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24/09/2024

The journey of motherhood.

Thought ot share this video of an art work with you. Trust me you will appreciate all mothers. And for would TTC and be mothers, keep focus. It would surely happen

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17/05/2022

🔴 : A is worth a . 🔴

Take a look at the picture below. Look at it closely, very closely.

💥Tell me, who do you see sitting on the floor? Your sister? Your daughter? Friend? Colleague? Or just a total stranger?

💥Do you know what's scattered all over the floor? Would you like to take a guess?

💥Now let's go there....which belongs to you? The first? Second? Or is it the last one? Be honest.

I see a woman slowly being destroyed because your loudspeakers are too loud, and constantly on — broadcasting deeply rooted societal misconceptions. The pressure is overwhelming and her heart knows no rest. She finally succumbs. Depression awakened.

I see a lost woman, a broken and isolated woman, a shamed woman, a woman dying silently, in installments. A totally besieged woman with nowhere to run. No refuge.

💥And I ask you, "will you put down your loudspeaker and be the one she runs to when she needs to?"

Tell me, what emotions does that picture evoke in you?

The noise from your loudspeakers are killing her. She's squirming, trying to get away from your noise, but she cannot. Pain intensified.

I feel great sadness. I feel fear for her wellbeing, anger for how she's treated, guilt that I haven't done more to lift her burden, frustration that we still do not understand that hers is a medical diagnosis, disappointment that we do not care to understand.

💥And I ask you again, will you put down your loudspeaker and be the one that puts an arm around her in a gesture of genuine kindness and comradery?

💥Will you put down your loudspeakers and say to her, "I may not fully understand what you're going through, but I am here for you. We are in this together."?

💥Will you teach our people that her infertility is not because she lived a promiscuous lifestyle in her youth and recurrent STDs destroyed her womb, nor is it because she was a pr******te who used contraceptives, and aborted all the babies heavens bequeathed her?
Teach them that even those who remained virgins until their wedding night may still suffer from infertility.

💥Will you tell them her infertility is not because her family is cursed, nor is it because she's a witch cursed by the gods?
Tell them that she's a godly woman, still waiting on God to visit her and bless her womb.

💥Will you tell them her infertility is not because she increased her life span by exchanging her death with the lives of other people's children?
Tell them that she has always loved children, that even as she waits for hers, she remains a positive influence in the lives of her nephews, nieces, godchildren, and others.

💥And on the next Mother's Day, when your church asks "mothers" to stand for prayers, will you be the one who turns to her and says "Please stand with us. You are not alone today. You've never been alone, you have always been in our thoughts."?

💥Even better, will you be the one who has the courage to say to your pastor, "Please do not ask "mothers" to stand for prayers. Instead, ask every adult woman in the congregation to stand, because they are all mothers in the true sense of the word, and because this seemingly inconsequential but brave action of our congregation, will strengthen our church and our society."?

💥When your family gathers, will you speak up for her to your family, asking them to lighten her burden by not being so judgmental.
Remind them that their own children were simply gifts from God — nothing they did or did not do caused God to bless them with children.
Please also remind them that even though they themselves may not be childless today, there are no guarantees in life.

💥Will you join us at the table of love and help ease your sisters' heavy burden, for the sake of your young daughters who may in the future struggle with infertility?
Remember, as you lift others, so do you lift yourselves and your children.

💥Will you become a collaborator and help us change how our society sees the childless woman?
Strong people like you do not put others down — they lift them up. We need you. Donate your strengths and help change things everywhere you go.

💥And finally, will you redraw this picture for her?

May God bless you as you make up your mind to put down your loudspeaker....and pick up a drawing board.

♥️♥️

08/03/2021

Happy international women's day to all TTC women out there

To all the women who have been battered because of their struggle and difficulties conceiving

To all the women out there who have been scorned and struggling with the stigmas society have put on them due to their fertility challenges

To all the matured single ladies out there who are trying to overcome their fears and anxieties

To all the single mothers out there struggling on their own to raise their child/ren and give their life a meaning

To all the women out there who wet their pillows with tears at night and come out smiling in the morning to a lot of people who depend on them for one service/product or the other in the workplace or marketplace

To all the women out there facing one struggle/challenge and almost losing their confidence

To all the women out there who have given up hope because of societal pressures, stigmas, labels etc.

Society cannot define you or live your life. Don't allow life to happen to you, take a stance today and happen to life.

You deserve to live irrespective of what society thinks or does. You deserve to be happy because your happiness comes from within, you deserve the best of life because you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God. You are God's master piece. He cares so much about you. God has promised never to leave you nor forsake you.

Look up to God and always remember there is always light at the end of every tunnel.

We love and celebrate you all. Happy international women's day.

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14/01/2021

Hello beautiful people, let's learn about the importance of knowing our BLOOD GROUP AND THE RHESUS FACTOR (-VE) OR (+VE)

This short story below will bring out some take home lessons.

