Alex Bowles Kinesiology

01/08/2026

Watching my children grieve has been one of the most tender things I've ever witnessed as a mother.

Each of them has grieved in their own way. My son still walks to the spot where Baxter always waited for him each morning. My daughter misses their runs up the hill together. Some days we don't talk about him at all. Some days the memories arrive all at once. The hardest moments tend to come at night - in the quiet before sleep - when his absence is most felt. He was woven into the rhythm of their days in ways none of us fully noticed until he was gone.

One of the most important things I've talked about with my children through this is that we are allowed to feel more than one thing at the same time. We can have happy memories of Baxter and feel the loss deeply - both at once. We can feel relief that he is no longer suffering, and still miss him with our whole hearts. We can laugh at something he used to do and then cry a minute later. None of that is wrong. All of it is love.Giving children that permission - to hold the fullness of their grief without having to tidy it into one neat feeling - is one of the most freeing things we can offer them.

Here's what I've been doing at home:

Naming it without directing it. "I notice you seem sad today. You don't have to talk about it. I'm right here."

Using ESR - Emotional Stress Release. Sitting with them, holding those gentle forehead points, just breathing together. It doesn't need an explanation. It just helps.

Letting them lead. If they want to make a drawing of Baxter, we make it. If they want to look at photos, we look. If they want to be distracted, we let them be distracted.

Keeping the routine. Structure is a nervous system anchor for children in grief. Meals at the same time. School as normal where possible. Predictability is safety.

Grief is not something to fix in our children. It's something to witness. To sit beside. To honour.

I am not writing this for sympathy, but for keeping it real and sharing all the feels.

To all the parents out there holding space: You're doing a beautiful job, even on the days it doesn't feel like it 💛

Share this with a parent who needs to hear it today. Xx

31/07/2026

Nobody tells you that motherhood can make you a stranger to yourself.

Not because you stop existing. But because you pour so much outward - so much love, so much attention, so much energy - that the quiet thread back to who you are before all of this can get very, very thin.

I know this feeling. I've lived it. And I work with women every week who are living it too.

The return to self isn't dramatic. It's not a weekend away or a complete life overhaul (although sometimes those help). It's smaller than that. It's a few minutes of stillness in the morning before the house wakes up. It's putting your hand on your own heart and asking - genuinely asking - how are you doing? It's noticing what lights you up, even a little, and choosing that thing on purpose.

Kinesiology has been one of the most powerful tools I know for this return. Because it works at a level below the conscious mind. It finds where you've contracted, where you've shut down, where you've been holding on for so long you've forgotten you're holding. And it gently, gently helps you let go.

If you've lost the thread back to yourself - I want you to know it's still there. It's always still there.

And if you want support finding it, that's exactly what I'm here for.

DM me or book a one-on-one session through the link at shinenaturally.co.nz 💛

29/07/2026

I see a lot of babies in my clinic. Unsettled babies. Babies with feeding and latching challenges. Babies with colic and reflux, or a general sense of just not being quite comfortable in their body yet.

And so often, what they need isn't more intervention - it's integration. A chance for their little system to process and settle after everything it went through to arrive earthside.

Kinesiology for babies is the gentlest thing you can imagine. It's done either through mum (via surrogate testing) or directly with baby while they play, feed, or are held. There's no pressure, no force, no need for them to do or understand anything. They just get to be - while their nervous system receives the support it needs.

My beautiful client Zara shared this about bringing her babies:

"We managed to pinpoint potential issues and work on getting a balanced body back - even on babies. Love that it's all done through mum and bub just chills and plays. I have also done sessions with my 4 year old recently - rebalancing her system to help with sleep and regulation issues. Again it's all done either through me or the child if they're happy, while they're playing and discovering all of Alex's treasures in her room."

Kinesiology can support babies with:

🌿 Birth integration - processing the physical and energetic experience of being born

🌿 Feeding and latching difficulties - often connected to tension held in the jaw, neck, or cranial structures

🌿 Colic, reflux, and digestive discomfort

🌿 Allergies and sensitivities (as Zara discovered - even in the early months)

🌿 General unsettledness that nobody can quite explain

If you have a new baby who seems uncomfortable, or a toddler who's struggling to regulate - this work is so worth exploring.

