Advanced Counselling

19/10/2026

We're not here to carry someone else’s karma or try to shield them from lessons they need to learn. Even if our intentions are pure and kind, stepping in too much actually takes away their chance to gain true insight and growth.

It’s tempting to jump in and help, especially when we care deeply, but there’s a sacredness in each person’s journey that shouldn’t be interfered with.

We can love, offer guidance, and be there for others, but at the end of the day, it’s our own awareness and healing that really sets us free. No one else can walk that path for us, and the same goes for everyone around us.

Each person has their own Higher Self quietly nudging them along, so it’s not our job to make sure they’re listening or doing what we think is best.

Let’s show up with compassion for those we love, but let’s also respect the wisdom and timing of other people’s spiritual journeys. When we focus on our own growth, we not only release our burdens but also become a brighter light for others, simply by being ourselves.

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17/10/2026

One day I had to pick up a 10-year old from school with a bicycle, and when she saw me she went straight to the back of my bike and sat there, while her safety seat was in the front. ‘I want to sit in the back!’, she said.

I started to argue with her: ‘No, you can’t sit there, it’s not safe’. She looked at me in a rebellious way, and my heart sank a bit: was this going to be a loooong discussion?

Of course, I could push her into the front seat and force her to be there. But I knew we’d both have an awful afternoon then, plus that I’d lose her long term trust.

So I tried to connect with her instead, first of all by relaxing myself, instead of being in a fight or flight mode about it. I gave myself the trust that we would figure this out.

Simultaneously, I started to just reflect what I heard her say, to let her know that I was listening to her:

‘Ah…so you really want to sit on the back?’.
She: ‘YES!’.
Me: ‘I see…you really like the idea of sitting there today..’ .

Then I guessed her need: ‘is it just fun to sit there?’
She: ‘yes, I want something different!’
Me: ‘ah, you want something that’s fun and different!’
She: ‘yes!’

I thought for a moment. My own need was for safety. Her need was for something fun & different. How could we combine the two?

Then I noticed the scarf around my neck that was a little too warm.

‘Hey, would you like to wear a blindfold while sitting in the front?
She, lighting up: ‘YES!!’

And she sprinted to the front, I tied my scarf around her head and she had a blast on our ride back home. Never talked about the back seat again.

Now I’m not saying it always went this way: sometimes I would need more tools to find something that would work for both me and the kids. But it’s an example of how a principle called ‘connecting before correcting’ works.

If you’d like to learn more about how to connect with children, you can join my free webinar called: Connecting with Kids & teens even while things are tense. It’s for both parents and those who work with kids or teens.

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