting me. My husband love, respect and fear his mother to the highest level. He wasn't happy that the woman loved me that much, but he can't do anything.

I never lacked anything, my mother in-law didn't allow me to know prices of baby cares whenever I give birth, she will leave her shop to come and cater for me. Then she secured a job for me with One of her friends that owns a company.

When it became obvious that I couldn't combine paid employment with taking care of children, she advised that I come to join her in her shop, and she allowed me to handle One of her shops.

By the way my mother in-law sells clothes and she has three big shops, after I have stayed with her for over a year in the shop, she just told me to manage one of other two shops and we get on very well. I never cheated her and she too never take undue advantage of me.

Then all of a sudden, my mother in-law just fell ill and we began to take her to hospitals, when she wasn't getting well, I left the shop for one of her workers and stayed permanently with her. By this time my husband has started showing me shege, but I was too busy with mummy to even complain.

Then, after three years of sickness, when two of mummy's shops have been closed due to lack of funds, she eventually died. Oh My goodness!! That was the worst time of my life. My greatest supporter was gone.

We buried her,after which my husband began to seriously brutalized me, he will beat me and also carry women anyhow.

Before mummy died she instructed me to take charge of her shop and I wanted to go and do the needful when I saw my husband came there with another woman to come and handle the shop .

I have gotten experience and some of mummy's money was still with me, I know where mummy buys goods from and almost all our customers knows me personally, when my husband refused for me to handle mummy's shop and he also doesn't take good care of me and the children again after mummy's death, I decided to open my own shop independently and start the business.

I got a shop without his knowledge, went to buy goods there,then I told him that I've just gotten a shop and I want to start doing my business. My husband told me that I should pick either the business or our marriage, that if I start that shop I should consider the marriage over. What do you think sir?

Me: how many children do you have?
She: we have two children
Me: Are they going to school?
She: Yes
Me: who is paying their school fees
She: My husband
Me: Does he give you money for upkeep?
She: No,he will just give me money whenever he wants to eat something special.
Me: what kind of job does he do?
She: he is into aluminum,he collect contracts for houses.
Me: The woman he brought, was he married to her?
She: No, but she's his girlfriend,he stays most times with her.
Me: how do you know that?
She: he told me.

Okay friends, here we go again, let's do justice to this without going against the rules, don't cuss, don't curse, don't use foul words. Just proffer solution or waka pass.

15/09/2026

Marriage Doesn't change people - Pastor Nike Adejumo

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