HAPPY HOME FAMILY

28/04/2026

DEAR SINGLE MOTHERS, your KIDS may not UNDERSTAND now, but one day they’ll look back and realize their MOTHER was a WARRIOR.

28/04/2026

TEACH YOUR CHILD CONTENTMENT...✍🏾
The first teacher every child have or knows isn't their school or Sunday school teacher, but their parent.
Through your actions, reactions, and inaction, your children pick one or two lessons from you; and this forms a greater part of their upbringing.

What do you teach your children?

Whilst growing up, my parent taught us contentment. Although we had a fair share of life, we were taught to live within our means. There was no room for extravagance and they never lived their lives to please anyone. When the going was tough, they lived a simple life, and when there was abundance, we maintained and adapted to what we had.

Contentment is a state of showing satisfaction with one's situation, possession, and status whilst living in simplicity. Although it doesn't mean living a life of mediocrity, rather, it shows a life of moderation.
How do you teach your child contentment?

1. By giving them more of what they need, than what they want.

2. By inculcating the virtue of moderation instead of extravagance.

3. By making them to understand that life is governed by time and season.

4. By letting them to know that a person's life doesn't consist of what they have or do not have.

5. By modelling what contentment and godliness are through your actions, reactions and inactions.

6. By delaying gratification till appropriate time.

Remember Paul's letter to Timothy, "But godliness with contentment is great gain" (1 Tim. 6:6). It takes a contented parent to raise children who are contented.

PRAYER: Father, give me the grace to imbibe the virtues of contentment and to teach my children the same in Jesus' name.

28/04/2026

A wedding is just the beginning of a beautiful journey together. What truly matters is the strength of the relationship built on love, trust, and shared experiences.

A lavish wedding may dazzle for a day, but it's the enduring bond forged through love and mutual understanding that sustains a marriage for a lifetime.

No amount of extravagance can replace the simple yet profound foundation of love and respect that forms the cornerstone of a fulfilling and enduring marriage...✍🏾

28/04/2026

SOME OF THE COSTLY MISTAKES THAT WIVES MAKE...✍🏾

1. PROLONGING SILENT TREATMENT WHEN OFFENDED TO SHOW YOU ARE ANGRY
This makes you and your husband used to not talking and makes you two draw further apart doing major damage to your communication. Even when he does wrong, get angry, but get to talk about it and forgive quickly

2. KILLING YOUR SOCIAL LIFE IN THE NAME OF BEING A GOOD WIFE
Don't isolate yourself. Have mature friends to surround you, to grow with you as a wife. This makes your life richer, widens your worldview, challenges you and makes you less demanding on your husband's time. Again, make sure the lady friends you keep are of good character. You need fellow women who will stand with you, iron sharpens iron

3. OVER REACTING OR GETTING EASILY ANGRY
When your husband reveals to you information and you over react or you become highly suspicious or critical of him, that will discourage him from sharing matters with you in future and he will begin to be secretive, not because he wants to but because he would rather avoid the toxic environment you bring when over reacting. Secrecy opens up a door to many dangers in your marriage

4. USING S*X AS A WEAPON
Never try to punish your husband by denying him s*x. This will make him desire your s*x less. Once your s*x-life is damaged, your marriage will suffer. Never play games with s*x

5. LISTENING TO OUTSIDE VOICES MORE THAN TO YOUR HUSBAND
You and your husband know your marriage and the issues concerning your marriage best, not your family or friends. When you listen to multiple voices to direct your marriage, you will get confused. The best person to talk to is your husband. Don't make your husband feel you value more what others say than what he says

6. SHARING PERSONAL INFORMATION WITH OUTSIDERS
There are things to tell your friends and there are things best kept between you and your husband. Do not bad mouth your husband to the public. Don't gossip about him. Cover him

7. ATTACKING THE SYMPTOMS AND NOT THE ISSUE
If your husband drinks too much, don't attack the alcohol or your husband; find out what is making him drink and address the issue. Is he stressed, is he going through something? If your husband is addicted to po*******hy, don't attack the p**n and your husband; address the reason causing him to turn to p**n, is it s*xual frustration or dissatisfaction? Is he battling low self-esteem issues?

