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11/09/2026

The little girl who felt abandoned in childhood can become the adult who repeatedly finds herself drawn to emotionally unavailable people.

She may fall in love too quickly, yet cut people off too coldly. She may sabotage relationships at the first hint that things are going well. She may settle for surface level connections, sometimes using sexual intimacy to seek the closeness, validation or acceptance she longed for as a child.

You see, the child is often drawn towards what feels familiar, even when what is familiar is unhealthy.

And even though many years have passed, that younger part of her may still be influencing the way she relates to others.

She is still waiting to be seen.

She is still waiting to be heard.

She is still asking for the safety, comfort and reassurance she could not fully receive while growing up.

Healing begins when the adult learns to recognise that wounded part of herself, understand what she needed then, and begin to provide herself with safety, boundaries, compassion and healthier relationships.

The little girl who felt abandoned does not have to run the rest of your life.

She can finally be heard, held and healed.

Safezone Counselling

08/09/2026

If you are still in university, my advice is to waste some time intelligently.

I mean it.

Take a course that has nothing to do with your degree. Join a student organisation. Try journalism and see if it’s something you’d like to do. Learn to code and discover you hate it. Volunteer somewhere. Start a small business that fails. Help organise an event. Contest an election if that is your thing. Sit in a lecture in another department. Make friends with people studying things you know nothing about.

University is one of the few periods in life when you can try many things badly without the consequences being too expensive. Once rent, family, career and other responsibilities arrive, experimentation becomes more costly.

So experiment now.

But don’t spend four years only experimenting. At some point, start paying attention to the clues.

What do people repeatedly come to you for?

What do you seem to understand faster than others?

What kind of work can hold your attention for hours?

What have you done that made you think, I could actually become very good at this?

Follow those clues and start building some depth.

And before you graduate, have something outside your transcript that you can point to.

Not 27 certificates from webinars. Something you actually did.

Maybe you wrote five really good articles. Built a small app. Ran a business. Analysed a dataset. Led a student organisation well. Produced a podcast. Worked on a research project. Managed a campaign. Built a community. Interned somewhere and left evidence that you were useful.

Just don’t arrive at graduation with a CV whose entire argument is: “I went to university.”

And while doing all of this, learn to respect process.

Don’t be in too much of a hurry to skip the boring parts. Write the bad first draft. Sit through the long meeting. Prepare the spreadsheet. Organise the logistics. Get corrected and do the work again.

You learn things in the process that the final outcome never shows you. You discover how things actually work, where you are weak, what you are unusually good at, and why some things that look easy from the outside are not.

We sometimes want the outcome without the process that produces it.

It is in doing the work that we mine gold.

Also, meet people.

Not the forced “networking” where everyone is trying to collect important people’s phone numbers. Build actual friendships. Your classmates will scatter into different industries, countries and institutions. Ten years from now, the person sitting beside you in an economics class may know something or someone you need, and vice versa.

Read too. Please read.

You have access to a university library and more intellectual freedom than you may have again for a while. Don’t spend all of it on TikTok and lecture notes.

And don’t panic because somebody in 300 level already has a startup, 14 certificates and “Founder & CEO” in their bio.

You are allowed not to have your life figured out at 21.

The goal is not to graduate with a perfectly designed career. It is to leave university more curious, more capable, with some evidence of what you can do and a slightly better idea of where your abilities might take you.

And please enjoy university too.

Life will become serious soon enough.



Akintunde Babatunde

25/08/2026

We all love to see beautiful scenes of couples who genuinely love, understand, and enjoy each other.

But sometimes, our own experiences make us skeptical.

We see a happy couple and think, “They’re only pretending.”
“It can’t really be like that behind closed doors.”
“Marriage is hard. Maybe a truly happy marriage doesn’t exist.”

But it does. And you can have it too. ❤️

A fulfilling marriage is not a marriage without disagreements. It is a marriage where two people learn how to communicate, understand each other, resolve conflicts, and grow together.

And there is another reason this matters deeply:

Your children are watching.

The way you communicate with your spouse becomes a manual for relationships that your children learn from.

If shouting, insults, silence, disrespect, or constant conflict become the normal way you communicate, your children may grow up believing that this is what love and marriage look like.

And without intending to, we may pass our unresolved pain on to the next generation.

But it doesn’t have to continue that way.

You can learn to communicate in a way that brings you closer instead of pushing you apart.

That is why we are inviting you to:

🎉 COMMUNICATE WITH CONFIDENCE

Communicate Better. Build a Fulfilling Marriage.

