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RJ Sensei RJ is a Counseling Psychologist specializing in teaching people around him to become better versions of themselves while having more fun.

For Telepsychology-related concerns, please send your queries to my NowServing app or email us: [email protected] I'm RJ, a professor, a mental health professional, gamer, mentor and of course, your Lord Siomai of house Dimsum. :3

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Ok so we’ve been hearing statements from one of our Senators, na ang mga kabataan daw ngayon ay "weak" because of the ri...
12/02/2026

Ok so we’ve been hearing statements from one of our Senators, na ang mga kabataan daw ngayon ay "weak" because of the rising cases of mental health issues. But let’s set the record straight: Mental health issues aren't new; the youth are just the first generation brave enough to talk about it.

​The truth is, many Gen X-ers and Boomers grew up in a culture where "pagtitiis" or "hayaan na lang" was the only option. But suppressing your emotions doesn't make you strong; it just makes you a carrier of untreated trauma you pass on to the next helpess kid around you.

​When you tell a child, "Nung panahon namin, mas mahirap ang buhay pero kinaya namin," you aren't motivating them, you are invalidating them.

This culture of invalidation has created toxic Filipino family dynamics that have persisted for decades:
• ​The inability of elders to apologize when they’re wrong. (Sapul matatandang akala nila sila lagi tama dito)
• ​Treating children as "retirement plans" or emotional punching bags. (Yep.)
• ​Using "disiplina" as a cover-up for physical, emotional and verbal abuse.

​The high prevalence of mental health struggles today isn't proof that the youth are "weak." It’s actually a mirror reflecting the environment they were raised in. Meaning its a sign na we fcked up as parents and elders. Kapalpakan natin din yun. High rates of anxiety and depression among the youth often mean we are failing as parents and as a society.

We shouldn't be proud that we "survived" a toxic environment; we should be worried that we are passing that same toxicity down.

The goal of every generation should be to make life better for the next, not to force them to suffer just because we did.

Strength is not the absence of struggle. It is the courage to admit when the system is broken and the cycle needs to stop. Hindi po "kahinaan" ang pag-amin na kailangan ng tulong. Ang tunay na lakas at tapang ay yung mga handang harapin ang kanilang trauma, ayusin ito at pagusapan para hindi na ito maipasa sa susunod na henerasyon.

Kaya kids, remember, bumoto kayo ng tama sa susunod ng eleksyon nang hindi tayo iniinvalidate ng mga artistang naging politiko.



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24/12/2025

Hindi lahat ng tao Merry this Christmas. Nakikita ko kayo, kalmahan mo lang. Sana mahanap mo yung kapayapaan na hinahanap mo kahit mabigat ang dala. :)

08/12/2025

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Rest in peace ladies and gentlemen... lalo na sa Jedi Master kong si Father Bu. I miss you.
02/11/2025

Rest in peace ladies and gentlemen... lalo na sa Jedi Master kong si Father Bu. I miss you.

🕯️ In Memoriam | All Souls’ Day

Today, we remember with deep gratitude some of the pillars of Philippine Psychology — our dear mentors and colleagues who have passed on:

Dr. Sinforoso Padilla, Dr. Alfredo Lagmay, Dr. Estefania Aldaba-Lim, Dr. Natividad Munarriz, Fr. Jaime Bulatao, SJ, Dr. Virgilio Enriquez, Dr. Natividad Dayan, and Dr. Noemi Catalan.

Each of them also served as President of the Psychological Association of the Philippines (PAP) and helped shape the discipline and community we continue to build today.

May their wisdom remind us to teach with integrity, practice with compassion, and serve with purpose — so that the legacy they began continues to live through us.

Requiescant in pace. 🕊️


If you have positive and inspiring stories about them, please do share it in the comment section!

📸 Photo collage shared with permission from former PAP President, Dr. Jay Saplala.

Dahil Sunday, nagbasa basa tayo ng kunti about how problematic our tendencies as parents to compare our child to others....
26/10/2025

Dahil Sunday, nagbasa basa tayo ng kunti about how problematic our tendencies as parents to compare our child to others. Here's something to think about. If you need help with TL;DR, here it is:

What the Study Found:
- When parents compare their child to other kids; like saying “Why can’t you be more like them?” it can hurt their child’s self-esteem.
- Teens who hear this often start comparing themselves to others, too, especially those who seem more successful or popular.
- This kind of comparison makes them feel “not good enough.”
- BUT, if a teen is naturally optimistic (they believe things will get better), they’re less affected by these comparisons.

What to do now?
- Avoid comparing your child to others. Instead, focus on their strengths and progress.
- Help your child develop a positive mindset. Encourage them to see challenges as chances to grow.
- Praise effort, not just results. This builds confidence and resilience.

Ref
Zhang, Y., & Liu, Y. (2025). Parents’ social comparisons and adolescent self-esteem: The mediating effect of upward social comparison and the moderating influence of optimism. Frontiers in Psychology, 16, Article 1473318. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2025.1473318
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Parents’ social comparison is a common phenomenon that occurs in China. It refers to the behavior of parents imagining other people’s children as an excellen...

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