8. DRESSING UP WHEN GOING OUTSIDE, DRESSING POORLY AT HOME
Do not look good for outsiders and wear nice clothes when going to work or to the public but look pathetic when with your husband at home or in the bedroom. Your goal is to be visually stimulating to your husband

9. LETTING GO OF YOUR DREAMS FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR MARRIAGE
Don't end your career and throw away all your years of education and experience, all your talent and skills because you are a wife. Get a job, keep your job, make money, get into business, study, advance your goals. Grow. There is more to your life than marriage. When you stagnate and stop growing, you will become less compatible with your husband and he will soon struggle to relate with you because he has grown more than you over the years

10. COMPARING YOUR HUSBAND WITH OTHER MEN
Don't keep telling your husband, 'Why can't you be like this man or that man'. The fastest way to kill your husband's self-esteem, ego, dreams and drive is by praising other men and looking down on him

11. ABANDONING YOUR HUSBAND
When you get a child/children, don't abandon your husband and stop meeting his needs. Don't push him aside. Show him you still need him. Do parenthood together but also still remember you need to keep the warmth as a couple. Yes, you can balance being a wife and a mother, just like he can balance being a husband and a father. Don't belittle him saying being a mother is more hard work than being a father. You need each other

12. COMPETING WITH OTHER COUPLES
Don't compete with other couples in order to make an impression. When you want to live like other couples and have what they have, you will only make your marriage shallow. Don't make your husband feel not good enough because you are admiring other marriages. Stop playing catch up. Find your own identity, goals and pace as a couple

13. FORCING CHANGE IN YOUR HUSBAND
Stop shouting at your husband and trying to manipulate him or control him to change. If you want him to be better at something, simply inspire him to do so. Win him over with love and praise, not coercion. If you force him it will back fire on you and he will rebel and repel

14. BEING YOUR HUSBAND'S BIGGEST CRITIC
Stop being the woman who sees no good in your husband. Of course you saw good in him and that's why you got married to him. Don't cancel all the good he has done for years when he does one or a few mistakes. Don't keep a record of his wrongs. Be his biggest fan, his number one cheerleader and he will do great things with you and for you

15. HIDING IN CHURCH AND ABANDONING YOUR HOME
Lady, it is good to be active for God, to go for keshas, to pray for your family. But remember the Church is not a building. The Church is a living body. Your first responsibility is your home. Be present at home. You are the answer to the prayers you make for your marriage and family. God will bless your marriage, not because of the hours you put in a religious building but the effort you put at home

16. BEING PASSIVE IN THE NAME OF SUBMISSION
Being a submissive wife doesn't mean you sit pretty and lack initiative, it doesn't mean you don't have a voice or you wait for your husband in everything. Contribute. Get a vision for your marriage and share it with him. Ask your husband questions. Identify needs at home and meet them. Lead with your husband, don't just tag along. Take your husband out on dates. Come up with ideas and discuss them with your husband. Make s*xual advances on your husband

17. BOTTLING IN ISSUES
Stop keeping things to yourself pretending you are happy. Stop holding grudges deep inside you. Stop wearing a plastic smile. Stop thinking your husband will know what is bothering you if you don't say it. Stop calling your husband insensitive yet you don't voice to him what is disturbing you. If you keep things inside you they will grow and one day blow up in an ugly way. If your husband has wronged you, confront him with love

18. THREATENING DIVORCE TO SCARE YOUR HUSBAND
Do not casually use the word divorce. Do not use threats. Do not tolerate thoughts of ending your marriage lest you risk the danger of appearing irrational and indecisive. Every marriage will have its challenges but that doesn't mean you toy with the idea of exiting it. If you do, divorce will actually be an irreversible reality.

28/04/2026

28/04/2026

This is Rev. Choji, his beloved wife, and their children, they were brutally killed in Gako village, Riyom.

An entire family wiped out. A servant of God silenced. A once peaceful home turned into a scene of bloodshed.
How long will this continue? How long will innocent lives keep being taken in such cruel and senseless attacks?
These repeated killings in our land are no longer just headlines they are becoming a painful pattern. And that should trouble every one of us.

May their souls rest in peace

28/04/2026

Do you think it is a good idea for husband and wife to combine their money and plan everything together especially in this harsh Economy? 💵❤️

28/04/2026

OUR BEHAVIOUR AS PASTORS IS THE REASON WHY OUR MEMBERS MISBEHAVE:

Matthew 27:51 (NIV)
“At that moment, the curtain of the temple was torn in two from top to bottom. The earth shook, the rocks split.”

