Psychologist Rabiya Sajid

Psychologist Rabiya Sajid Psychologist | Mental Health practitioner | Drug issues | Career Counseling

Anxious attachment is not “being too much.” It is what happens when your nervous system learns that love is inconsistent...
13/02/2026

Anxious attachment is not “being too much.” It is what happens when your nervous system learns that love is inconsistent. When closeness feels uncertain, the body goes into alert mode, scanning for tone changes, delayed replies, emotional shifts. Silence feels loud. Distance feels dangerous. This pattern often develops in environments where care was sometimes available and sometimes not, creating a deep fear of abandonment in adulthood. Research in attachment theory (Bowlby; Ainsworth; Hazan & Shaver) shows that these reactions are adaptive survival strategies, not personality flaws. The work is not to suppress needs, but to build internal safety so connection no longer feels like something that can disappear at any moment.

Anxious attachment
Fear of abandonment
Emotional hypervigilance
Reassurance seeking
Attachment theory
Internal working model
Emotional regulation
Relationship anxiety
Inconsistent caregiving
Adult attachment patterns





🧠 Attachment: Why We Love the Way We DoEver notice why some people feel magnetically close, while others make you feel a...
08/02/2026

🧠 Attachment: Why We Love the Way We Do

Ever notice why some people feel magnetically close, while others make you feel anxious, distant, or even “off”?

It’s not random. It’s your attachment system — the emotional safety blueprint your brain built in childhood.

John Bowlby (1969) said humans are wired to form emotional bonds.

Mary Ainsworth (1978) showed early caregiver responses predict whether we feel secure or insecure in relationships.

Hazan & Shaver (1987) confirmed childhood patterns carry into adult romantic relationships.

Mikulincer & Shaver (2007) proved attachment isn’t fixed — it can shift toward security through safe relationships and awareness.



Do you feel overwhelmed by emotions or numb during arguments?

This International Men’s Day, let’s talk about what men never say out loud.♤ In Pakistani culture, men are expected to a...
19/11/2025

This International Men’s Day, let’s talk about what men never say out loud.

♤ In Pakistani culture, men are expected to always remain emotionally strong, creating silent internal pressure.
♤ Many men carry the full financial responsibility of the household, leading to stress and burnout.
♤ The belief “Mard ko dard nahi hota” stops men from seeking mental health support.
♤ Boys are raised hearing “Larkay rote nahi,” which suppresses emotional expression from childhood.
♤ Men are expected to sacrifice their own needs for the family, often ignoring their own wellbeing.
♤ There are very few safe emotional spaces where men can openly share their struggles without judgment.
♤ A large number of Pakistani men work in high-risk jobs, yet their challenges often go unnoticed.
♤ Society expects men to maintain a “tough” image, discouraging vulnerability or softer career choices.
♤ Men often support extended families, creating additional financial and emotional pressure.
♤ The daily struggles of men—long hours, stress, and emotional fatigue—frequently go unacknowledged and unappreciated.

















Signs Your Inner Child Is Unhealed◇ You over-apologize, even when you’ve done nothing wrong.◇ You fear being abandoned o...
13/11/2025

Signs Your Inner Child Is Unhealed

◇ You over-apologize, even when you’ve done nothing wrong.
◇ You fear being abandoned or replaced.
◇ You struggle to trust people fully.
◇ You feel responsible for everyone’s emotions.
◇ You seek validation to feel “enough.”
◇ You avoid conflict at all costs.
◇ You crave love but push it away when it gets close.
◇ You feel guilty when you rest or prioritize yourself.
◇ You overthink how others perceive you.
◇ You suppress emotions because expressing them once caused pain.

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ImposterSyndrome
25/10/2025


ImposterSyndrome

🌙 Day 1 – Who Am I?The beginning of coming home to yourself.Sometimes I wonder…who am I when I stop performing?When I’m ...
18/10/2025

🌙 Day 1 – Who Am I?

The beginning of coming home to yourself.

Sometimes I wonder…
who am I when I stop performing?
When I’m not the friend who listens,
the professional who achieves,
the son/daughter/wife/father/mother/husband who shows up with a smile.

When the noise fades and the masks rest —
what’s left underneath?

Maybe it’s just me.... quiet, unsure, soft, and real.
The one I keep meeting again and again after every ending.

This series isn’t about finding a new version of yourself.
It’s about remembering the one that’s always been there
the one who’s been whispering beneath all the “shoulds.”

So today, pause.
Take a slow breath.
Ask yourself softly,
“Who am I when I’m not trying to be anyone?”

You don’t have to answer | just listen. 🌿

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✨ In the comments, tell me — who are you when no one’s watching?

In times of catastrophe, mental health support is not a luxury — it’s a lifeline. Let’s ensure that care, compassion, an...
09/10/2025

In times of catastrophe, mental health support is not a luxury — it’s a lifeline. Let’s ensure that care, compassion, and counseling reach every heart that needs healing, no matter where they are. 🌍

Together, we can create a world where emotional well-being stands strong even in the face of disaster. 💫

What you perceive isn’t always the truth.Our brain filters reality through biases, fears, and past experiences. That’s w...
03/10/2025

What you perceive isn’t always the truth.

Our brain filters reality through biases, fears, and past experiences.

That’s why we often feel judged, unsuccessful, or stuck, when in fact, reality is far less harsh.

The shift begins when you question your perception:
👉 Is this fact or just a thought?
👉 Am I seeing the full picture?

🔑 Remember: Perception shapes behavior, but reality shapes growth.

[Perception, Reality, Bias, Mindset, Self-awareness, Growth, Workplace Psychology]

Beliefs are the lens that shape how we think, feel, and act. A positive belief system fuels growth, while a limiting...
02/10/2025

Beliefs are the lens that shape how we think, feel, and act.

A positive belief system fuels growth, while a limiting one holds us back.

The best part?

Beliefs aren’t permanent; you can reframe them, rewire them, and rewrite your story.

👉Change your beliefs → Change your actions → Change your life.

[belief system, mindset, behavior, growth, resilience, confidence, self-doubt, procrastination]

Motivation feels good, but it fades. Discipline feels tough, but it lasts. If you’ve been waiting for motivation to stri...
01/10/2025

Motivation feels good, but it fades.

Discipline feels tough, but it lasts.

If you’ve been waiting for motivation to strike.

Here’s the truth: consistency beats mood every time.

Build habits, not hype.

[motivation, discipline, habits, consistency, success, mindset, growth, productivity

Resilience isn’t built overnight; it’s grown in the tiny things you do every day.Think of it like watering a plant: the ...
26/09/2025

Resilience isn’t built overnight; it’s grown in the tiny things you do every day.

Think of it like watering a plant: the small drops matter more than the rare floods.

Here are 5 daily habits that can help you bounce back stronger at work and in life:
✨ Protect your boundaries
✨ Check in with your emotions
✨ Pause before reacting
✨ Stay connected with positive people
✨ Recharge with rest, not just hustle

Because resilience isn’t about never falling, it’s about learning how to rise again, each time, a little wiser.

[resilience habits, daily practices, workplace counseling, burnout prevention, mental strength]

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