Profusion Coaching

Home
New Zealand
Invercargill
Profusion Coaching

Qualified life coach that ensures break-through results in business, marriage, personal growth, ment

Qualified life coach that ensures break-through results in business, marriage, personal growth, addiction, mentoring, goal setting & implementation & more.

30/10/2026

What do you reach for when life gets uncomfortable?

Something I've come to find fascinating about human behaviour is that people often reach for relief before they reach for change.

We talk about wanting happiness, peace, love, connection, honesty and freedom.

But when we're faced with discomfort, fear, rejection or uncertainty, what do we actually reach for?

Some reach for control.

Some reach for approval.

Some reach for blame.

Some shut down, withdraw or distract themselves.

Others return to familiar behaviours, even when those behaviours are the very things causing them pain.

And here's where human behaviour gets interesting...

What we reach for in the moment isn't always what we truly want in life.

Someone desperate to be loved may push away the very people trying to love them.

Someone craving peace may constantly find themselves in conflict.

Someone wanting to be understood may spend so much time defending themselves that they never actually listen.

Someone who desperately wants change may continue repeating the very patterns they're trying to escape.

Why?

Because sometimes what feels familiar feels safer than what could actually be better.

And often, we're not consciously choosing these behaviours. They can be learned responses, built over years of experiences, environments, relationships and moments where we were simply doing what we knew how to do.

But here's something worth considering.

Just because a behaviour once protected you doesn't mean it's still serving you.

And recognising that takes emotional maturity.

It takes the ability to look at yourself without immediately reaching for an excuse, someone to blame or a reason why you can't change.

It takes honesty.

It takes discomfort.

And sometimes it takes having the right support and environment around you to practise something different.

After 15 years of working with people, one thing I continue to believe is that understanding why we do something is important, but learning what to do differently is where real change begins.

So here's a little reflection for you today.

When life gets uncomfortable, what do you reach for?

And perhaps the bigger question...

Is what you're reaching for helping you build the life you want, or simply helping you avoid the feeling you don't want?

There's a big difference between the two.

Profusion Coaching
Understanding behaviour. Challenging patterns. Creating change.

29/10/2026

Thank for those have paid for 30day, remember to put this through so I can add you to group

Looking forward to setting these goals before the silly season with you all

If you are interested private message me

28/10/2026

Whoop whoop the count down is on

I will send out information to those that have already said yes tonight and add you to the group

If you haven't and would like to give the 30day challenge a go coment below or private message me

26/10/2026

Labour Weekend Adventures – When the Coach Gets Humbled!

Now, I spend a fair bit of time pushing my clients outside their comfort zones, so I figure I'd better practise what I preach. Can't be a hypocrite, can I? 😂

Thursday after work, John and I headed off to the West Coast, arriving around midnight. A few hours' sleep, up at 6am, and off we went to tackle the Copland Track – 19.2km each way of adventure!

And man, oh man, did this track HUMBLE me!

About four hours from our destination, my knees decided they'd had enough.

Every rock, every boulder, every step up or across became a mission. I was physically lifting my left leg with my hands to get over obstacles, while my right knee had developed a rather concerning pinging sensation at the back.

I knew I needed rest, a decent massage and some cold glacier water on those knees if I was going to have any hope of getting myself back out the next day.

But quitting wasn't on my agenda.

At 6.45pm, we finally made it!

Tent up, sore bodies into the natural hot pools, and honestly, sitting there soaking in those springs after what we'd just put our bodies through was worth every painful step.

After about two hours of pretty rough sleep, Saturday morning arrived and it was time to do it all again!

And would you believe it, we made it out two hours faster than the day before!

Mind you, the last part of our adventure was completed under head torches! Nothing quite like navigating a track in the dark after two massive days on your feet.

Along the way, we met some wonderful people. Complete strangers who became part of our adventure, lifting spirits, sharing laughs and reminding us how much a little human connection can mean when things get tough.

But here's something else I took away from this adventure.

John and I have an arrangement when we tramp.

If either of us is struggling, we stop.

We rest, refuel, check in with each other and only carry on when we're BOTH ready.

There's no rushing the other person, no competition over who's doing better, and no making someone feel bad because they're struggling.

We work as a team.

And you know what?

I fall in love with that man all over again on every tramp we do.