Have a good read!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was inside my consulting room on the fateful day when a young married WOMAN, 28 years old, walked in, looking depressed. She sighed as she sat. The perplexity on her face said it all. There was a big burden being carried in her heart. I mustered the courage to ask "how may I help you madam?" then she answered in her frustration.

Doctor this is my 5th miscarriage in 5 years of marriage. WHO DID I OFFEND?

Now it was like it was my turn to be frustrated because how could I know the person offended in this issue. Well I summoned courage to overcome the perplexity, I went further to be sure she actually had five miscarriages as she had said by asking further quesrions. "Madam did you actually confirm these five pregnancies with pregnancy tests or scan to start with ?" She answerd yes affirmatively with tears in her eyes and her voice shaking vigorously.

Doctor I did with both pregnancy test and scan. I confirmed the pregnancy I was sure doctor.

I understand your pains madam" I responded calming her down.

Then i asked her the next question " These five miscarriages you have had, can you tell me around what time you usually have them?"

"Around 5 to 6 months doctor" she answered with tears rolling down her two cheeks.

"Calm down madam I understand how you feel" I said offering her handkerchief to clean her eyes. With the emotional atmosphere inside my consulting room I had to pause the consultation to allow her calm down and express her pains in tears. "Who would blame a woman who was lucky to get married to a supportive and loving young man at age of 23 all for her to face this kind of hurdle with five miscarriages in five years?" I said within me. The agony could only be imagined.

After the situation had calmed down, we continued our conversation because we had to get to the root of this matter before we could provide a solution to this perennial calamity that had plaqued this new, young family. From all she had said so far there was one thing that kept ringing in my mind and that was the issue of blood group incompatibility.

I went ahead to ask her "what is your blood group?"

"Doctor what does my blood group have to do with this problem?" She answerd looking surprised.

I implored her to answer the question.

She said blood group O Negative. "my husband and I did it before we got married. My husband blood group is O Positive (O+ve) and I am O Negative (O-ve)".

Now the guess on my mind was becoming a reality. I continued, "So madam have you ever done abortion before, may be before marriage?". She looked at me and was silent, put her right hand on her chin, removed it and retreated into her chair.
She breathed heavily again. After a while she said "In my 200 level, I did abortion 2 times for my boyfriend on campus. I was not ready for any pregnancy then but doctor does that have something to do with the present miscarriages I am having?"

"Well may be madam" I answered. " Do you know the blood group of your campus boyfriend?" I asked.

She answered with mixed feelings " doctor I dont know his blood group, we just dated for like three years, he was my only boyfriend before I met my husband."

"Can you call him madam to ask?" I told her. Her reaction was awkward.

"Who? My ex? Nooo doctor we no longer talk, he was not happy I left him for my present husband".

I appealed to her to at least try and make the call. She reluctantly agreed and called him. After calling 3 times he finally picked the call.

I could hear because the phone was on speaker. "Yes madam what do we owe this call o?" The voice from the other side resonated angrily "or you have come to break our hearts again.

She mustered courage and went straight to ask him about the blood group. The campus boyfriend was surprised that she didn't know his blood group in their three years together.

"So Diane you meant all the times we were together you didn't know my blood group? How would you even know when your mind was occupied with another man. Why are you asking me anyway? What has my blood group got to do with your marriage?" he asked spitefully.

When I saw the bitterness between two of them was still fresh and this was delaying my diagnosis i signalled to her to allow me talk to him. So i collected the phone and introduced my self and appealed to him to please tell her the answer. Then he revealed he was O Positive (O+ve). Then I sank into my seat.

My diagnosis was almost complete, the only thing left was to do a test to confirm it. I explained to her that all these revelations from both her past boyfriend and present husband blood group and her own blood group might have caused the collision in former pregnancies she aborted and could cause the present repeated miscarriages.

She said in surprise " I was thinking only genotype couples have problem in marriage? " I answered her no.

A couple could also have problem of miscarriages if their blood groups were not compatible. She was really shocked to know this for the first time. The next question on her mind was "does this mean I will not be able to have a child again in my life and i will continue to have miscarriages like this?" She burst into tears again.

I consoled and reassured her that there was still chance of having her own baby, more efforts would just be needed but the chance of having another miscarriage was still there.

I gave her a test called INDIRECT COOMBS TEST to do to know if clash had actually occured in her blood due to past abortions done for the campus boyfriend but before she agreed she insisted I should explain how this could be.

Then I took time to explain to her thus: "when a woman is O NEGATIVE (O-ve) and her partner is O POSITIVE (O+ve) , when the woman gets pregnant the baby will most likely have the blood group of the father which is O POSTIVE (O+ve).

When a woman with the O NEGATIVE (O-ve) Blood carries the baby with O Positive (O+ve) BLOOD, their blood must not touch each other.

