26/03/2026
Bathing together is not a thing for my husband and I. Anytime we do at all, there's definitely a compromise on his side. 😩
How will he turn the shower with cold water like he's being initiated into something I don’t understand? Meanwhile, my own body is wired for hot water, even in this current heat oo. If it’s not hot, I mean very hot, I’m not entering that bathroom, it's that simple.
Hot water that will make you say “yes, this is life” 😌🤣
Now imagine the confusion if we bath together, he will comfortable, I will be shivering, what's good about this for us? 🤷♀️
One person is enjoying, one person is regretting life choices. Where is the bonding inside that one biko? 😂
So we take turns to bath except he's bathing my hot water with me and when I step out, he can run the cold shower over his hot body, wahala 🤣; otherwise, na continuous separate baths for so long years. 🤣
Marriage is working beautifully, nobody is missing, nobody is complaining, nothing is missing. Everybody is good to go and our intimacy never reduce this long years. 💯
So when I hear some relationship “experts” confidently listing things like “bathing together” as a standard for bonding, I just smile and say:
This one still has a lot to learn because real relationships are not built on activities, they are built on understanding with love leading.
What works for one couple may frustrate another.👌
What looks romantic for one may be discomfort for another.
The wisdom is in knowing how to strike balance, not forcing uniformity.
Bonding is not in the bathroom.
It is in communication,
emotional safety,
respect,
and understanding each other’s differences.
If bathing together works for you, beautiful.
If it doesn’t, you are not missing out on anything my dear.
Don't let those turning personal preferences into universal relationship standards disorganize your life.
Some of these things are not deep but wrong teachings that can make people start feeling like something is wrong with their marriage meanwhile, nothing is wrong anywhere ooo.
You just married a cold water human being when you are a hot water personality. 🤣🤣
If your marriage is peaceful, growing and full of understanding, all wrapped up in love, nobody should pressure you to add unnecessary “romance activities” that will now turn your bathroom into a battleground🤣
Hope this helps.
Cheers to your EVERGREEN marriage! 👩❤️👨🍃🥂
© Precious Chiderah Simeon