Not because everything goes perfectly. Far from it!

But because of how we look after each other when things get hard.

And isn't that a beautiful lesson in itself?

Getting outside your comfort zone doesn't mean you have to be fearless, physically strong or capable of doing everything on your own.

Sometimes it means knowing your limits, asking for help, accepting support, slowing down and finding out what you're actually capable of.

I encourage my clients to challenge themselves, to experience something different and to discover parts of themselves they may never have met if they'd stayed comfortable.

And this weekend, I got a pretty good reminder of what I'm asking of them!

So next time I ask you to do something a little crazy, something uncomfortable or something you've convinced yourself you can't do...

Trust me, there's a reason behind it.

You might surprise yourself with what you're capable of.

And if you're lucky, you might discover something beautiful about the people walking beside you, too.

Copland Track – 19.2km each way of sore knees, beautiful people, breathtaking scenery, head torch adventures and one very grateful wife. ❤️

20/10/2026

Sometimes our behaviour changes before our language catches up.

Have you ever caught yourself saying something about yourself that isn't necessarily true anymore?

"I'm hopeless at that."

"I'm just an angry person."

"I've always been like this."

"That's just who I am."

But is it?

Something I've been exploring lately is how our experiences shape our behaviours, how those behaviours become patterns, and how eventually those patterns become part of how we describe ourselves.

And here's the interesting part.

We can change our behaviour long before we change the language we use to describe ourselves.

Someone who has spent years reacting defensively may now be learning to listen.

Someone who has always put everyone else first may now be learning to establish boundaries.

Someone who once avoided difficult conversations may now be finding the courage to have them.

Yet when asked about themselves, they still describe the person they used to be.

Our language can be a little slower to come to the party!

And sometimes the people around us are still using that old language too.

"You're always so defensive."

"You never say no."

"You've always been the difficult one."

But what happens when we continue identifying someone by behaviours they're actively working to change?

Are we recognising their progress, or are we keeping their old identity alive?

Now, there's another side to this.

Understanding why we developed certain behaviours doesn't automatically excuse the consequences of them.

We can acknowledge that our past influenced us while still taking responsibility for how we treat others today.

And saying we've changed isn't quite the same as demonstrating that change.

It takes consistency, awareness, effort and sometimes a fair few uncomfortable conversations.

But perhaps we also need to give ourselves, and others, room to develop a new way of describing who we're becoming.

Because you can have a history of behaving a certain way without that behaviour having to define your future.

So here's something to think about today.

Are you still describing yourself by an old pattern that you're no longer living?

And are you allowing the people around you to grow beyond the version of them you've become familiar with?

Sometimes our actions are already moving forward while our words are still catching up.

Profusion Coaching
Understanding behaviour. Encouraging growth. Taking responsibility.

19/10/2026

“Not everything that is faced can be changed; but nothing can be changed until it is faced.”
— James Baldwin

18/10/2026

I watched a TED Talk the other day about a woman who shared her life story through something as ordinary as the family bathroom.

And what a beautiful story it was.

She explained how, growing up, the heart of their home wasn't the kitchen, the lounge, or even the dining room table.

It was the bathroom.

One bathroom. Five people. No lock. And the toilet and shower were all in the same room.

As a teenager, she craved privacy. She longed for the day she could brush her teeth, shower, or get ready without someone wandering in.

But something interesting happened.

When she finally got that privacy, she missed the very thing she had spent years wishing away.

The interruptions. The conversations. Someone sitting on the toilet while she brushed her teeth. Doing makeup together. The familiar call of, "Can you grab me a towel?"

She missed the chaos.

Because what she hadn't realised at the time was that the chaos was family.

And gosh, could I relate.

We, too, have one bathroom for five people.

Our mornings consist of kids bowling in to brush their teeth while I'm in the shower.

"HURRY UP! I NEED A SHOWER, IM GUNNA BE LATE!"

Three of us trying to do our makeup in a bathroom barely big enough for one.

Pimple popping, hair brushing, conversations about absolutely everything and nothing.

Someone singing their heart out in the shower, only to be interrupted by someone yelling, "WHO'S RUNNING THE COLD TAP?"

And of course, the famous, "CAN SOMEONE GET ME A TOWEL?"

