21/06/2026
Breastfeeding is one of the most natural things in the world. And yet for many new mothers, it is also one of the most unexpectedly challenging.
If you are finding it harder than you imagined, you are not alone, and you are not doing anything wrong. What you need most, in those early days and weeks, is time, kindness, and support from someone who truly understands both you and your baby.
Most mothers struggle with the unexpected reality of postnatal healing.
When breastfeeding challenges arise on top of that, it is easy to feel distressed and to blame yourself.
Receiving conflicting advice can make things even more stressful.
What every new mother deserves is kind, personalised guidance that acknowledges her specific situation and helps her stay connected to her own values and instincts.
Skin-to-skin time and quiet moments with your baby are often the simplest and most powerful place to begin.
âWhat often helps mums relax and connect with their baby is lots of skin to skin and quiet time. You have more time than you think. Hang in there.â
Worries that begin in pregnancyâŚ
Some of the most common anxieties I hear from pregnant women are worries about breast size, inverted ni***es, pain, or whether they will produce enough milk. These are all valid concerns, and the good news is that preparing early makes a real difference.
Your midwife is a wonderful person to talk to, as they will be supporting you through the first four to six weeks after birth.
If you feel you need extra support, seeing a lactation consultant during pregnancy can be one of the best investments you make.
By the time your baby arrives, you will already have a trusted support person who knows you, helping you feel calm, confident, and ready to work toward your breastfeeding goals.
Cathy McCormick, Registered Midwife and IBCLC - HolisticBaby Clinic, Birthcare Auckland đ¤
