29/05/2026
Dear sis, kindly bear this tips in mind when you are going to visit your would-be inlaws for the first time to be introduced. I want to share this because of a recent experience a younger friend of mine had and it's so funny but at the same time, not funny, so I feel more people should know these, we will do the men's own next:
✅️ Wear a comfortable outfit, not too tight that you won't be able to breathe, eat or sit. DONT WEAR CORSETS 😀😀. Your outfit should fit your body type,be modest and must allow you sit conveniently without looking for something else to cover legs, cleavage or not being able to bend to pick stuffs. Check the zips and buttons and every seam to make sure nothing is loosing or coming off. Also wear a colour that you know fits you. Don't make that day the day you experiment weird colour blocking and you end up looking like a rainbow apprentice.
✅️ Your hair must be neatly done. Whichever style you are going for, just make sure it is neat. Please if you have been carrying a particular hair for months before then, kindly wash or change it. Hair smells. I hope ypu know. Style your hair neatly and beautifully.
✅️ Don't wear heels that are too high. It's not necessary. It is not a runway. The reason I'm say this is that you risk tripping and falling because you may not be used to the house architecture or design..they may have slippery tiles or stairs in unusual places. Also, the tension and adrenaline flowing in your body at that point in time can make you miss your steps. So please, let your heels be moderate and let it be a shoe you are used to. Imagine wearing a new shoe that may end up being painful, you'll start walking awkwardly abi?
✅️ Let the makeup be moderate. Sis, I know you want to look peng and some go as far as having a face beat for that day. You get a make up artists to make you look stunning but you end up looking scary. Nah sis, you don't need it. Do it moderately. I've seen people who look less beautiful with full make up,so just know what works for you and stick with it. Imagine, you have never had lashes done but you chose to do it that day, you will definitely look different and not necessarily more beautiful. So just be moderate and clean.
✅️ Brush your teeth and tongue and avoid onions the day before. The last thing you want to have is bad breathe. Brush your tongue well and drink water. There is a great possibility that your mouth will be dry cos of tension, so keep a bottle of water handy. Also invest in breath mint. In addition, don't eat beans the day before, especially it makes you fart. Trust me, take this advice.
✅️Wear mild and inviting fragrance. Please I'm not talking about "lofinda".....not the conc type of perfume that stays on till eternity and chokes the life out of a dead body. Let your fragrance be welcoming that someone will feel like hugging you. You know that type.
✅️If you can avoid it, don't go when you are on your period. The blood will rush more, you'll be too conscious yourself, you mnight get stained, you mnight experience cramps, mood swings, food aversion etc. It's just better to be safe than sorry.
✅️ Let go of the gum....sis, it is not proper to chew gum when you are being spoken to. Yes I know some of us chew to relieve pressure or for fresh breath, but please, as soon as you are about to step your feet into the house, get rid of it. Most Nigerian parents consider it rude when you chew in their presence.
✅️ Keep your phone away... it is also bad social etiquette to fo**le with your phone when in the presence of others, especially during and important meeting like the one you are going for. Some of us are so addicted that we get carried away and chat, check social media even in the midst of important discussions. Be present in the moment and let that phone rest. Infact put it on silence if possible to avoid distractions unless it's a life and death issue.
✅️ Learn how to give compliments. Compliment the house, the decorations, the food ,the hospitality, his mum's beauty or dress. Compliment her for raising a good man. But don't make it too obvious that you are giving compliments or they will think you are just saying it for them to like you. Be spontaneous and natural about it. Learn the different ways to give compliments. Everything must not be "I like this house...I like this plate...I like this curtains. Please use another method or grammar.
✅️Very important, please if you use the toilet, flush it and wait for it to flush properly. Ensure all your inputs ( p*e, tissue, faeces) have been properly flushed. Don't leave the toilet messy or worse than you met it. This is very very important. Don't say I didn't for anything for you.😀😀😀
May the Lord be with you.
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