GoodTherapy

08/10/2026

Good advice if you’re feeling in a difficult space.

26/09/2026

Love the double your profit metaphor!
… I don’t like the focus on heteronormative relationships… men (and women) developing these skills benefits everybody around them!

20/09/2026

I've seen a few male therapists in the couple-therapy space come out with some very similar messages when it comes to male/female relationships. I think keeping in touch in the ways he speaks of is actually really respectful from both sides,... I also like what he has to say about women needing to feel safe - something that male partners in hetero relationships sometimes do not understand as well as many women wish they might. I know many men will read that and say "we need to feel safe too!". And this is indeed true.
Imagine if 'creating safety' was at the forefront of your relationship values & practices?
What might you do differently?

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13/08/2026

Take a read of these.
They make sense.

07/08/2026

There’s a lot to it! And… if we take the time to get better at this, we have the chance to build a truly safe relationship container with our partner.

All relationships are a constant cycle of harmony >>> disharmony >>>and repair.

When the repair part gets missed, or when it ends up being “Repair-Lite”… more disharmony will be right around the corner.

26/07/2026

Emotionally immature people can't hear you - here's a good explanation about why. I shared this with a client last week whose mother simply will not listen to her experience. In trying to explain herself, she becomes re-wounded each & every time. This explanation was really helpful to her; hope it might be helpful for someone else out there too. Emotionally mature relationships need curiosity, not defensiveness. It's how we create safety & authentic connection. https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1HkbosneG1/?mibextid=wwXIfr

25/07/2026

Clear and useful description of avoidant attachment - "The Rigid Boundary Trap That Keeps You Alone". All too often, avoidant attachment gets truly villainised in social media... it should not be! It is simply an adaptive response to early experience. It can have very negative consequences for the person, and those in relationship to them.
The good news: change comes from awareness.

Recognize the signs of avoidant attachment to understand how your e...

12/07/2026

Don’t assume they know! Sharing appreciations in ALL our relationships goes a long way to continually strengthening the container of each relationship. 

06/07/2026

An important list!

26/06/2026

I’ve seen a number of hetero couples lately for whom this is an issue. In fact it seems to be to be an issue in all male/female relationships I work with.

There’s an awful lot of social science research to back this claim. it seems that it “just is”.

It’s worth thinking about! - given that it shows up so much.

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