In matters of the Temple, the change must begin from the Top to the Bottom, and not from the Bottom to the Top. We are always trying to change our Members as Pastors, forgetting that members are always doing the things they see us do as their Pastor. In fact, the Pastor needs more training than the members. If the change doesn’t start from the top, it won’t produce at the bottom.

Stop getting angry with members who are doing just exactly what you are doing.
Until a Pastor can say “Follow me and you won’t miss God”, he is not qualified to be a PASTOR.

From the above scripture, when the change takes place from the top to the bottom, then the earth will shake in heavy revival and our Rock‑like problems within our Churches will break into pieces.
So emphasis must be placed on those at the top of the ladder and not at the bottom of the ladder.

7 AREAS WE GET ANGRY WITH MEMBERS THAT WE THE PASTORS ARE MORE GUILTY OF, THAN THEM:

1. YOU ASK MEMBERS TO PAY TITHE BUT YOU DON’T PAY TITHE YOURSELF.
You think they don’t know you don’t pay. You are the High Priest of the Church. You receive from all, and give to no one.

2. YOU TELL MEMBERS TO BE PROUD BEFORE EVERYONE THAT YOU ARE THEIR SPIRITUAL FATHER YET YOU HAVE NEVER CALLED ANYONE YOUR SPIRITUAL FATHER BEFORE YOUR MEMBERS.
Can you be their Spiritual Father and no one knows your own Spiritual Father? Keep deceiving yourself. MEMBERS MUST BEHAVE LIKE YOU.

3. YOUR MEMBERS MUST GIVE TO YOU, YET YOU GIVE TO NO ONE.
If you are their Prophet that receives their Prophet Offerings, who receives your own Prophet Offering? Are you consistent in giving to your Father? Yet you want members to be consistent in giving to you.

4. MEMBERS MUST NOT COME TO CHURCH LATE, YET THEY WATCH YOU COME LATE EVERY WEEK.
Never put a law you cannot keep. If you and your wife are above the law, it won’t work, because:
Like Shepherd like Sheep, Like Priest like People, Like Leaders like Followers.

5. MEMBERS MUST BE LOYAL AND FAITHFUL TO YOU, YET YOU ARE NOT LOYAL AND FAITHFUL TO ANY LEADER.
Loyalty is a Seed. When you sow it, you will reap it. They see how you follow to know how to follow also.

6. MEMBERS MUST NOT SERVE YOU AND EXPECT PAYMENT, YET YOU HAVE NEVER PREACHED FOR ANY CHURCH WITHOUT PAYMENT.
Sometimes you stay there and tell them to increase your offering, you won’t leave the hotel room. This is why members ask for money for every service they render to you also. Honour is better than honorarium.

7. MEMBERS MUST WORK IN LOVE WITH OTHER MEMBERS, YET WE THE PASTORS ARE KNOWN FOR HATRED, BETRAYALS, AND EVIL SPEAKING AGAINST EACH OTHER.
There is hardly any Pastor on Earth who does not have a Pastor he is not talking with. Anytime you hear a Pastor go through a Storm, if you check it very well, a fellow Pastor stirred it against him. The wickedness amongst Pastors is something else. The enemy of a Pastor is a Pastor. In this particular one, our members are far better than us.

Let us repent as Pastors. Pastors no longer sit down to do Bible study. Anytime they sit, it is to plot a PASTOR that is not in their “camp”. Cultist wearing a Pastor’s Collar. Anytime you see tears in one Pastor’s eyes, check the hand of another Pastor, you will see the teargas that is making the Pastor shed tears.

A. THE PRINCIPLE OF “TOP TO BOTTOM” IN SCRIPTURE

· God’s order always flows from the head down (1 Corinthians 11:3 – Christ is head of every man, man is head of woman, God is head of Christ).
· When the High Priest sinned, the whole nation suffered (Leviticus 4:3). Today’s “High Priest” under the New Covenant is Jesus, but His undershepherds carry representative weight (Hebrews 5:1‑4).
· The curtain tore from top to bottom because Heaven initiated the change; earthly leadership must likewise initiate repentance before demanding it from the flock.

