03/10/2026
A helpful tool i learned several years ago is the behavior i call "detachment" basically learning to identify who owns that. If another person has an addiction, a problem, a feeling of being a victim or has a self-defeating behavior - that is their property not ours. If someone chooses to be a martyr, full of negativity, controlling or manipulative, being boastful (and acting as if he is not), that is their issue, not ours. If someone is in denial of something or cant think clearly on particular issue, that confusion belongs to him or her.
People's lies, tricks, manipulations, abusive behaviors, inappropriate behaviors, cheating behaviors and even tacky behaviors belongs to them too...not mine... People's hopes and dreams are their property...their guilt belongs to them too...their happiness or misery is also theirs...so are their beliefs and messages (whatever it is)... I also painfully learned that if someone has a limited ability to love and care, that is his or her property, not mine. If someone has no approval or nurturing to give away, that is that person's problem... If someone dont like themselves, well, that is their choice. Other people's choices are their property, not ours.
Our property is our behavior...problems...feelings...happiness...misery...choices...and messages (whether positive or negative). My ability to love, care and nurture, my thoughts, my denial, my hopes and dreams for myself.... Whether we allow ourselves to be controlled, manipulated, cheated or mistreated is our business.
That is why today, i try to own what is mine. If something is not mine, i dont take it... I let other people have their property and learn to own and take good care of whats mine too.
Happy Saturday afternoon everyone! 😊🙏