📅 4th–6th September
⏰ 8:00 PM daily
💻 Online Seminar
💰 Registration Fee: ₦20,000

📞 07038800971

Safezone Counselling 🎉

Your marriage does not have to be defined by your past experiences.
Learn the skills. Change the pattern. Build the marriage you desire. ❤️

24/08/2026

Is your marriage feeling more like a routine than a relationship? ❤️

Between work, children, responsibilities and everyday stress, couples can become so busy managing the home that they forget to connect with each other.

But reconnecting doesn't always require an expensive date or a weekend getaway.

Sometimes, you simply need 30 uninterrupted minutes.

Put the phones away.
Sit together.
Talk.
Listen.
Ask, “How are you really doing?”

Your spouse may not need another solution. Sometimes, they simply need to feel seen, heard and loved.

If you want to reconnect and keep the flame of love burning in your marriage, then join the commutation class.

📞 09093623518
Reg fee : 20k

4th to 6th September 2026. 9pm

SafeZone Confidential Counselling
Helping couples reconnect, communicate and build healthier marriages.

23/08/2026

A man who truly cares about you will correct you when he sees you doing something that is not benefiting the relationship. If your attitude, choices, or behaviour are hurting him or affecting the marriage negatively, he should be able to call your attention to it.

But if you interpret every correction as controlling, a lack of love, or an attempt to put you down, without actually sitting down and evaluating the situation, you may be missing an opportunity for growth.

Getting defensive, crying every time you receive feedback, or immediately labelling your husband “controlling” can become a way of avoiding accountability.

My sister, that can become manipulation.

Not every correction is criticism. Not every disagreement is control. And not every uncomfortable conversation means your husband does not love you.

You may genuinely be contributing to some of the problems in your marriage without realising it.

Marriage requires self awareness. It requires humility. It requires being able to receive feedback, reflect on it, and make changes where necessary.

Sometimes, the problem is not only what your spouse is doing. Sometimes, there is something in you that needs to change too.

Safezone Counselling

22/08/2026

A man who truly cares about you will correct you when he sees you doing something that is not benefiting the relationship. If your attitude, choices, or behaviour are hurting him or affecting the marriage negatively, he should be able to call your attention to it.

But if you interpret every correction as controlling, a lack of love, or an attempt to put you down, without actually sitting down and evaluating the situation, you may be missing an opportunity for growth.

Getting defensive, crying every time you receive feedback, or immediately labelling your husband “controlling” can become a way of avoiding accountability.

My sister, that can become manipulation.

Not every correction is criticism. Not every disagreement is control. And not every uncomfortable conversation means your husband does not love you.

You may genuinely be contributing to some of the problems in your marriage without realising it.

Marriage requires self awareness. It requires humility. It requires being able to receive feedback, reflect on it, and make changes where necessary.

Safezone Counselling

22/08/2026

When last did you flirt with your husband . If all you do is complain ..then you won't get the best from him

21/08/2026

There is no marriage without conflict here and there. It is not about having arguments or holding different views on issues. What matters is the method you use to handle the disagreement and how you behave afterwards.

Giving the silent treatment or abandoning your responsibilities because you feel triggered is not a healthy way of responding. Sometimes, it may even be a trauma response, where you perceive every opposing view as criticism or as an attack on your personality, worth, or self confidence.

Healthy marriage does not mean that spouses will always agree. It means learning how to disagree without hurting, punishing, or withdrawing from each other.

Safezone Counselling

21/08/2026

Polygyny is for responsible men !!!

21/08/2026

Who actually needs therapy?

This is a question I hear quite often.

Imagine four people.

One person can't say no.

One person overthinks every message.

One person is constantly burnt out.

And one person keeps ending up in the same unhealthy relationships.

None of them are “crazy.”

None of them are necessarily in crisis.

But all of them might benefit from understanding themselves better.

Sometimes, we don't need to wait until life falls apart before we start looking inward.

The question isn't:

“Am I struggling enough for therapy?”

The question is:

“Is there something in my life I want to understand, change, or work through?”

And if the answer is yes, therapy is one option.

Not the only option.

But one option.

Sometimes, seeking help is simply about wanting to understand yourself better, break unhealthy patterns, improve your relationships, manage your emotions, or become a healthier version of yourself.

You don't have to wait until you are in crisis before you seek support.

Therapy is not only for when something is wrong. Sometimes, it is also about understanding yourself better.

Safezone Counselling
A safe space to heal, grow and thrive. 🤍





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