B. TITHING & FINANCIAL INTEGRITY

· Malachi 3:8‑9 – “Will a man rob God?” The context was written to priests who had departed from God’s statutes (Malachi 2:1‑2). A pastor who does not tithe from his own increase (including gifts, honorariums, and other income) cannot teach tithing without hypocrisy.
· Hebrews 7:8 – “Here mortal men receive tithes, but there he receives them, of whom it is witnessed that he lives.” The Levitical priests themselves tithed from what they received (Numbers 18:26‑28). Therefore a New Testament pastor who claims a Levitical‑like right to tithes must also practice the Levitical duty to tithe.

C. SPIRITUAL FATHERHOOD & ACCOUNTABILITY

· Paul could say “Follow me as I follow Christ” (1 Corinthians 11:1) because he was himself under authority (Acts 9:6, “Lord, what will You have me to do?”).
· A “spiritual father” without a spiritual father of his own becomes an orphan in leadership – unaccountable, unteachable, and prone to abuse. Jesus had a Father in heaven and submitted to John the Baptist’s baptism (Matthew 3:13‑15) as a pattern of humility.

D. PUNCTUALITY & LEADING BY EXAMPLE

· Nehemiah 4:21‑23 – The leader worked alongside the people, day and night.
· 1 Peter 5:2‑3 – “Be shepherds of God’s flock… not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock.” Arriving late tells the church that the pastor’s time is more valuable than theirs.

E. LOYALTY AS A SEED

· David refused to touch the Lord’s anointed (1 Samuel 24:6) because he honoured the office – yet he himself later received incredible loyalty from his mighty men (2 Samuel 23:13‑17).
· Hebrews 13:17 – “Obey your leaders and submit to them” assumes those leaders are themselves submitted to a higher Leader. Disloyalty to one’s own pastor or overseer guarantees disloyalty from one’s own members.

F. HONOUR WITHOUT HONORARIUM

· 1 Timothy 5:17 – “Elders who rule well are worthy of double honour, especially those who labour in preaching and teaching.” Honour in the Greek (timē) includes material support, but it is never to be demanded or priced.
· Paul worked with his hands (Acts 20:33‑35) to avoid being a burden. A pastor who never serves without a fee has forgotten the grace of giving (Luke 6:35).

G. LOVE AMONG PASTORS – A CRITICAL MISSING WITNESS

· John 13:35 – “By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” When pastors war against pastors, the world sees a house divided (Mark 3:25).
· James 3:14‑16 – “But if you have bitter envy and self‑seeking in your hearts, do not boast… this wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic.”
· The “teargas” from fellow pastors must be replaced with the oil of brotherly unity (Psalm 133:1‑3). Repentance begins with a private phone call to a pastor you have spoken against.

H. FINAL CALL TO REPENTANCE

· 2 Chronicles 7:14 – “If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves…” – not first the congregation, but the leaders.
· Revelation 2:5 – “Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent and do the first works.”
· A pastor’s greatest revival is not a packed church; it is a broken, honest heart that says, “Lord, change me from the top, then let the bottom follow.”

May the Lord shake our temples, tear our hypocrisies, and raise shepherds after His own heart.

28/04/2026

ADVICE HIM...🎯

"If a husband keeps begging his wife several times for s*x and she keeps turning him down, does he have the right to go outside and have s*x while still keep his marriage?

Or should I divorce her and re-marry?

What do you think is the right thing to do?".......✍️

28/04/2026

A GODLY HOME IS NOT BUILT IN A DAY… IT IS BUILT DAILY
Building a godly home is more than having a beautiful house or a perfect family picture. It is about creating an atmosphere where God is truly the center.
A godly home is built on:
• Prayer — not just in difficult times, but as a lifestyle
• Love — the kind that forgives quickly and speaks kindly
• Peace — choosing calm over chaos, even when it’s hard
• The Word — letting God’s truth guide every decision

As women, wives, and mothers, we are the keepers of the atmosphere. What we allow, what we say, and how we respond shapes our homes more than we realize.

Your home doesn’t have to be perfect to be godly.
It just needs to be surrendered to God daily.

Start small:
Pray together.
Speak life.
Let go of pride.
Invite God into every corner of your home.
And watch Him turn your house into a place of peace, joy, and His presence.

“Except the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain that build it…” — Psalm 127:1

If you desire a godly home, type “AMEN” and declare it over your household today