Sessions in person at my Queenstown clinic or available online for families further afield.

Share this with a mama who needs to hear it today 💛 And DM me if you'd like to know more. I'd love to chat.

29/07/2026

"I release all negativity and stress, embracing peace and calm."

"My energy is grounded and centered, ready for rest and renewal."

"I trust that everything is working in my favor, even as I sleep."

Repeating these affirmations can help you unwind and align your energy for a restful night ahead.

I often combine these with colour remedies, such as a Chakra, Ray of Light sprays or essentialoils.

Feels calming and delicious to finish my day.

DM me for info on those remedies and feel free to share your favourite affirmations and rituals for the end of the day below 🌃 👇

Much love, Alex 💫

27/07/2026

I am so looking forward to this 🫶

Join us to celebrate World Breastfeeding Week! 🤱 🤰💞

📍 Frankton Library
📅 4th August, 10am – 12:30pm

10:15am – Mums'n Bubs Yoga
with Ili from Mamas Village
Join Ili for a "slow flow" yoga session for mums and bubs from 6 weeks onwards.
For more info and to book: https://mamasvillage.setmore.com/classes/169dea77-ff9b-4dc6-b31b-8e8fcb1fd7e5

11am – Wellbeing Tips for Mums
with Alex from Alex Bowles Kinesiology
Join us for some simple techniques to feel more energised, grounded and connected to your baby and yourself.
For sign up and more info, email [email protected]

11:45am – Baby Massage
with Emma from Little Sprouts Baby Massage
Join us for a short introduction to baby massage, where Emma will introduce the principles of baby massage and the IAIM method, as well as show some gentle movements with our babies.
For sign up and more info, email [email protected]

All sessions are 30 minutes, with some short breaks in between to chat with the practitioners before or afterwards.

Join us for one session or stay for all!

SIGN UP DIRECTLY WITH CONTACTS ABOVE SO YOU DON'T MISS OUT — booking and waitlist are managed directly with each practitioner, but you're welcome to pop in on the day to fill any available spaces.

Come for morning tea, meet fellow mums, chat with our peer supporters, or connect with one of our wonderful lactation consultants. For mums (and mums-to-be), dads, nannas and the whānau!

We'll also have a display up with posters showing our peer supporters work and professions - in the Queenstown community - when they are not peer supporting ;) Come see!

Comment with a 🍪 if you're planning to attend, so we can cater for numbers!

Your Mums4Mums Peer Supporters 💞

27/07/2026

Nobody prepares you for who you become after birth.

Not just the sleeplessness. Not just the physical recovery. But the deeper thing - the quiet disorientation of looking in the mirror and not quite recognising the person looking back.

You've grown a human. Brought them earthside. Your body has done something extraordinary. And yet so much of what happens after that - physically, emotionally, hormonally - gets very little attention.

Birth changes you. Sometimes gently. Sometimes in ways that take time to understand and integrate. And for some mamas, the birth itself carries weight that lingers... in the body, in the nervous system, in the way you feel when you think back to that day.

This is where kinesiology can be such a gentle and profound support.

In a session, we can work with:

✨️ Physical recovery: helping the body process and integrate the experience of birth, whether that was straightforward or complex

✨️ Birth trauma: held in the nervous system, in the muscles, in the emotional body - released gently, without having to relive or retell the story

✨️ Hormonal & emotional rebalancing: supporting the enormous shift your body is navigating in those early weeks and months

✨️ Reconnecting to yourself: finding the thread back to who you are, even as you discover who you're becoming as a mama

✨️ Deepening your connection with your baby, because when your own system is more settled, that bond can open and flow more easily

One of my beautiful clients, Zara, shared this about her experience:

"Her sessions have been fantastic for me too, rebalancing my system, my hormones and emotions. It has been a huge help in being able to tackle life as a mum of 2 littlies. I love how the whole body is checked and rebalanced — which I feel is something that is missed with modern medicine."

If you're a new mama, or you know one who is quietly struggling, please share this with her.

Sessions available in person in Queenstown or online. Come as you are - I see you mumma!

DM to connect or book through shinenaturally.co.nz 🫶

📸 One of all time favourites - my daughter meeting her little brother