If anything like abortion occurs and the O Negative (O-ve) BLOOD of the mother touches the O POSITIVE (O+ve) BLOOD of the baby, some antibody will develop inside the blood of the mother as a result of this, subsequent pregnancies of the woman will be attacked by the antibodies and the babies will be killed, leading to more abortions.

This is what I thought has happened to you madam."

She sank into her chair agian and sighed for the third time. she was overwhelmed by all these revelations about BLOOD GROUP ISSUES IN MARRIAGE. It sounded unbelievable to her that blood group could give couples this much problem in marriage. After she had regained herself, she promised to do the test and bring the result later.

Two weeks later, she brought the result, it was POSITIVE, confirming my diagnosis.

I broke the news to her, she wept again but I counselled and consoled her and promised her we would do our best in subsequent pregnancies to see she has her own child. I told her to come early when she gets pregnant again.

As she was leaving my consulting room that morning, so many lessons were learnt some of which are outlined below.

Lesson number 1:

Health care workers should educate the public more on the role of BLOOD Group and Rhesus FACTOR including the benefits and the risks such as Rhesus (Rh) incompatibility or Rhesus (Rh) immunization. Focus should not only be on genotype. More people are aware of issues of genotype more than issues of Blood group and Rhesus factor. .

Lesson number 2:

It's important to know your BLOOD GROUP AND RHESUS FACTOR INCLUDING GENOTYPE as well as that of your partner.

Lesson number 3:

Avoid abortions as much as possible whether within or outside marriage as this has consequences and complications that might lead to infertility.

Lesson number 4:

Having repeated miscarriages or early pregnancy loss, please seek proper medical attention. "YOU DID NOT OFFEND ANYONE"

Lesson number 5:

Please always tell your Healthcare providers the truth during consultations when they are asking very important questions so they would be able to offer the best care required.

Lesson number 6:

ASK YOUR HEALTHCARE PROVIDER ABOUT Rho(D) IMMUNI GLOBULIN INJECTION (e.g. RhoGAM injection) if your blood group is RHESUS NEGATIVE (Rh- Negative). Your Healthcare provider will advise you on the best time to take the injection.

Please be sure to mention your medical conditions, history of vaccinations or any allergic reactions as well.

Lesson number 7:

Premarital s*x has consequences and complications which can affect the future seriously. Please be warned.

KNOW YOUR BLOOD GROUP AND RHESUS FACTOR TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!

03/01/2021

Welcome to a new year, a new hope and renewed faith in God. 2020 thought us to be resilient and to persevere.

We are full of expectations this year. May we achieve all our dreams and expectations.

04/07/2020

good is about to happen

08/03/2020

Happy international women's day to the women in our lives both young and old.

25/01/2020

HOW DOES THE MENSTRUAL CYCLE OCCUR?
A complex relationship between hormones from the brain (the pituitary gland and hypothalamus) and the ovaries leads to the development and release of an egg from the o***y in a process known as ovulation as well as the growth of the internal lining of the uterus (known as the endometrium) to prepare it for pregnancy.
The hormones signal the endometrium to start to break down and separate from the walls of the uterus in the absence of pregnancy. This becomes shed as menstruation.

EVENTS OF THE MENSTRUAL CYCLE
DAY 1- 5: Menstruation begins on Day 1 of the cycle and is heaviest for the first 3 days.

DAY 6 - 14: Bleeding stops, the lining of the womb (endometrium) begins to prepare for a possible pregnancy. It becomes thicker and enriched with blood and nutrients.

DAY 14 – 25: An egg is released from one of the ovaries (or 2 of the ovaries in which case twin pregnancy may occur) and begins its journey down the fallopian tube to the uterus. If s***m is present in the fallopian tube at this time, fertilization can occur. The fertilized egg will travel to the uterus and attempt to implant in the uterine wall.

DAY 25 – 28: If the egg was not fertilized or implantation does not occur, hormonal changes signal the uterus to prepare to shed its lining and the egg breaks down and is shed along with the lining as menstruation. The next cycle begins on Day 1 of menstrual bleeding.

PHASES OF THE MENSTRUAL CYCLE
MENSTRUAL PHASE: DAY 1-5
This is the first phase of the menstrual cycle. It starts from Day 1 of the cycle to end of the blood flow. The menstruation occurs when the there is no pregnancy, the released egg breaks down and the uterine lining is shed. Some women experience certain symptoms such as bloating, cramps, breast tenderness, irritability, lower back pain, headaches, tiredness etc.