Some mornings it's absolute madness.

But after listening to this woman's story, I found myself looking at our little bathroom differently.

Because one day, there won't be five of us fighting for the mirror.

There won't be little interruptions or someone yelling through the shower curtain.

There will be space.

There will be quiet.

And I wonder if I'll find myself wishing, just for a moment, that someone would come barging through that door again.

It's funny, isn't it? How we can spend so much of our lives wishing for a little peace, only to one day miss the noise.

Not every beautiful family memory happens around the dinner table.

Sometimes it's made in a tiny bathroom, with wet towels on the floor, toothpaste in the sink, and five people who haven't quite learnt the meaning of personal space.

And perhaps that's what makes a home.

Not the size of the rooms, the privacy, or how perfectly everything runs.

But the people we share it with.

One day, the bathroom will be big enough for just me. And I have a feeling I'll miss when it wasn't.

❤️ Profusion Coaching

PHOTO is a stoke photo but im sure we can also relate

15/10/2026

Couldn't be more proud of Cargill Rest home today taking out a prize in Enlivens Wareable Arts competition today at Bill Richardson , was an amazing days with 3months of hard work n dedication, big shout out to the organizers and everyone involved but especially to all the residents and staff that made these amazing outfits

14/10/2026

Not long ago, my youngest daughter asked me, “Mum, what's the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to you?”

I thought to myself, Oh gosh, there have been so many! Which one do I share? Haha.

When I was younger, my parents used to have Christmas Eve parties.

Now, these weren't just any parties. They were a chance for my parents and their friends to get together, have a few laughs and celebrate before everyone went off to spend Christmas with their families.

But for us kids, they were even better!

We would pitch a tent, stock up on snacks, play bullrush, and maybe, just maybe, share one b**r between the 12 or more of us, thinking we were just as cool as the adults.

We'd watch the night sky, hoping to catch a glimpse of Santa flying past in his sleigh.

But one of our favourite things to do was drag the trampoline over to the six-foot wooden fence, which happened to have pointed spikes along the top.

We'd climb up onto the fence and jump down onto the trampoline.

Looking back, I'm not entirely sure how we all survived our childhoods!

Anyway, one Christmas Eve, we were doing exactly that.

I had my favourite denim skirt on, climbed up onto the fence, and jumped.

Except I never made it to the trampoline.

There I was, suspended in mid-air, experiencing what I can only describe as the world's most painful we**ie!

You see, somehow, when I jumped, I hadn't just caught my skirt on the fence.

I'd managed to hook my un**es as well!

So there I was, dangling from a six-foot fence by my skirt and underwear, unable to get myself down.

And the worst part?

Nobody could help me because they were all in absolute fits of laughter!

Looking back, I probably would've been laughing just as hard if it had happened to someone else.

But at that moment, I wanted the ground to swallow me whole.

Fast-forward all these years, and when I told my daughter the story, she laughed and laughed.

Of course, she couldn't wait to tell my husband, and before long, we were all having a good giggle.

And it got me thinking.

Something that once made me feel so embarrassed has become a memory that brings so much laughter and joy.

It's funny how time can change the way we look at things.

What once felt like the end of the world can become a story we tell around the dinner table.

I've learnt over the years that not everything needs to be taken so seriously.

Sometimes we make fools of ourselves. Sometimes things don't go to plan. Sometimes we're the reason everyone else is laughing.

And that's okay.

Life has enough serious moments without us holding on to every little embarrassment.

Learn to laugh at yourself, not because your feelings don't matter, but because one awkward moment doesn't have to define you.

And if there's one thing I learnt that Christmas Eve...

It's that some memories stick with you forever.

And apparently, so do your un**es when you jump off a wooden fence! 😂

Profusion Coaching

13/10/2026

“One of the most beautiful things about love is that it doesn't have to be extraordinary to be meaningful.

It's in the little moments, the laughter, the kindness, the familiar faces and the feeling of knowing you matter to someone.

Sometimes the simplest moments of love become the memories we treasure most.”

Profusion Coaching

Address

5 Cresent Street
Invercargill

Website

http://www.profusioncoaching.co.nz/

Alerts

Be the first to know and let us send you an email when Profusion Coaching posts news and promotions. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose, and you can unsubscribe at any time.