FOLLICULAR PHASE: DAY 1-14
This phase starts from the first day (Day 1) of the menstrual bleeding and ends at ovulation. Signals from the brain tell the ovaries to prepare an egg that will be released. The pituitary gland (located at the base of the brain) produces the hormone follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) which causes several follicles (fluid filled sacs containing eggs) to rise to the surface of the o***y. FSH hormone tells the ovaries to prepare an egg to be released from the matured follicle. One out of these follicles grows bigger than the rest just as the period is ending and becomes the dominant follicle (about 10mm or more) while the others shrink back and are absorbed back into the body. This dominant follicle produces estrogen as it continues to grow. The egg in the dominant follicle matures and is prepared to be released at ovulation. The dominant follicle reaches about 20mm or more to become matured.

OVULATORY PHASE: DAY 14
When the estrogen levels are high enough, they signal the pituitary gland to release luteinizing hormone (LH). The continued release of LH causes a sharp rise or increase in Luteinizing hormone (LH). This is known as LH surge which causes the dominant follicle to rupture and to release the egg. This process is known as ovulation. This happens about 13-15 days before the next menstrual period. The egg can survive for about 24hours after ovulation after which it dissolves.
The estrogen produced by the dominant follicle causes the lining of the uterus to become thicker and more enriched with blood (proliferation). This is sometimes referred to as the proliferative phase. This is a very important phase for pregnancy as it prepares the lining of the uterus to receive the fertilized egg for implantation and continued growth.
The level of estrogen peaks just before the egg is released. The egg released is received by the fimbria of the fallopian tube and enters the tube where fertilization takes place if s***m are present; if not fertilized, it disintegrates after 24-48hours.
Some women who want to pregnancy might want to check their basal body temperature or cervical mucus during this time. There is a noticeable change in the BBT and cervical mucus at this time. The cervical mucus is abundant, clear and stretchy while there is a sharp rise in the BBT.

LUTEAL PHASE DAY 14-28
The level of FSH and LH hormones decreases after ovulation. The ruptured follicle closes over after ovulation to form a mass of cells called the corpus luteum. The corpus luteum produces the hormone progesterone and estrogen. Progesterone level rises and helps to support early pregnancy if the egg was fertilized and pregnancy occurred by signaling the endometrium not to shed; if there was no pregnancy, the corpus luteum breaks down and the level of progesterone and estrogen drops signaling the endometrial lining to shed leading to menstruation.
The uterine lining produces and releases (sometimes referred to as the secretory phase) chemical messengers that will either help support an early pregnancy or will prepare the lining to break down and shed if pregnancy does not occur. If pregnancy occurs, the progesterone level rises and cause the endometrium to stop thickening and to start preparing for the potential attachment of the fertilized egg. Human Chorionic Gonadotropin (HCG) is produced by the body to help keep the uterine lining thick for the fertilized egg to develop into an embryo. The corpus luteum will dissolve into the body in the absence of pregnancy and the levels of estrogen and progesterone drops.
Certain symptoms such as bloating, mood changes, pain, tenderness or swelling of the breasts, weight gain, difficulty sleeping, food cravings and changes in s*x drive might be experienced during this phase.

CERVICAL MUCOUS TESTING
The cells lining your cervical canal secrete mucus and the consistency changes over the menstrual cycle. The cervical mucus changes to a consistency and structure that permits the s***m to travel on its way to meet the egg in the fallopian tube during the fertile window.
Most fertile period: It becomes clear abundant and stretchy (also known as egg white cervical mucus).
Not fertile period: The cervical mucus becomes sticky, cloudy and does not stretch.

HOW DO I TEST MY CERVICAL MUCUS
1. Wipe the va**na with tissue paper and observe the consistency of the mucus by pressing together and opening it up again. The consistency is either sticky or stretchy.
2. Alternatively insert a clean finger into the va**na to obtain a sample of the cervical mucus. Use your thumb and fore finger to see if the mucus stretches or not.

CERVICAL MUCUS AND CYCLE TIMIMG
DAY 1-5: - menstruation
DAY 6-7: - no noticeable mucus
DAY 8-12: - minimal, cloudy, sticky secretions
DAY 13-16: - Abundant clear, wet. Stretchy “egg-white” mucus
DAY 17-20: - slightly wet secretions
DAY 20-28: - no noticeable secretions.

BASAL BODY TEMPERATURE (BBT)
This is your body’s lowest temperature at rest. It is usually measured as soon as you wake up after at least 6 hours of sleep or rest before getting out of bed, eating or drinking anything. It should be taken about the same time every day. BBT ranges between 36.2oc – 36.5oc and increases by 0.5oc at ovulation and stays at this temperature until menstruation.

WHEN TO SEE YOUR HEALTHCARE PROVIDER
1. Very heavy periods
2. Long periods of more than 8 days
3. Periods that comes less than 3 weeks apart
4. Painful periods that cause you to stay at home or away from your daily activities
5. Periods that comes more than 2 or 3 months apart
6. Bleeding between periods
7. Bleeding after s*xual in*******se

25/01/2020

Today we continue our discussion on the menstrual cycle.